Hello Anons, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years but

Have you tried pegging?

>>17870097
He's not into that kind of play.

Ask him if he's down for an open relationship if you think you guys are up for it

Otherwise yea sexual incompatibility is one of the better reasons to break up

I was with a girl that could only do anal because she had to save herself for God, marriage or some shit. Anal gets boring after a while so I dipped

>>17870150
I did ask him and he flat out rejected it.

>>17870308
You know what time it is then

>The intimacy is just not there and it makes me sad.

Surprised it went for 3 years

>>17870075
I think you should date a carpenter.

>>17870317
Why?

>>17870330
He will know how to nail you hard.

>>17870341
Lmao

Relationships only come in two kinds: for life, and not for life

Unless you think he's so good that it pays off to have a shitty sex life untill your tits hit the floor, you already know which one you're into

>>17870352
I'm scared it won't work in the long run. Or that there is a deeper reason he's not sexually interested.

>>17870075
- he's getting sex from somewhere else
- lowtest
- homosexual
- he's head over heels for another girl. (inb4 he's with me 24/7, pls)

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>>17870075
This guy disagrees, OP

Are you fat?

Other perspective here. I'm a 24 year old girl together with someone who's 23. I'm on the birth control injection. I used to have depression for 14~ years but I kicked it.

Anyway I lack the ability to get horny easily like my boyfriend does. Or many times after work, I'm worn out and tired and don't feel like making love (I do however love doing it in the morning when I'm not tired). It just feels really bad, like I don't love him. My female sexuality and arousal have always been difficult for me to control and decipher. I have no issues orgasming but I seemingly can't get horny. I'm only horny when he's already inside me.

Even though I assure him that I love him and I'm definitely attracted to him, I still feel really bad. We do have sex but it's not as much as I'd like due to my fault.

If you got anything from my story it's that girls are weird. Thanks for listening, maybe I should ask for advice too

>>17870586
Forgot to add, maybe he's just nervous about performance like I am?
Tired or worn out?
Depressed? Don't underestimate this, it can remove or lessen libido
On medications?

>>17870575
>cont

-she's fat
-she's ugly

a combination of the above

OP, about a month ago, an old girlfriend of mine contacted me, and basically said the same thing you're saying, only slightly different.

She's been married to her husband for 4 years, and she messages me telling me that she's very sexual, and her husband isn't.
She didn't have to tell me she's very sexual, I wouldn't have ever dated her if she wasn't.

which brings me to the point. why would you date someone for so long, if they weren't compatible?
this ex of mine was asking me to come fuck her in front of her husband.
which brings me to the second point.
you don't need dram or an excuse to break up
just fucking say goodbye
goodbyes don't have to be ugly
you don't have to hate

My girlfriend left me for this. I regretted it because I wasn't living my own sexual instincts to their core. I was smoking weed a lot and was also always worried about performance, because I came early all the time. I perceived sex not as an emotionnal embrace in the moment, but as something that I had to think about in the moment because I could mess it up. So instead of embracing her and fucking the shit out of her, I was more timid and restrained in my approach. Couldn't bring myself to connect so deeply with her, because I didn't know myself so well, I rejected a lot of the shadowy parts of me, including anger. Now I know that I cannot connect truly to a person sexually if I am not fully open in my heart and naked in my mind.
If it can help~.
If your boyfriend is not able to sit down with you and discuss the intensity of your sexual relationship, and doesn't want to improve it, maybe he has a difficulty showing some parts of himself TO himself and to you. If he steps out of the conversation or gets upset when all you want is LOVE and CONNECTION, from MY experience, if he deeply loves you, he doesn't realize how much he doesn't know himself because if you guys connected there should be a part of him that could just embrace you lovingly in all the aspects that you dream of. Or maybe not, you're just not compatible. Idk. ^^
You both should read "intimate communion" by david deida and "the way of the superior man" (this one can be found in PDF).
Really and truly, if you can come together and discuss through loving hearts these issues, they ought to be fixed, but you'll have to get naked in hearts and minds I guess, and this is protected by rejection and anger and incomprehension, you have to get through that with love.
Anyway. Just read david deida.

>>17870575
All of those things are possible. >>17870584
I guess so. My bmi sits at 27 but I'm not delusional about it and he dated me when I was fatter.

>>17870586
>>17870594
For 3 years?

>>17870608
I get loads of compliments and sexual harassment if that counts for anything.

>>17870677
This is what I'm trying to decide. If I should just leave or stay and find a way to put up with the sometimes sex thing. I'd never talk to a male friend about this issue ir anyone really. Which is why I'm on here posting anonymously. I'd never want anyone to look at him in an inferior way.

>>17870741
Thank you. I'll definitely give it a go.

>>17870765
I am the person on birth control that posted earlier. We've only been together 4 or 5 months, not three years

Break up