Can you like, just hire an escort without sex? I'm 21 and

>intimacy
>with a prostitute
You're kidding, right? A hooker is not going to make you feel loved and wanted.

>>17924669

thats where you'd be wrong.

one of my clients is an escort. she referred a 'john' of hers. oddly enough the man is extremely attractive. hes a bit on the thick side but in such a way that he scores skinny hot girls.

despite this he still sees our escort client regularly and according to her shes liek most of the johns: they just want to feel wanted for a little while.

as opposed to feeling like they have to put on an act and work hard at seducing women.

>>17924663

Yes, you can engage an escort for non-sexual purposes. Believe it or not, there's a reason they're called "escorts."

It won't be real, but pay enough and you'll get a serviceable facsimile for an hour.

>>17924675
That guy probably feels that way because he's a regular and has built up a relationship of sorts with this girl. Unless OP goes and sees a hooker regularly, he's not going to achieve anything.

>>17924663
>Can you like, just hire an escort without sex
You can do this yes. Don't be surprised if you start feeling horny and have sex.

>How would i go about soliciting someone for these services.

>How would i go about soliciting someone for these services?
Im not in your country (Ausfag here), but Google some professional escort sites (sites which conglomerate a large number of escorts)which have verified photos. Don't go for cheap prostitutes because you will not get the 'intimacy' you are looking for. Be open with what you want from the escort when you contact her. and most importantly: there is no need to be embarrassed or shy. Chances are very high that the escort has experienced similar clients in the past

>>17924684

again, you'd be wrong. like she says, most men do it for some kind of intimacy. she almost always has sex of course, but a lot of it is just a guy getting to jsut be himself in front of a girl instead of the facade they put up to date. they often talk about their life and she comforts them.

a street hooker might be more what you're thinking about, someone looking to just get off and making a spur of the moment choice.

but for anyone investing in an actual escort just one visit can be very cathartic. its like the reverse of what dating is for men: a woman doing everything she can to impress and please you. its very freeing. yes its an illusion, but not much different than porn or video games or movies in that sense.

>>17924706
>>17924684

hell its not really any different than getting a therapist. you pay someone to act like they care, to listen.

>>17924669
>>17924682
Not being "real" is better than not happening, no?

>>17924706
I've never experienced a relationship nor a woman being interested in me. Id assume the feeling, even fake, of being wanted would feel kind of nice. You have a point here.

>>17924742

we like fake thigns all the time. msot people dont realize how much of their relationsihps are fake. still feels nice.

sucks when you examine it, but even imaginary worlds can serve a positive purpose. im not necessarily saying you SHOULD get an escort. its a personal decision.

i wish you luck with no matter what direction you go.

>>17924663

yes

tell them you want the "girlfriend" experience and just want to talk

or better go see a therapist

>>17924756
I plan on either escort or scoring a relationship where I'm not the sexually active partner. That would hopefully get me some better luck in getting a relationship. I mean, id like a loving Monagamous relationship but I'm an extremely unattractive guy from most viewpoints, have an almost nonexistent libido, and a sterile sperg. I'm not on anyones hot list so I'm going to just kind of accept my status.

Id just want to experience what being held is like, honestly. I'm sounding edgy/pathetic as fuck but I'm the last of all my friends and family to experience intimacy and i think id like it.

>>17924742
I am the same as you. Never had a gf, or had girls 'like' me. In my experience escorts can provide a very adequate fascimile of caring and affection (at least what I imagine what it would be like to have someone display those qualities towards you).
Why not at least try it anon? What's to lose? Just don't go cheap, and insure her pictures are of her. I get outcalls, which means they come to you. I will rent a nice quiet hotel room and then spend a couple of hours doing stuff

>>17924786

just look into asexual dating and extremely fat ugly women.

>>17924777
I don't think a therapist is going to give me a smile, hug me, and tell me things will be OK, let alone cuddle me.

>>17924789
I don't mind people being ugly but being fat is repulsive and fat people should be disgusted by themselves.

>>17924799
then date this epilectic girl i know. she jsut wants a boyfriend to watch anime with. shes a little flat, but not fat, could probably even look good if she figured out make up.

shes an admitted aspie, but a nice enough girl and super fucking talented. wrote a book, bought a 3d printer, created an app that designs 3d toys for it to print, etc.

>>17924806
I'm not talented, nor intelligent. This is probably the numero uno reason for my failure with women. I have no hobbies outside of gardening/occasionally baking and i pass the time by working 40-65 hour weeks. I'm a wholly uninteresting creature who sucks at everything he tries and have been ridiculed for years because of this fact.

Less ranting though.

Id date her if i knew her irl and she was interested. I doubt she'd take an interest in me though.

>>17924822

shes literally never dated a guy because she can't leave the house without having seizures. if you lived in los angeles id set you up on a date to go to her place and watch some chinese cartoons.

out of all the flaws you mentioned, the biggest one is one you didn't remember: being too hard on yourself.

its not attractive, and its not objective. anyone who believes they have no shred of decency in them is clearly working through personal self image issues, not seeing themselves for what htey really are.

maybe focus on that.

>>17924825
>>17924825
I know what I've been ever since i was a child. I've always been a loser and experiences have always cemented this entirely valid observation. I'm just good at not sounding like an idiot.

My family, mostly the male figures which id like to be like heavily stress self sufficiency, responsibility, and strive to be better.

Again, less ranting please. Its unfortunate that your friend is homebound. I wish her the best. She seems like a swell person that'll eventually find a stable boyfriend willing to put the effort in to being with her.

Ok does like $175/hr seem reasonable for an escort

>>17924843
Halp. Does anyone have a guide for this type of thing? Nobody i know has used or will admit to using an escort so i can't ask anyone really irl.

Id like for one to go on a date with me and head back to the hotel and talk/bond/cuddle there. Are there any terms i should look for to assist me in this?

>>17924883
Where do you live OP?

>>17924883
You can also try Craigslist. Put it in platonic section and say you would like cuddling. No $$ needed

>>17925442
All I'll say is deep south.

And CL? Do you want me to die?