My gf doesn't sext, send nudes, talk dirty, let me take

Buy yourself a prostitute

>>17878803
bloody ell, unluck son. the dirty pics is understandable but not doing oral? sad. honesty, you should just be honest with her and express your concerns. she obviously isnt mature enough for a relationship if she cant have a reasonable conversation about it.

>>17878803
How long have you been together?

>>17878814
She thinks everything is fine and sex frequency is good.

>>17878819
Eight months.

>>17878822
I mean, you may be sexually incompatible if she doesn't think its a problem. Make it clear that you aren't getting what you need and if she won't work with you break it off.

>>17878822
>She thinks everything is fine and sex frequency is good.

probably because you havent told her how you feel? and if so, she is clearly delusional. does she literally say to you "i dont want you to give me oral"?

How are things with her outside of your sex life?

>>17878814
Maybe his dick smells?

>>17878832
>>17878833
I have told her, she thinks it's fine. I'll go one by one so to not cause any confusion...

>doesn't sext, send nudes

She says she preffers real-life stuff and real life touch, and also that all her friends tell her they don't send nudes either. I know this is a lie, because I've gotten tons of nudes from girls who initially told me they never take them.

>talk dirty

She used to do it a little more in the beginning, but over time stopped.

>let me take pics myself

No reason, she just doesn't want me to.

>let me give her oral

I'll also extend this to say she doesn't let me play with her breasts. She says there is no feeling and she just doesn't like it, and also doesn't like oral very much. I wanna eat her out, but I can't. She just wants dick in vagina.

>gives me oral for longer periods

I'm the first guy she ever did it to, and she claims to like doing it a lot, but she'll do it for like ten seconds, stop, look at me, do it for more ten seconds, stop, etc., for about a minute. She looks like she has fun with it and feels sexy so I don't say nothing.

>>17878834
I've had trouble in the past and recently with her acting selfishly.

>>17878833
Also

>"i dont want you to give me oral"

Yes, she literally does.

>>17878840
She told you up front she's not into it, assuming its a lie because of your past experience is on you bro.

>so I don't say anything
You have to communicate your desires otherwise its unreasonable to expect them to be met.

In what ways has she acted selfish?

I personally don't enjoy receiving oral, it feel like pausing the sex to do something I get nothing from
I also feel a bit embarrassed, wonder if I smell etc, but the reason why I don't like it is that it just feels like nothing

>>17878848
I'm talking about her friends, not about her. She has friends who almost post nudes to Instagram itself.

>>17878840
>She says she preffers real-life stuff and real life touch, and also that all her friends tell her they don't send nudes either. I know this is a lie, because I've gotten tons of nudes from girls who initially told me they never take them.

all of my ex's where kinda the same. they would take nudes on one offs but most of the time say they where not in the mood and just ignore me. i personally dont care too much about nudes, i will just watch porn if i cant fuck my gf.

>I'll also extend this to say she doesn't let me play with her breasts. She says there is no feeling and she just doesn't like it, and also doesn't like oral very much. I wanna eat her out, but I can't. She just wants dick in vagina.

this is pretty shitty. women normally love oral. i mean, the clit is the most sensitive part so they normally like it being played with it. maybe you're just fucked.

well at least she kinda gives you oral, even if the way she handles it is a bit odd.

if you get on with her well outside the bed room, i suggest really thinking this through.

>>17878849

>I personally don't enjoy receiving oral, it feel like pausing the sex to do something I get nothing from

you dont do oral in the middle of fucking though. its something you do at the beginning to turn the girl on and to get her wet and ready. if guys are randomly pulling out and giving you oral - they dont know what they are going or they have came and finishing you off.

i have started dating a new girl. im hoping she isnt annoying when it comes to sex. all of my ex's have been pretty wild.

>>17878862
Some women aren't into recieving oral though. Won't exactly get them wet and ready if they arent into it.

>>17878862
Maybe OP should consider this - he's not good at making her relax when giving oral and making her less self-conscious. Maybe he's not good at actually stimulating her.

As for receiving oral....well OP, maybe you need to wash yourself. Dicks sometimes have terrible smell and taste.

>>17878868
>Some women aren't into recieving oral though

what are they into then? do they just expect sex straight away? or do they want the guy to rub their clit, and finger them? this is alien to me.

>>17878878
>he's not good at making her relax when giving oral and making her less self-conscious. Maybe he's not good at actually stimulating her.

yeah, he could just be bad at it.

>>17878851
Still has no bearing on whether or not she wants to give you nudes

>>17878862
No, for example during foreplay
I may be horny, then I get oral and lose the horniness, and if I'm not horny to begin with, I won't get wet
And since receiving oral is supposed to be the best and all I feel a lot of pressure to feel good, and it just doesn't happen
I can't think of any "advice" or indication to give the guy so that it feels better for me, I don't get any feeling of "maybe if it was a bit more intense/fast/slow I'd reach an orgasm"

But there are other things that turn me on, for example when he rubs his dick against me

>>17878879
My girfriend enjoys spanking, fingering, etc; but oral makes her self conscious. Communication is key. Find out what kind of foreplay she likes

>>17878851
Maybe she lied about that because she doesn't want to do it for other reasons. I don't like nudes because I don't want pictures of me in that setting to exist, that's it.
I have however no problem with having sex, giving oral, etc.

>>17878887
That's just you being insecure though, it's like a guy being anxious about performing, then not achieving a boner and then coming to the conclusion that he just doesn't like sex after all.

>>17878895
You can't force someone to overcome insecurities though. Your better off finding things they like that don't cause them to feel insecure.

>>17878902
At the same time you could work on getting over your insecurities yourself instead of accepting them as a defining trait of personality and letting it affect your life forever.

I have extreme body issues from growing up fat, doesn't mean I'll never go to the beach with my gf because I'll die when I take my shirt off.

>>17878895
Why are you so sure I have to like it and if I don't it's because of insecurities? Why are some people willing to accept one maybe doesn't like a certain position, but ORAL, no, you have to like it.

I don't like the idea of it, I like feeling closer to my partner and prefer other things where we can be in other positions, having him down there makes me feel like we're far.

And like >>17878902 said, even if it were because of insecurities, I can't just decide "now I will start enjoying this".

>>17878914
>And since receiving oral is supposed to be the best and all I feel a lot of pressure to feel good, and it just doesn't happen
>I feel a lot of pressure

It's literally what you said.

Stop being combative for no reason. Sounds like more insecurity.

>>17878917
I feel a lot of pressure to like it because people expect it. It doesn't mean that the pressure is the reason why I don't like it.

>>17878920
When I feel pressure to enjoy sex I don't get a boner. Because I feel INSECURE that I won't enjoy it enough, or be good enough.

It's almost as if pleasure is connected to being relaxed.

>>17878913
That's a personal battle. You can help someone get over their insecurities, but when/how they address them is their decision. If OP tells his gf to suck it up and let him slobber on her pussy; she will only have further negative associations with it.

>>17878803
>My gf doesn't sext, send nudes, talk dirty, let me take pics myself, compliments my body or looks very often, let me give her oral, or gives me oral for more than a few minutes. We have sex about once every week and a half.
>Short of breaking up, what is my best course of action for a more fulfilling sex life?

your relationship is already in shambles, OP. She is losing interest faster every day; the magic and excitement is slowly wearing off. She doesn't care about you and will likely start riding the cock carousel behind your back if she isn't already. Pack your shit and get out while you still can.

>>17878928
I'm saying each person needs to have the drive themselves to get over it. I find it very worrying when I see anyone go "Welp, this is my life now" like they're some defenseless puppy with no means of overcoming hardships. Get a spine, dudes.

>>17878920
its because its a norm when it comes to sex. most girls dont like it when you seduce and them and start asking them "do you like this, would you want me to do this etc" they like it when the man takes control. i dont know how to take control if a girl doesent like oral because that is norm before penetration.

>>17878926
>When I
Exactly, you.

I even gave you one of my reasons, like the fact that I like being closer to my partner.

I'm not saying that if you try something and don't enjoy it that means you just won't like it under any circumstances (and I'm sure in many cases not liking it may be due to insecurity, self consciousness, pressure from different things, whatever). But it can be that you don't like it.

>>17878935
The point is its not your business.

>>17878935
You can judge people with insecurites all you want but it's not going to help them and its not going to help OP get laid.

>>17878952
You're arguing a point that means nothing. You said you feel pressure. I said people enjoy things less when they feel pressured to enjoy them. That is related to insecurity.

You being so defensive about being called "insecure" doesn't bode well for how sure you are about yourself though.

>>17878953
>>17878957
>not your business
>judging

Geez, it's ALMOST LIKE we're in an open discussion where people are providing details about their sex lives and commenting on each other's!

It's almost like you're dumb fucks!

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>>17878803
Does she take any anxiety meds?
>inb4 That's a stupid question anon

It isn't, that shit kills sex drives like terminator's kill people.

My GF of 3 years takes it, and I have a similar situation as you, minus the pictures.
She stopped taking them a few days ago, and honestly, my nuts can only produce dust right now.

in the event that she doesn't, you have to start wondering what's gone wrong and where.
>Do you treat her well?
>Do you give her compliments?
>Can you communicate for long periods of time without running out of topics?
>dates?
>can you be flirtatious?
>can you be romantic?

Fixes don't happen over night anon, this WILL take time, but if you do everything right, it's well worth the reward.

>>17878959
This is an open discussion and your welcome to address my points rather than crying about them.

I am simply stating that insecurities are something very personal, so there is not much OP can do if his girlfriend is insecure about recieving oral other than find something else to please her.

>>17878959
I'm telling you I don't like this, I don't like these aspects of it. There's also a lot of pressure to like it.
And you're assuming the pressure is the main thing. Not contemplating the option that SOMEONE MAY NOT LIKE SOMETHING. Stop rereading the same line and read the rest.

We can leave it at this, it's not like I expect us to agree.

>>17878973
>rather than crying about them

>STOP JUDGING US! U BULLY! :((((

You're not doing wonders to break the stereotype that women are shit at arguing.

Give one piece of personal advice, EVER, in your entire life, without judging the situation or getting into the person's business. Read this a few times and you'll slowly realize it can't happen, you monkey.

The thread also wasn't only about oral, so the longer the LADIES itt get riled up about that specifically just confirms everything I've said. Same extends to >>17878981

The entire argument only started because of butthurt over getting called insecure. I'm insecure about a shitton of things, it's human. Being insecure about insecurity is too much though. Get a grip.

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>>17878985
>You're not doing wonders to break the stereotype that women are shit at arguing
What kind of women do you hang around anon?

>Give one piece of personal advice, EVER, in your entire life, without judging the situation or getting into the person's business
You need details to give good advice anon, the only problems in life that require no details or explanation are high school math problems.

>Being insecure about insecurity is too much though. Get a grip.
Basically this. If you people want to get down to the nitty gritty of this situation, this argument has to take a hike back to /R9K/.

>>17878985
Dude, you are missing the point entirely. Insecurities were brought up in context to OPs gf not wanting him to eat her out. You stated that people should work on their insecurities instead of being captive to them. We aren't talking to OPs gf and this advice doesn't do him any good. It would benifit him to be understanding about this and find an alternative. You are the only one with hurt fee fees

>>17879008
No, you're just being retarded.

Whoever was said she feels pressured when getting oral and doesn't enjoy it, I said "that's just YOU being insecure." First time the word was mentioned ITT I think. Then I said to the person who I addressed directly that she could work on her own issues instead of letting it be bothersome forever.

LADIES got butthurt because admitting you're actually insecure hurts.

>>17879017
Yes, you exhibited the kind of infantile resentfulness that OP should definatley not utilize to get himself laid and I used your dumb ass as an example.

Way to show your true colors by assuming that everyone who disagrees with you is a lady btw. OP, don't listen to this faggot, he has never gotten laid in his life.

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>>17879017
>LADIES got butthurt because admitting you're actually insecure hurts.
That's literally everyone anon, nobody likes being told or admitting they're insecure (why do you think therapists make any money?).
I think someone has some deep seeded issues around women, want to talk about it anon?

>>17879025
I was literally talking to women who said they don't enjoy getting eaten out, you sperg. Or do men also get their pussies eaten?

God, you're smart.

Almost was smart as this retard >>17879006 replying to rhetoric comments with their implied answer.

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>>17879029
>rhetoric comments
Either you're much to simple to understand how short-sighted and simplistic your notions about advice and women are

or

You're a shit tier troll from /R9K/

>>17879040
I guess I'm much to simple then, although personally I always fancied myself as much to difficult.

>>17878803
>doesn't give me oral for more than a few minutes
Giving oral most likely hurt her mouth after a few minutes, that's not surprising. You should be glad that she give you oral.

>let me give her oral
Maybe she doesn't like it or the way you do it, or maybe she's insecure about her genitals, (if they're smelly or something)

This may have already been mentioned OP and it may sound like a generic suggestion but you just have to talk to her.
Ask her why she doesn't particularly like being eaten out, tell her that you'd appreciate if she showed more interest on you, that you feel a bit neglected by her. When she's giving you oral try to guide her through it or give her indications on what you'd like her to do or what feels good for you.
Don't try to be too pushy and don't insist or demand anything from her. Instead, try to sound sad or worried and let her tell you what she thinks.

Have you considered that maybe she's not comfortable with you going down on her? I mean my gf used to feel extremely embarrassed whenever I told her that I wanted to eat her out. We kept sexting and I brought up the subject more and more until she got really curious and she wanted me to try it out. Now she practically makes me eat her out whenever I can.

>>17878803
>has no interest in dirty relationship horseplay
>doesn't let you 'mire yourself
>doesn't let you give her oral
sounds like she was molested or some other sexually traumatic experience.

I'd say tread carefully and confront her if you feel like that's the only way to save your relationship. Passionless relationships don't last