I still miss her I've got a new GF and she's... nice?

It honestly just takes time. Try to separate yourself from the memory of "her"; don't go to places the two of you went together, watch and listen to new stuff, and spend time with yourself as well as your friends and new girlfriend.
Also, of course your new GF isn't "her". She's her own different person. Enjoy her for her differences.

why was the ex gf so special?

how long ago did you break up? you probably just need time

>>17849113
She was my first 'real' girlfriend.

I was a hippy freelove kind of guy, and was stupendously lucky to meet a few girls (and a guy at one point) that actually understood that.

Then i met her, she was hot as fuck, unbeleivably mental and good in bed, and we just clicked from day one. She got really upset when i told her i had slept with someone else after we first fucked - even though i told her that was what i did, and she said it was okay.
So i thought, why not? and agreed and did the whole monogamy thing.
Of course she was cheating and sleeping with everyone the whole time - i found out and confronted her - she said she was sorry (actually lied about doing it until i came out and proved that i knew without a doubt) and i beleived her and let it slide because i had fallen hard.

Next three years went like that, me being 100% devoted to her and she threw it in my face over and over, which i let slide, and each time i fell deeper and deeper into it.

Yeah i know i was a beta fuck, and i should've ended it, or at least not pretended and put up with the whole closed relationship thing.

But i just told myself - this time it's okay - and just put it out of my mind. And it was perfect and she was everything i wanted, as long as i kept that stuff out my mind.

I had a lot of other issues at the time, i'm probably a bit along the spectrum.

To be honest i think i just jumped at the new girl to try get that feeling back. I can't say exactly why, but it's just not fufilling in the same way.

Sorry i'm rambling a bit guys, i've just never really said this shit to anyone and i just want to get it off my chest.

It was maybe 2 years ago we broke up - but it was over and had gone very dark and fucked up for a while before then.

>>17849074
You're a bitch.
Also doubt you have a gf at all.

>>17849101
Not OP, but do you have any advice for being so lucky that you have to see your exgf just about everyday?

>>17849302
You do not miss her, you miss the idealized version of her in your head. The woman who you were with before you found out that she cheated on you.
You are probably afraid of this new girl cheating on you so you're protecting yourself by being emotionally unattached.
My current SO went through this exact issue. You need to reassure yourself that the ex you love in your head disappeared the moment she cheated on you, no more idealizing her!
The moment you put this idealization to rest will be the moment you can emotionally connect with this new woman who actually sounds pretty great. It will take awhile but think "I'm just idealizing her" every time you're thinking of missing her or her at all.
Do not get obsessed but get over and lay these thoughts to rest.
Good luck anon things will turn out ok

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>>17849074
Think of your ex as a ghost
Now imagine your girlfriend in a Ghostbusters outfit

One will protect you, the other one won't do anything good for you...

Feeling better now?

>>17849074
shut up faggot

>>17850415
Good advice right here