I'm a pretty cool guy. Yeah, it's safe to say that

>>17837730
What's your height and career field?

You prob have a self-important/narcissistic tendencies. Those only attract gold diggers.

If you want a 'nice' girlfriend, you will have to start being nice yourself. And not in that bullshit shallow niceness that's obvious to anyone who grew out of teenage angst.

You sound very self-centered. How old are you?

>>17837734
1.92 m
Lost from 125 kg (the fattest I've ever been) to a comfortable 95 kg
I dress nice and clean, if a little weird fashion sense, but I am actually very careful with my looks/groomed.
Career wise, I am a medic specialised in lab-work. A demanding but also rewarding job.
I have a steady number of close friends whom I call brothers, we've known each other for literally 15+ years, and many acquaintances (my ex included). I am also leading member in a literary circle. It has some qts but of course all are already in long lasting relationships.

There is something innately wrong with me, like I feel I'm going to snap and break this careful life that I am having. I'm acting like any well adjusted aduld but u can't shake this weird feeling of dread whenever I talk about relationships, and I feel like people can tell there's something wrong with me. Like a "well adjusted adult" can't possibly be a kissless virgin at 24, get a gf and fuck even that up somehow.
I'm 25 now but things look pretty grim for my romantic life, whatever that is.

Sorry for rambling, slow morning.

well, what was your childhood like? i assume that your life once was a rather dark place, considering you having been "almost homeless" and overweight. you habe done an awesome thing and you also got your priorities straight and focused on working out your fiancial and health issues first. but don't assume that your possible emotional issues just take care of themselfe now that you are reasonably well off from an outside perspective. you might have to rewire all you learned as a child, since it might be deeply destructive.

>>17837761
First off, you seem to think that your job and various things that you think give you status are relevant here. The job is a little relevant, but barely. You're not a doctor or lawyer or banker - no offense. You're a guy with a job and most girls don't know or care the details unless it's something they heard about on TV as being prestigious.

Best thing you've said so far is your height. I'm a bit intrigued about these close friends you mention. If you have a number of guy friends and they're not getting laid or having successful relationships either, they may be bad influences on you.

How the fuck are we supposed to know what's wrong with you if all you mention are good things about you, and nothing about your personality?

>>17837796
That actually does tell us things. Namely that OP has zero introspection and is blind to his own faults.

>>17837811
Well apart from that, obviously.

>>17837811

People with 1 billion faults taht pretend like they're normal and fine get laid 100% more than people wit a few faults that are ashamed of their faults.

re: drug smoking retards get laid more than average joe.

>>17837730
>I didn't even show up at the date because I couldn't be arsed to leave my room that day, and ghosted the girl.
So, it seems the problem is that you're an asshole. Sorry about that, it's not your fault. I recommend you speak to a therapist for a while.

It sounds like you have a confidence problem that you are dealing with through personal achievement. That doesn't work. Women can smell male insecurity a mile away, and it is the least sexy thing imaginable.

>>17837827
>drug smoking retards get laid more than average joe.

That's the most retarded thing I have read today.

>>17837866
It should be, because its the way the world works and its insane.

"I've ticked all these boxes and no one likes me!"

Really don't care what you say, you have quite low self-esteem. Like, what would you do without all the exterior things that you've told us about? What's left?

You have a lot to offer a girl, besides the check-list, but you need to look inside and find what is within you.

>>17837878
>Really don't care what you say, you have quite low self-esteem. Like, what would you do without all the exterior things that you've told us about? What's left?

You fucking serious m8?

The reason people have self-esteem is it has to be vested in something.

I would not nor should not expect a rapist, who lives with his mommy, doesn't clean up after himself, etc, to have any self-esteem. However, people seem to find this gem within the shit of their lives no matter how much of a waste of humanity they are, and thus attract women.

You are right on one thing, attraction is all about you projecting "confidence", and so the worst of humanity can get laid all they want if they project that.

you sound annoying honestly. "why can't i get a girlfriend. wahh ): i'm so good at this that and the other thing, i have a job and all these friends i lost weight ppl compliment me" like, okay and so? put some fucking time and dedication into a girl with "the texting game". texting can be a conversation or just a fucking game to you. also ghosting someone is fucking retarded. no wonder you don't have a gf. being someone who puts themselves in a positive light while only not seeming to care about another person is someone not worth investing in.

>>17837756
I'm not self centred, I am just describing whatever I have going in my life so /adv/ won't keep asking the usual "do you work, start lifting" etc.

>>17837771
Simple family in poor country but parents always made sure we had food on the table and clean clothes, can't complain much.
School was a continuous downfall from year 1. Never could make many friends at school specifically for whatever reason. Still had friends at home but not at school, and I always hated school. I was the first kid in my class to skip school for almost 2 years while lying to everyone.
Bullied a bit for it because at the time it wasnt the "cool" thing to smoke and skip class and I think it affected my following years in highschool because I became very distant and absent.
I wasn't trying to actively make friends anymore, I instead went heavy into playing Wow. Skipped more classes, one thing led to another and gained weight while losing friends.
Eventually I moved away to another country through some study and work offer but things didn't work out quite as expected. I was too proud to return home, so I slept around, sometimes in subways while looking for jobs. Eventually got a job at a guy I made friends with, and he introduced me to another guy who knew a guy and in the span of a year I completed my studies while abroad, paid all my debth and met some of the top dogs in EU. I had whiskey shots with Merkel at the table on the Rhine banks, shit was pretty intense. Got back home practically a hero in my simple but estranged family.
Anyway by the time I got back I lost about 90% of my old friends. Made more but it wasn't the same, they all feel like acquaintances not friends.

Also got my first ever gf. It lasted 3 weeks fucked even that

Too much missing information for anyone to give you any helpful advice. I may have missed it since I just skimmed your op, but how old are you? What's your approach strategy? What do you talk to women about? Are you fun and positive? A downer? Would you say that women have fun talking to you?