My partner and I broke up. She didn't work for a very long

>>17845320
never lend money to friends and family, unless it's on paper. at that point, expect the relationship to be over. otherwise, expect to never get the money back.

>>17845320
>I don't really need the money, but I feel deceived, and don't want to let her get away with this

That's the only sentence that's important
Leave your pride out of breakups, you'll live longer and happier

>>17845322
What was I supposed to do, let her starve?

>>17845327
This really feels like the best I could do for myself. But how do you justify letting people basically steal from you? What if she does it to her next partner? Should I completely ignore this issue if it means she might be able to screw other people in the future?

>>17845356
It's not your responsibility
It's better to use it as a reference in future situations
Pay it forward so to speak

>>17845356
OP, you have no legal grounds to get the money back. Just forget about her, there isn't much you could do at this point besides move on and never "lend" money to a girlfriend ever again.

>>17845462
>>17845440
Alright, I hear you, I'll let this pass

>never "lend" money to a girlfriend ever again.
Yeah, I learned a lesson here

>>17845320

>is it reasonable to expect to be paid back in these circumstances

nope. when you break up with someone you gotta accept that its over. thats why people advise you settle these things before breaking up.

>should i bother contacting a lawyer

lol
>you're honor i lent her some money and she wont give it back!!1!

has never held up in court.

sorry bud, you made your bed, now you gotta sleep in it.

>>17845356

>what if she does it to her next partner

lets clarify something OP. did you break up with her? or did she break up with you?

Actually, contrary to what the others here are saying, yes, you have legal grounds to try and get the money back. Whether or not it's worth it depends on the amount.