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I'm still a virgin at 25. I tried really hard this summer and almost got a gorgeous girl; she broke up with her boyfriend and made it obvious she wanted me to everyone but I was too much of a pussy to do anything so my friend got with her. He'd have helped me if he just knew I was a virgin, but my ego got in the way. It pretty much shattered all of my hopes. She was honestly perfect for me.
I've known for a long time that if I don't get a relationship or SOME type of intimacy with a female by 26, I'd go off the deep end. Well, ever since then, I've been going off the deep end and my birthday isn't even for a couple months. I'm doing drugs like Adderall several times a week so I can just forget about my feelings. The weeks that I wasn't doing drugs I'd sit in bed all day depressed. My friends are all worried about me. I'm completely slipping and my hope is going away. I used to be positive and happy, the guy making everyone laugh and smile, but now I just can't do it anymore.
I'm not sure what to do. I have no desire to go on anymore. I just need any words I can to help me, please!
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Who cares if you're a virgin? I never fucking got this. Sex isn't that great and no one brags about it unless they need to prove something. You're a perfectly fine man and maybe you need to stop defining yourself by the women you have. It literally does you no good, do you really want this hanging over your head to the point where you can't enjoy life?
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>>17888940
It's not being a virgin. It's the fact I've never had intimacy with a female aside from this one girl I mentioned in the post. It's hard going through life when you're not validated by the opposite sex, it makes you feel like something is wrong with you. It's hard going through life "alone", and having no support from anyone really.
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>>17888963
And how do you plan to get a gf if you're just doing drugs and literally trying to destroy yourself?
Look m8, it might take you a long while to get another perfect girl for you if you're going to look like some depressed loser among your circle of friends. If you're such a desperate piece of shit then go to a fucking bar and meet some women there. You've learned your lesson letting your ego get ahead of you, don't fail the second time again.
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>>17888963
You need to learn with being okay with that reality. Otherwise you'll have a miserable existence. Try looking into Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and Peace is Every Step by Thich Naht Hanh. You're letting your thoughts control you, you're not worthless because x reason. Learn to love yourself and how to interact with your thoughts
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>>17888969
>>17888974
These are both actually very useful. I am letting my thoughts control me and I am destroying myself. I feel like my time has run out for a second chance, but that's just a thought that I am letting manipulate the way I act... thus, I am being controlled by my thoughts. I do feel pathetic and weak, yeah. People used to respect me by far the most in my social group and it's very evident to me that this respect is quickly dwindling.
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Fuck anyone who says being an adult virgin doesn't matter, because they're obviously people who never had to deal with being one. In a way they are right, because just having sex won't change who you are as a person. This is why it''s terrible advice to hire an escort just to get it over with, because it won't alleviate the feelings of worthlessness and undesirability that adult virgins suffer from.
The only advice I can give to you is to focus on improving yourself. Fitness fashion and hygiene go a long way towards personal happiness, and have the benefit of making you more attractive to others. The other half is a combination of being friendly and approachable (unabrasive), being in places where women can actually notice you, and having a good bit of luck. Just you've been alone til now doesn't you will be forever.
t. was a virgin until i met my gf a few months before I turned 26
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>>17889524
Yeah, it really fucks with your sense of self worth. I've really fallen off hard these last few months when I fucked up my chance. It all could have been fucking solved if I were just either honest that I'm a virgin or if I just took it to the next level with that girl and wasn't such a pussy.
I hope things chance before 26 but somehow I'm not sure they will anymore. I was doing a lot of fashion stuff and lifting a ton, but ever since this all happened, it stopped. I usually have motivation if there's a girl I like which I know I have a chance with, I suppose.
Did you tell her you're a virgin?
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My best friend lost his virginity this summer, 1 month before he turned 26.
He said it was nowhere near what he expected, the pussy smelled like shit, the sex was awkward, he dumped the girl 2 weeks later.
Now he's back to his good old self, hanging out with his buddies and just being a social person.
Lesson of the day: Sex is overrated, family/friends/hobbies are what make your world full.
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>>17889544
I told her after the first few times we had sex, because I wasn't finishing and she was becoming self-conscious about it, thinking she was doing something wrong. She didn't believe me so I had to answer a bunch of awkward 'why' questions, but we're still together over a year later.
Recommend cutting back on porn/jerking off if you're doing it 2-3x daily like I used to.
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>>17889549
He had sex one time with a random girl that he didn't even have any lasting connection with and realized 'sex is overrated'?
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