The other day I saw my boyfriend's browsing history of like

>>17901151

>3 days of solid porn
>healthy

porn itself isn't healthy at all. its a myth. porn doesn't exist in a natural and healthy world, we just have sex, and porn is not quite the same, and netiher is the sex culture we have now.

all that being siad, dont worry. hes with you for a reason. its not cheating if his porn itnerests are different from you. if anything id be concerned if his porn interests WAS girls like you, cuz it shows you're not special to him, he'd bang any girl like you

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>>17901167
This niggers right.

>>17901151
Masturbating is natural; porn is not. Also, being a housewife with a guy who you suspects is interested in other types of girls as well is a dangerous way to be; if you're financially beholden, he can cheat on you more easily.

Thanks ^
I feel more at peace now

>>17901151
Very normal feelings. Also very incorrect.

My girlfriend and I have an open relationship, so we have experience with this sort of thing. How do I say this... he will always be attracted to women that are different than you. Different gives men boners. There was a documentary about hookers that I watched, and this hooker was saying that men want ANYTHING different than their wives, it doesn't matter if they're ugly or fat, as long as it's different. I don't think she's completely correct, (everyone has standards) but there's something there.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years now, and we're happier than ever. She knows that my desire to fuck other people has nothing to do with my commitment to her, or even my attraction to her. She eats right and exercises, but honestly I find her sexuality so irresistible that no woman could quench my desire for her. And each time we hook up with someone different, we get a rush of new relationship energy and we fuck like animals.

Try talking to him about it. Think of a single topic and talk it out. Don't go on a rant, but say exactly what you posted above and just see what he says.

Not everyone is like us, but I think we have something in common here. You're putting other women on a pedestal that even he knows is ridiculous. He's with YOU for a reason, and it's not convenience.

I know this is a lot to unpack, so I recommend that you guys see a relationship counselor. We went to one and it was fucking awesome. 10/10, highly recommended.

>>17901167
>>17901172
Oh god, spare us the drivel. I bet the next thing you're going to say is that humans evolved to be monogamous? Or that monogamy is the only one true healthy path?
Or maybe it's just that YOU are monogamous, you're good at it, and you think everyone should be the same. Sorry cupcake, but that's not how the world works.

I watch some pretty weird ass porn but porn =\= what someone wants in real life.

In real life I'm a normie and I wouldn't even want to do anal because i don't want shit on my dick. Now in porn world, I will fap to a dragon raping a otter woman and eating her whole.

I don't want to be a dragon that rapes sentient otters and eats them.

I can find you this exact porn Im speaking of, it even has a shitty alternate ending.

>>17901207

>i bet the next thing you're going to say is that humans evolved to be monogamous

what? whered you get that idea?

porn is literally not natural. it does not naturally exist. much less the ability to watch it for 3 days straight.

im on the opposite end of whatever spectrum you assume anon, ive been single for four years cuz i just like to have sex. at best ill have a fling as long as my partner is open to an open relationship, but i dont really believe im built for long term dating in general.

literally in my post i said NOT to worry about him watching different kinds of porn.

just becuase something isn't healthy also doesn't mean you should never do it. junk food isn't healthy. but i eat that all the god damn time, and i look at porn almost daily.

just because i can admit that porn ISNT natural or healthy doesn't mean I think you shouldn't do it.

sorry cupcake, but you're REALLY fucking retarded to read the first sentence and then nothing else.

i can see why you'd make those assumptions about the other anon, but jesus.

Porn is just fantasizing, and it doesn't make sense to fantisize about something you can have irl right? If he wants to fuck you, he'll simply walk to you and fuck you.

Howerver, some times we just want to have a quickie and are too tired for sex, or don't want to bother our partners for some reason, or simply want to enjoy some "me" time. You should try it too if you don't. As long as he doesn't stop seeking you and fulfilling your sexual needs, I don't se why bother

Also, what this guy said:
>>17901200
I also have a relationship where we eventually chase and fuck other girla just for fun. I won't deny each and every other pussy I fucked wasn't memorable for some reason, good or bad, and at least one I'll miss if she never haves sex with us again. But, I'd never change my gf for any of the other girls, because what we have make her special to me. We still fuck very well and that's after 8 years of relationship. Heck I'm almost 30 and I came twice today in like 40 minutes, and that were just me and her.

So nope, no matter how many girls we chase toghether, or how weird the porn I watch gets (I even fap to traps from time to time but I'd never touch a dick irl), I'd never trade her for any of those other options.

>>17901223
Well spoken, and you're right enough. I mean, vaccines and surgery isn't natural either, but that's a different conversation. I'm not entirely on board with "porn is unhealthy", but it's no doubt that people use porn in an unhealthy way and develop unhealthy ideas because of it.
I appreciate your rationality.

>>17901151
>there will always be younger, prettier, less-experienced girls who are able to please him more than me
Just like there will be always more attractive men for you. Relationships go far beyond sex and it's just a small part.

If he faps to chicks that are totally unlike you, it might be just because he wants some variation, and going the porn way instead of cheating. Humans are pretty bad at monogamous shit.

You only got a problem if he prefers to jerk off instead of doing you.

>>17901167
>le nature meme
Might as well kindly fuck off from using a computer, bro.

>>17901172
Nothing about life in 2000 fucking 16 is natural. Porn existed in a form or another since human civilization did. Kinda like clothing.

>>17901207
Nothing of the sort. Just that it's not sensible to be subservient to a man you clearly don't completely trust.

>>17901151
>Like what's the point in making myself attractive, cooking for him, raising his kids, keeping his home, when some piece of ass doesn't have to all that, but can satisfy him just by existing? I feel redundant as a female.

So they satisfy him sexually. And? You still fulfill the rest of his needs. They're just berries in the bush. You're the one in the hand.
What's important is that you know that and he knows that. If he ever forgets or gets lured in by some shorty, then you've got something to concern yourself with. Don't let him forget you take care of him, you appreciate[?] him, and keep an eye out for man-stealers who will only take advantage of him.

Question:
If you're concerned about him looking at females who are "pretty much everything [you're] not and could never be," then should he be concerned of you doing the same toward males, especially in romances novels/movies/series?

>le porn is not natural
Sure, it's not grown out of trees, but men have been wanking their meat off to pictures of women since ancient times. Sure, there weren't accurate drawings, but back then people used to make statues of what was considered sexy back then.

So fuck off with your argument. Porn is part of human nature.

>>17901366
It is, but it can cause some sexual dysfunction if abused; pages and pages in three days is probably not healthy.

>>17901393
>if abused
Keyword. Everything can harm you if abused. You need to eat constantly but it'll harm you if overdone. Same with bathing, or exercising, or anything really. A bit of porn isn't going to harm you, especially if you're single and have no other sexual activities. Hell, when I had a gf I would watch porn and masturbate the night prior to meeting her, so that I wouldn't reach orgasm too quickly.

>>17901393
For all we know he was looking for the right video most of the time.

>>17901151
I know this might not help OP but if I found out my bf jerked off to porn instead of enjoying my body I would be livid.
Imagine how your husband would feel if he saw your porn browsing history and it was all tall beautiful nubian males with 9 inch cocks. He wouldn't just accept it, he'd feel like a fucking cuck. Talk to him about it. Demand more sex and attention from him instead of him jerking off. If he doesn't concede he really doesn't deserve to be with you.

>>17901417
>Demand more sex and attention from him instead of him jerking off. If he doesn't concede he really doesn't deserve to be with you.
And this how a relationship fails. A demand for compliance instead of effort toward understanding.
Have we learned nothing from Arrival (2016)? It's all about dat communication.

>>17901417
What the fuck? Why would you be livid? Unless you're there all the time everytime the need strikes they're allowed to watch porn.

I know my bf watches porn, and I don't care. Provided he doesn't go overboard and lose the ability to have sex with me, who cares? I used to watch porn, so it would be hypocritical. You need to lighten up and stop being so controlling

>>17901424
You know what? Fuck men. They are incapable of communicating anyway and would rather passive aggressively wank to more attractive girls instead of doing something about it, i.e. being honest with themselves and pursuing other women.

I think in OP's case she needs to give him an ultimatum because he's got such a garbage attitude toward his wife and no respect at all.

>>17901442
>Fuck men.
Yes, do. It might make you loosen up a bit and get over whatever it is that has made you this bitter.

>>17901449
I'd like to think I have a very healthy, if not over active sex drive.
It's just time that men were held to the same standard as women. Cucking your wife out of sex and affection with porn should never be okay, ever.

>>17901442
>I don't understand how male attraction works
t. Insecure bitch

>>17901309

>le nature meme

said it before, ill say it again. just because somethign isn't natural doesn't mean it isn't healthy. and even if something isnt natural and isnt healthy doesn't mean you just shouldn't do it.

>>17901442
an ultimatum won't work with an addict

>>17901536
Porn addiction doesn't exist. It's just being a lazy waste with no hobbies/identity.

>>17901540
it does exist
you think every guy you ever met that watches porn could stop on a dime if his gf/wife ordered him to?
porns horribly debilitating and if OP wants to maintain her relationship with the guy, she should work with him to break it off, not dump him at the first sign of weakness

>>17901151
I dunno if you're still around OP. I reacted badly when I found a bunch of loli porn. Thought my bf was a pedo and wanted to run. Talked to him about it and understood his particular fantasy behind it.

I cannot look like a realistic loli, I have a cute face but my tits are huge! It doesn't matter, I dressed up in kiddy clothes and we started doing daddy daughter role play which he loves. It's all about the role play and fantasy.

Your bf likes goth girls, anime girls. There are tons of make-up and dress up guides on the Internet. I bet he would love it if you showed up in cosplay or dressed like a goth.

A healthy sexlife needs variation. I like soldiers under my command, he dressed up as one for me, so the favour gets returned. It's all just a bit of fun.

>>17901552
They can and they do if they truly love the person they're with. If you want someone and can have them whenever you want, why would you feel the need to jerk off to anyone else?

>>17901577
>if they truly love the person
you're pretty one sided on this, if she loves him OP should try and help him with it now that it's uncovered
if OP dropped every relationship over porn, alcohol, video games, typical things that are abused by addicts, she'd be very lonely

>>17901207
savages in the far reaches of the globe don't mean shit. The idea of marriage and having anti adultery laws and practices exists in the other 99% of the human (and wolf) world and has

>>17901222
For the love of god, this. People don't seem to get that what men masturbate to is almost never what they want in real life. Jerking off to porn is an exercise in imagination.

Also if you're putting yourself on the same level as fap material, you probably need to address your low self-esteem before all else.

Try to justify it all you want. You're a cuckold if your dude jerks off to other girls.

>>17901667
All men do it your bitter bitch. Why can't you let them? I do, with my bf. Anyone girl who is reasonable and logical about it would.

>>17901682
And it's this makes you a cuckold. If you're fine with that, go for it. But know that he thinks of you as some shmuck he occasionally gets sex from out of convenience.

>>17901696
No, they have to release constantly. They don't work like us; if they don't jack off, they have a wet dream. If he was jacking off while I was there then yes, I'd be insulted. But when I'm not there? What's the issue? It's mostly about fantasy anyway, the same as when we do it or read shit like 50 Shades or books like Delta of Venus.

>>17901703
What stops him from fucking you or at the very least thinking about you? He thinks you're repulsive and wishes to god he wouldn't have to fuck your bovine ass ever again. He's perfectly happy jerking off to hot porn girls and wouldn't ever allow your face to cross his mind while doing so.

>>17901721
Like I said, if you're not there with him. Porn isn't about reality for men; why on earth would there be a market for weird hentai if it were? I don't think most men want to be monsters.

>>17901721
I'm not that femanon, but men are visual; they don't usually get as aroused by 'imagination'. If you haven't given him nudes, its harder to do it like that.

You're just an insecure whore who's boyfriends probably lie to you about jacking off and who can't keep her jealous tendencies in check.

>>17901760
And you're a cowardly man afraid of pussy.

Like I said, If he's jacking off to other girls you can be damn sure he's thinking of sticking his dick in them. You can't just say to yourself it's not real. These are things he wants, and they will never have anything to do with you.

>>17901874
Do you honestly never think of other people sexually when you're in a relationship? What matters is if they act on it IRL. Not in their heads or when they're jacking off.

>>17901874
>he watches Pirates of the Caribbean
>you can be damn sure he's thinking of becoming a pirate and rape your ass while drunk on rum. You can't just say to yourself it's not real.

>he plays CoD
>you can be damn sure he's thinking of bombing brown kids into pieces. You can't just say to yourself it's not real.

>he reads Lolita
>you can be damn sure he's thinking of fucking little girls and killing bitches. You can't just say to yourself it's not real.

>>17901895
I do not do that.
If your gf isn't enough for you sexuallly,why are you with her?

You're likely just settling while you lie about it to yourself.

>>17901905
How do you even compare movies and books to porn. One of them is read for stimulation of the mind and the other for stimulation of the penis. They have entirely different purposes and feelings behind them.

You're still just justifying why it's okay to watch tons of porn and neglect your partner.

>>17901923
Porn isn't directly funneled into your penis. It's all stimulation of the mind. Your dick just decides it likes some of it too.

>>17901923
>it's okay to watch tons
Kinda a dumb waste of time but sure.

>neglect your partner.
If that actually happens it's a problem far beyond porn.

>One of them is read for stimulation of the mind and the other for stimulation of the penis.
Not really. All the stuff is for stimulation of the mind, just some can be directly used to also stimulate your penis. Besides people jerk off to everything either way.

Would you see it any different if they would jerk off to new sex scenes in books? How about vidya? Some chick they imagine (always the same one)?

>>17901222
Link to the otter porn?

>>17901222
Dank trips of truth

OP here. Also waiting on the otter porn.

Thanks for everyone's thoughts. I guess I'm happy that at least he has a sex drive- he never neglects me physically and is good in bed. I'm still depressed about the porn. Even I watch it occasionally for visual accompaniment, but not for the male. There doesn't even need to be a guy, as long as I can see the woman in pleasure, I can experience that vicariously. And I guess sex toys are made to do things that ordinary dicks can't do, so I'd understand if he was to be jealous about that; but I've never needed that. He's always been enough. I'm just having trouble accepting that as I am, I can never be enough.

>>17902204
>I'm just having trouble accepting that as I am, I can never be enough.
Wrong. You are enough.

Let me ask you something. What sort of fantasy turns you on, like, a lot? And please keep your bf out of the picture for your response.