Hi /adv/ My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years.

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>>17820603
Was it always like this, or is he becoming increasingly disinterested over time?

>>17820676
He was consistently interested for a few months at the start of the relationship and then it just died off.

>>17820682
For a few months? So it's been like this for more than 3 years now...
Do you guys have sex every once in a while? How much time has it been since?
Also, do you know how often he masturbates?

>>17820692
Yes it's been this way for years and we have sex once...maybe twice a month.

We haven't had sex for about a month and a bit.

He seems a bit delusional about our sex life too. He thinks we have sex more than we actually do... the last time I brought it up, he insisted we were intimate "only last week!" But that was simply untrue and it had been 3 weeks.

I don't know how much he masturbates, I have asked him to stop but he hasn't.

Seek sex therapy. Even if it is just try to try something different. Sex is fun and to be experienced in a relationship. If he doesn't even want to try, it may be time where you will have to decide to be in a sexless relationship or break up.
You may love each other, but it may be better to be just friends. If that is too hard, you will have to cut off each other cold turkey.
Not everyone is desirable to everyone, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so perhaps there is someone else that will feel attracted to you and won't hide their intentions. If you break up and look for someone else, make sure they are sexually interested in you as well-before you even consider getting serious. It should at least be mentioned in the first couple of dates.
Good luck! Just don't cheat or cause drama, get out while you still can with your head up! Plenty of fish in the sea and plenty of dating sites!

>>17820702
Look, I know you don't wanna break up. I'm in a situation where I know it would be better to break up and I know how it feels to think you can fix it.
But you already broke up with him once for this very reason, and it seems that after you guys got back together he hasn't even tried to change anything. This isn't just on you. He needs to acknowledge the problem, only then you can start trying to solve it.
Do you guys talk about this often?

>>17820706
Thank you.

>>17820727
Only when I bring it up and it's really embarrassing to bring it up. He's not the easiest person to talk to when he feels like he's being criticized. The simple truth for me is that if he was attracted to me, he'd be sleeping with me and he isn't.

My head is telling me to leave but my heart tells me to stay. I'm not happy with him as a girlfriend anymore even though I love and care about him a whole lot.

>>17820780
break up sounds like a fag

maeby he doesnt enjoy having sex wiht you because you are a filthy egoist roasty who demands stuff and pleaseure and doesn't give him anyhintg at all.

>>17820905
>filthy egoist roasty
I don't know what this means but
>who demands stuff and pleaseure and doesn't give him anyhintg at all.

This is really not true.
I get pleasure from giving pleasure and naturally a little submissive in bed.

Thank you for the input though.

>>17820910
then just be a lil more submissive and ask him to use u instead of jacking offf

>>17820921


I'm so embarrassed to say this but I already have.

I already told him he is welcome to do that. He just doesn't want to ...

>>17820924
did he ever say what in you makes him not want to fuck you? sounds like he cant get hard without porn and is embarassed about it, or didnt even notice it yet. it happens

>>17820978
No he never has told me actually.
This is why I am so lost and confused. If I knew, I would work on it or understand. He just tells me nothing is wrong.

He doesn't take any medication or anything like that either. He is not depressed and he still masturbates, so his sex drive is there, just not around me.

>>17820603
If he's not attracted to your body, you may wanna do what the girls with no-tits in my highschool did: Learn how to deepthroat

Ok, but for real, place a blindfold on him, and...just fuck him

>>17820603
judging by the image u uploaded u probably are ugly no offense

>>17820989
When he has sex with you, are there any issues e.g does he have a hard time getting aroused or doesn't maintain an erection?

>>17820995
I did learn that already with him

>>17820999
Probably, I look nothing like Kim K though.

>>17821004

Sometimes it takes a while to get him hard even with his penis in my mouth. I feel like gagging when I have him soft in my mouth. I also feel nauseous when we are kissing heavily, he is touching my tits etc and I reach down, he's soft... It makes me feel ill, physically.

Another indication he isn't attracted to me is because he never goes down on me or even offers or even tries. It's very quick foreplay and then penetration.

For the record, I am hygienic, get tested regularly and never have sex if I am not freshly washed down there.

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>>17820603
Guy here, I put my girl through a similar situation not long ago, and it wasn't because she wasn't sexy.
It was because I felt incapable as a sex partner and felt too much pressure to do good.
Instead I opted to avoid having sex as much as possible.
After seeing a few therapy sessions talking about that and many other personal issues, I started relaxing and sex has become much better ever since.
Bottom line: Talk to him. I'm not sure mentioning the other guys thing is a good idea (as long as you don't act out on it), but telling him everything else seems important. If he's willing to open up and make changes, then you two have a future. If he keeps saying the same thing and doesn't show signs of wanting to make you happy, then there's not much for you to work with here, and you should move on.

>>17821023
>I feel like gagging when I have him soft in my mouth. I also feel nauseous when we are kissing heavily, he is touching my tits etc and I reach down, he's soft... It makes me feel ill, physically.
Does he know this? Doesn't seem like you're being very supportive.

>>17821073
Thank you. This helps a lot.

You won't ever know until you literally throw it to his face

You've already tried everything else, so just cut the crap, call him and say "ok, what the hell is the problem between us? Why do you rather jerk of than fuck me? If you're not saying I'll have to break up with you because I have needs too"

He might just have a low sex drive. Address that and if he can't or won't fuck you enough, just end it. It's seems pretty obvious that your needs aren't being met.

>>17821023
Guy here and im basically youy bf right now. Except that my gf dont know i jerk off. Im beyond fucked up for browsing /d/ for years that normal sex no longer turns me on.

If he cares for you, he has to stop jerking off and relase his sexual urge with you. I do that every now and then.

OK, here's is problem number 1 that you haven't addressed yet:

You are turning his Erectile Dysfunction problem into something that's all about you. Since he still cares for you and is into you in all other ways, I can pretty much guarantee that it's not that he "isn't attracted to you". You're taking a real problem that HE has and turning YOURSELF into the victim. Yes, he is at fault too for being defensive and ignoring the issue. You guys are just not communicating with each other at all.

You have a gross misunderstanding of male sexuality that you need to correct. Men are not "always ready to go" and not all men are going to get raging hard-ons just because you happen to be wearing a skirt that day.

Porn has warped his perception of sex and what stimulates his sense of arousal. I don't know what kind of stuff he watches, but even over-indulging in relatively "standard" porn like schoolgirls and barely legal teens etc. will eventually make normal sex seem boring and unexciting. There are probably some things that you can do to make the situation a little better: learn to be more seductive, better techniques other than "touch his dick and put it in mouth", figure out what clothes and situations excite him the most, work out, learn to apply makeup, wear heels and skirts more often (most girls that look 8/10 are just good with makeup and fashion). However, what's going to make the biggest difference is if he can confront his porn and masturbation addiction.

>>17821579
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>>17820910
Did your/his looks change over the years? Anything else like sexlife which doesnt seem as interesting/appealing to him?
In the first few months, maybe your routine was different or you didnt have a routine at all?

>>17820924
don't feed the troll.

you need to ask him what he loves more, you or the porn.

the intimacy is gone. you're willing to put out, but is he?

>>17821336
This.

There's a chance he was having sex during the first few months because he felt it was "expected", the "normal thing to do". Then time passed, he relaxed and turned back to his usual self.

This, or he's not being honest with you.

Try to keep in mind it's not necessarily about you. I know that kind of frustration is hard to overcome.

Good luck.

>>17820995
what high school did you go to? wow.

>>17820603
Look, I've been here. Trust me, it's better in the long run to end it. It hurts too much and will damage your self esteem eventually.

Op have you gained weight since the start of your relationship bc I'm 100% sure that's the issue here

>>17820603
He needs to stop watching porn.
I had the same problem with my boyfriend. He stopped watching porn for a week and now we fuck at least 6x a week.
Show him yourbrainonporn.com
He might not want to give it up because of how addictive it is but good luck.