If I was better at sex / more good looking / had a bigger dick,

what have you done to communicate this to her?

>>17946078

Some people are just boring in bed and like boring sex. You can try to talk to her about tying new things and maybe she'll get curious.

>>17946217
We had major fights on two occasions because I told her this. It makes her feel undisirable. Like that she isn't enough.
>>17946238
I have talked and tried stuff, I have bought sextoys and we have watched porn together. Nothing sparks her mood or makes her want to try anything.
She can only come from oral or vibrator. She used to be on the pill but it made her depressed, so now I wear a condom instead, which makes me not feel much. She doesnt like to give me oral after the condom has been on, she says it makes my dick taste like plastic, so I can only finish in the condom.
I like bdsm but she feels like it's degrading to women to do such things.
She says it's not my fault, that I'm just "generation porn" and therefore have unreasonable expectations.

>>17946289
maybe she has low libido, go seek a sexual therapist if you're concerned.
there's a lot of women who are even frigid.

It sounds like she doesn't want to do anything, or atleast add her part in the sex.

>>17946289
She sounds like a feminist. She doesn't try to bend for you at all.

>>17946289
First of all OP, the pill fucking sucks. It made me depressed and I had infections for a year until i went off it. Headaches and nausea were also frequent. Asking your gf to be on hormonal birth control is like asking her to be miserable for the sake of sex.

Second, watching porn with your lover is like watching each other take a shit in the toilet. Not saying people don't do it, but its like a whole 'other level of personal. My guy and I both like porn but we'd never watch it together, its for self discovery and alone time.

I agree with you that condoms freakin suck. Thats why my bf and I use the SENPAI and pullout method. I usually finish him after he's pulled out using my mouth. Which means I taste vagina but thats kind of hot anyways. Why don't you ask your chick about the pull out/SENPAI method? A lot of people chart their cycles for SENPAI and there are at least two weeks between each cycle unless she's irregular that you can cum inside her guaranteed without getting her pregnant. If not then, its reasonable to ask her to get over the condom taste because its really not as unpleasurable as I imagine blue balls are and you should let her know that.

If she's not willing to try BDSM, its either because she has tried it and didn't like it, or is afraid to try it. If she's afraid to try it, then its either because she doesn't trust you or its a personal issue. You should explain there's nothing wrong with trying new things and a lot of women don't feel degraded by it, but actually empowered and it creates a deeper bond of trust. I recommend taking her to a BDSM club(where do you guys live by the way) so she can get exposed to it. I go to these clubs and a lot of the "subs" are actually some of the strongest and most respected women I have ever known. She needs to let go of her misconceptions and I think seeing it first hand could help. As of now she just sounds judgmental or misinformed.

>>17946657
I forgot 4chan filters F. A. M.

It stands for Fertility Awareness Method. Its all the rage in England.

>>17946078
If you dislike the condom, look up the temperature method and the billings method. With both methods combined it is safer even than the condom, but it is a form of NFP so freed dick.

>>17946660
>>17946657
I got a huge kick out of reading about the SENPAI method of birth control.
>fill me up, senpai!
>no, n-not there, baka

>>17946807
Admit I laughed too after re-reading.

>>17946781
Forgot: Those two methods combined have almost the same perl index as the pill. And MUCH better than the condom.

One more thing I would advise is to ditch the vibrator a few days before you come over. I rarely use mine because it desensitizes the clit. I only use it when I want to get off quick so I can focus on my work.