How do I tell my gf I don't like constant contact? She

>>17939234
just don't get mad when she leaves u for some guy who responds every minute

Tell her to take a month vacation from her phone and you will do the same.

>>17939234

It's perfectly reasonable not to be available at all times. Tell her you are busy and nee space, but will answer phone and respond to messages when you have the time. If she doesn't understand this, she's simply childish and you'll just have to stay firm.

>>17939239
This is pretty much the route I have taken and it seems to be working for the time being. I apologized for being a dick last night since I did answer the phone to tell her I couldn't talk (which I guess is better than ignoring it, but I can see why she'd be upset to have me "bring her up" then "let her down").

>>17939237
I've been toying with bringing that up too. She'd probably be good about it. She's way more serious about "sticking to her guns" than I am.

>>17939236
Ha, we're not teenagers though. We're both in our late 20s, so I think we've got a lot more substance than that. I know for a fact she does, actually. She almost left me when she caught me looking at porn, then came right back because she realized that it was "ridiculous" to expect a man to not look at porn from time to time. We also had a fight because I made a comment her friend was good looking (she said it too), and then I proceeded to bring the friend up enough times in casual conversation it made her uncomfortable. We fought for a while over it, but she came around once she realized that I was still defending myself and staying by her side. The friend is a bitch to her anyway, and the only reason she kept coming up in conversation was because my gf would keep griping about her and I would feel it my place to comment or make a jab at the friend's expense. I've since stopped, because it made her uncomfortable to hear my talking about her friends -- even if they are bitches.

Are there times you call or text her first?

Balance it out, you initiate a call or text sometimes. But it is reasonable to be busy at times, maybe you should have a serious talk about it.

>>17939248
Communication styles are important in a relationship, anon. It's fine if you and her aren't on exactly the same page, but you also need to recognize that she's reaching out to you because she wants to feel that connection to you: she's showing that she's thinking of you, and wants to feel that reciprocated. If you just brush off her needs as immature, she WILL eventually leave you. Maybe not over this in particular, but it will be part of the problem.

>>17939234
If you plan on being with her for a long time, work out a compromise. Maybe text message in the morning. And vid calls during lunch or a break.

>>17939234

by telling her you dont like constant contact. explain you have a life outside of your phone (that way you're not saying outside of her) and that shes welcome to text you as much as she wants but to not expect responses unless you're ready to respond.