How do I get over that feeling that I could've had someone

>>17902198
Why can't you have your ideal?

Unless they died, there are no circumstances that block you from being with a person you truly love.
I went through all sorts of shit to be with the person I love and I'm happy I did. If you didn't make it, probably you weren't made for each other.

>>17902198
Stop comparing them with your ideal; how?

Kill her off in your mind. Stop looking at her social media. Stop voluntarily interacting with things that remind you of her. Stop contact with her if any.

Start doing these, and you should forget about her in due time. Plenty of amazing people out there in this vast world anon, don't hold yourself down to the single one you can't get.

>>17902205

She's with my best friend now. It's fucking torture. We have talked about being together and running away before, but it would ruin him. I have to just leave basically and I know it, it's for the best.

>>17902198
You just force yourself to do it. Even that doesn't really work cause deep down you know.

>>17902207
Then cut ties with both of them and move on with your life.

If she doesn't want to break up with him and be with you, she's not all that into you.

>>17902207
She is playing the both of you, imbecile. Obviously if said girl held feelings as strong to make her run away with you, regardless of anything else, she would go ahead and end things with her current significant other without so much as a second thought. Cease anything you have with her unless you want to end up even more troubled.

>>17902214
>>17902213

It was her idea, and I said no. She obviously had some inkling that we both thought about it and she brought it up to me, but I can't do that to my friend. The circumstances explained would have this make more sense as to why this happened, but it's not worth saying. I have to be happy knowing they're happy and no matter what as long as I'm here I'm a wedge in that.

Shit sucks, but it is what it is. I guess I know the solution, which is to leave. This whole situation has haunted both her and I for literally years.

>>17902223
I agree with that other anon. She's pulling you jackasses around for fun.
Drop the ball now, let go, move on. Of course you won't though, and it'll only get worse.

>>17902198
The ideal is just a fictitious entity that feels like an ideal. You might realize this later on as I have. I never quite grasped this until I started doing LSD.

Basically, you have to realize that there's not really anything special about her, you just ran into someone you clicked well with and will click well with people to come if you let it happen.