how do i get over my unereasonable desire for independence and

>>17938876
Every one hits sad ruts, they can last months. You can have doubts and even have those things combined, but you're in crunch time. Do you love your husband? Do you want to be with him? ask those questions to yourself and they should be yes, otherwise you shouldn't have made him your husband and have only yourself to blame for that.

Don't you want to bring a life into existence that came from you? if you don't you should probably take some more time to appreciate the good parts of how great humanity is. At the worst we're pretty much second only to dogs in terms of how great we can be, humans can be pretty great.

You're starting a family, you have a much more active and vital role in how everything sails than you realize, just calm down and don't do stupid shit, it's a lot easier than you'd think.

you can still be a mom whilst following your dreams. hire a baby sitter. have a relative over. let you baby visit her grandparents so they can cover for you while you are working. remember, you only have to work for 8 hrs a day. or better yet get a baby when you're 30+. at least you have had a stable income by then or a business. just plan it out. don't get a baby too fast. it's not a thing you have to have early. enjoy yourselves while you are young.

>>17938885
i love him very much and i really want to have a family with him.
i just wsnt it all. if i do something, i want to do it right, no half assed stuff. that's why i don't want to try to keep doing a GOOD job at work and be a good mom too.
i know k can have both, but not at the same time. i'm probably just a bit jittery about all the changes that are coming at me.

>>17938903
the organizastion would not be a problem at all. that's easy. but i don't want to let others raise my kid. if i have a kid, i will look after it and be there for it. as i said above, no half assed stuff on my watch.

i'm already almost 30 and we both have a good income. so that's not a problem. i also don't think i missed out on anything. i'm ready to settle by any standart. i guess i just fear to end up like my mom. no own opinion and interests. no passion and no goals. basically just "existing" to attend to others needs and wants. i am disgusted by that.

Why is your husband making you explain every purchase? Why can't you both just go part time (say, 3 days a week) and both be there for the baby?

I understand your fears, because I have them too, but why are you assuming it only has to be you who has to make any sacrifice? What about your husband? Who earns more anyway?

>>17938876
lmao you fell for feminist lies

the most satisfied people in the world are mothers

>>17938977
The thing about that study is that the housewives of the western world CHOSE that and are the ones who will be satisfied by that lifestyle. It's not to say that every woman would find that life fulfilling. Many would feel stifled and unfulfilled, if the housework and childrearing was their life.

Work isn't very fun for most people, not just women.