How long does it take to get over a oneitis, adv? I've been

Cold turkey. Ghost her if you have to. If she asks why you are so distant you might as well tell her your true feelings and tell her you want to be a good friend and wish her happiness but you need space to get into that way of thinking about her. Also let go of the one you're with because she obviously is just not what you need right now and aren't being fair to her. You need to deal with and get over your feelings before you can be with someone else that will gave your complete heart.

>>17881511
#1 best way is for you to find somebody else to focus on

otherwise you will mentalize yourself to bits and this can take years or decades

>>17881511
>want to stay her friend

lol. no you don't

>>17881780
I do, but I don't, nahmean?

>>17881802
No you ass, you don't want to be her friend you want to fuck her. Which is fine, but since its not going to happen, all your doing is screwing yourself over. Don't make yourself miserable because you've convinced yourself you want to be friends. You know you're lying to you.

>>17881822
Oh come on. Of course it hurts at the moment but once I'm over it I do want to be her friend. She's a great person and we have a great time together.

All in time, though.