Should I tell my bro he is "dating" a chick who I think

>>17860364
>I don't like to get involved in others people business but my bro is my bro.
Sounds like you know what to do. If roles were reversed, wouldn't you expect and want your bro to deliver the hard news?

>Hey man, I hate to be the one to tell you this, especially because I set you two up, but ____ is not exclusive with you.

>>17860364
Are you literally brain dead? Yes tell him. And if he doesn't stop talking to her then he's retarded too.

You've one job.

Women are cold as fuck, damn.

Women are so casually fucking cold.

>>17860392
>>17860408
Sex, intimacy, and closeness lose there value, when it's handed to you daily on a silver platter.

>>17860364
I'd tell him. Normally I advise not to get involved in this kind of stuff, but this guy is your homie

If she didn't think it was a big deal she would have told him. I've been in non exclusive relationship before and everything thing was said. Not just a trust issue thing, but making sure someone didn't catch something.

You should definitely tell him, but to avoid this girl blowing up on you, you should approach her first.

Tell her that you are going to tell your friend about what she did, because you care about him and his feelings, and he would do the same for you in his place.

She will most likely tell you that she'd rather tell him herself, so let her. Give her a few days, and if she still hasn't, just tell him yourself.

>>17860489

Fuck this bish, tell your bro before she hamsters her way into a story that never happened.

>>17860499
I agree with this anon, you don't owe the girl anything, but this guy is your friend.

>>17860364

As a non butt-hurt, non inexperienced guy, I'm going to take a completely different line to most everyone else:

Unless THEY'VE specifically said they're official or there's now a ring on her finger, this shit isn't official.

It's complete, 100% your friend's fault for falling so fucking deep in to the rabbit hole without locking this down or confirming her feelings.

The only exception to this is if he HAS talked to her about it, she's SAID she agrees with him, and then her actions betray that (and that would make her 100% scum)

Is she a bitch? Sounds like it.
Is she in the wrong? No. Her wording sounds kind of scummy, but unless they set some actual boundaries, she's justified by her own morals, because in all reality, spending time with someone doesn't mean you're behooved to or owned by them.


Should you talk to him? Possibly, but I wouldn't come at it from the, "Yo your girl cheated on you" angle, because there's more going on than that, and you don't know the details of what's going on. If you did talk to him, probe about what the status of their relationship ACTUALLY is, THEN talk to him about what you overheard.

This is a lesson that he DOES need to learn. Don't ever ASSUME something in a relationship, without confirming the other person feels the same, because all that leads to is MASSIVE misunderstandings, headaches, heartbreaks, and a disparity between what's reality and his own personal fiction.

>>17860643

I agree, but the girl does seem to be leading him on big time.

If a girl was texting me for 12 hours a day for 2 months, telling me how much she liked me, and then banged some dude cause she was "stressed"

yeah this bish is going to be nothing but problems.

>>17860643
>It's complete, 100% your friend's fault for falling so fucking deep in to the rabbit hole without locking this down or confirming her feelings.
If you're looking at it this way, you're also making some pretty heavy assumptions about what has or hasn't happened, who knows what, and where morality lies.

Most people here have said
>tell him what she did
Not
>tell him she cheated on him

Your line isn't that different, snowflake.

>>17860436
This is a very good point

Get your bro out of there

>>17860643

I agree with this, mostly, except that I have one thing to add based on the dialog you quoted:

>>"Yeah he's convinced I have feelings for him"

This sentence right here is vague as fuck based off of the prior sentences.

She could very well mean to say:

>>"Yeah, the fling is convinced that I have feelings for him (the fling)...

Which makes the most sense since she said "I won't do it again" right before and in the context of her behavior towards your bro otherwise.

I would definitely say that the "right" action now depends entirely on what the official status is between your bro and this girl.

If they have already been official and they've made plans for the future etc. then your bro should absolutely know what's going on. I would caution that this is not going to go well, however, unless you have irrefutable proof - and even then maybe not. Your bro is definitely going to attack the messenger and side with the girl if he's so head over heels for her and if she's already got him by the dick.

If that's not the case and both of them are still in the phase where they really like each other and are zeroing in on the "official" status... I don't know what the right move really is. I also would not necessarily be happy if I found out that a girl was seeing other people while she was seeing me, but if we haven't made it official or made any kind of statement of commitment then I would feel like that's kind of on me for not "nailing it down" as the other anon put it. It's a two way street though - I also wouldn't be feeling bad about working some other girls if that were the case. If we've been dating for a month or more and/or we're about to fuck, though, the conversation has to happen.

"Hey I really like you a lot and I'm looking for a steady partner - I want to go exclusive and make us official."

Prelude to that convo happens on the 2nd or 3rd date: there should at least be a brief conversation about what each person is looking to get out of dating.

>>17861105

Yeah it was vague, but I should have put my bro name at the end of the flings sentence. She named dropped him. So it was about my bro.

>>17860364
Exact same thing happened to me, but with minor differences. I was your friend in this situation.

I was mad and went into a downward spiral and drank a fuckton before work and went on a minor xanax spree because those things made me forget. I also picked up cigarettes. Very childish of me, but I still drink, but smoking is a staple in my life now.

It'll hurt him and bother him, but he is going to get over it. A big problem is that I myself went back and kept trying. But time is running out and I will be leaving and so will she. Just tell him, and MAKE sure he stays away.

>>17861359
You are a namby pamby little bitch

tell your bro to run

>>17861395
Well, desu, she was only half the problem. Other is just me realizing my years are over and it's going to drastically change. I do admit it was childish, and I look back and I think it was retarded.

In the end, tell him to ignore her. Everyone handles shit their own way.

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>>17861275
>So it was about my bro
.
What the actual fuck?
That bitch is evil. You literally shouldn't even be bothering to think about this when she can say something like that. 1000% tell him

Every day I keep getting more convinced that there is nothing more diabolical than a woman in a relationship. Holy shit.

Well OP?
What are you gonna do?