How do I get over orgasm envy? My orgasms are so small that

try edging
half the enjoyment of an orgasm is anticipation/build up

>>17854068
Yeah I've tried edging, and lots of other stuff. It's hopeless.

What I need help with is getting over my jealousy.

You need over stimulation to achieve those mind blowing orgasms

Have you tried a vibrator? What do you do or have tried?

(Guy here, but very experienced imo)

>>17854047
It's all in your head.

Thinking you have a problem creates the problem.

Not like telling you think helps in anyways, but that's how it is.

I've heard wearing socks helps. And elevating your feet.

Also, women have harder orgasms as they age, One of life's cruel jokes

>>17854068
Edging will damage your penis

>>17854093
make up for not having 1 mind-blowing orgasm by having 3 good orgasms for every one they have

>>17854447
I've tried everything

I have a doxy wand vibrator, which is 30% more powerful than the hitachi magic wand

I've read a few books on masturbation technique and stuff.

I'm stuck with shitty small orgasms.

>>17854456
i've been edging for years and never had any damage/issues with my penis

>>17854463
I can't have good orgasms though, only shitty ones.

>>17854470
what's holding you back then? inexperience? lack of communication with your partner? some mental hangup?

>>17854474
I think I'm just broken, too much rough masturbation growing up, my nervous system is just damaged now.

A partner? HAH. No guy has ever been able to stimulate me in any way, they fuck me and have their amazing orgasm then I masturbate and have my shitty one while they lie back, satisfied.

>>17854465

Imo your problem is hardly physical, it's much more likely that it is psicological. The frustration feeds itself back so you're always stuck with small ones.

Have you tried drinking a bit before trying it? Another option would be looking into Yoni massagists. Thing is expensive but the ads make it look well worth it. You can even pick a female massagist if you feel more comfortable, since they seem to be very professional

And from a guy who's very envious of his gf's orgasms: settle for what you have, and work from what you have. I'll never be able to feel what she feels, and you'll never know if what other girls feel is legit or just over performatic. So just use the toolbox you were handled to build on your own potential.

Do you allow yourself to moan when masturbating? How "free" can you afford to be doing it?

>>17854047
I used to have these mind blowing orgasms when I was 11 and first learning how to masturbate.
It doesn't happen anymore at 22 but that's because I masturbate nearly every day.
I went on vacation with family for a week and a half and couldnt masturbate for the duration.
I felt like I was 11 again when I got home.
Try it OP
Also I know it sucks when guys have these awesome orgasms when they're done fucking you but sex sucks for us more often than not. This is because their dicks are like huge clits.
The trick is to be more dominant with them and make them make you orgasm with toys/their mouth before they even get their dicks close to you. Withold their orgasm until you get yours.

>>17854509
Yeah I've had tantric massage before, I ended up crying because I didn't feel anything

> So just use the toolbox you were handled to build on your own potential.

The thing is that I've reached my potential. This is it, I can't do anything else to work on my orgasms

I've tried moaning while masturbating, apparently that enhances the experience, and I guess it does a little, but I've never involuntarily moaned.

>>17854515
I've gone months without masturbating :(

I don't even bother with actual sex with guys anymore, there's nothing they can do that can stimulate me, a vibrator is more efficient.

>>17854566
This sounds rough.
Do you watch porn anon? This could desensitize you too

>>17854574
I used to

>>17854556
Gee that sounds bad. How do you feel if you have sex a bit drunk? Obviously not a recommended treatment, but if you feel more loose your problem might be just performance anxiety (which it sounds like, given your worries and comparisson with other women)

Have you checked your hormones? If they're balanced, it's totally psicological. You need to accept how your body works before working on improvements. I know it might sound harsh, but since you seen to have tried everything else, that's the only advice I have left :/

Have you tried fantasizing that you're one of the girls you idealize? For a while I was autogynephilliac (sp?), I liked to think what I'd feel if I was a woman. Depersonificating yourself could work, since you idealize other woman orgasms, just imagine you're one of them.

>>17854589
I've had drugged sex where I was super relaxed after snorting some crushed pills someone said was...I can't really remember what he said it was but I remember it was consensual

Anyway I was super relaxed, my body was too heavy to move, and it was the same, as in I didn't enjoy it

I gave up on actual partnered sex a while ago, that's just a waste of time. I'm talking about masturbation here

Thanks for trying to help.

>>17854605
I tend to imagine that I'm a young girl in my sexual fantasies, I guess because I never got to have sexual experiences at that age and feel like I've missed out

In my fantasies I'm *really* enjoying sex.

>>17854624
Maybe imagining that you're really enjoy it doesn't help because it dissonates too much from your worries about it. Maybe thinking you're even younger and trying it for the first time would be more fitting?

I'm out of ideas, sorry, just a doctor or psicologist could help you beyond that :/