hey /adv/ so i'm a 25 y/o borderline hikikomori whose mother

why dont you learn how to drive?

>>17813526

i will but there wasn't really time in the half hour before we were supposed to leave this morning

>>17813535
>>17813535
what about in the past 9 years? clearly your half sister is extremely frustrated and upset because of the situation, but its obvious she sees you as a burden who unfairly makes other people step up to fill your obligations.

>>17813548

i understand that and her frustrations about my uselessness are legitimate, but that doesn't justify what she did. she's the one who volunteered to take our mom before she ever knew i was going, she decided to pick a fight hours before our mother's surgery, she's the one who threatened to leave if i went, and all of this was simply because of her personal discomfort around me, not because i was being a burden.

>>17813568
That's completely fair and she ought to apologize of course.

final bump before inevitable confrontation. will post aftermath when it happens

yeah so it went horribly. greentext in another post

so her and my mom arrive back while i'm in the bathroom (no not jerking off)

>Mom is in the kitchen, no sign of half-sister
>I ask mom how surgery went, does she have any prescriptions or post-op instructions, does she want anything, etc.
>Sister comes rushing the stairs, rushes past me, hugs mom, and quickly says goodbye and that she's leaving
>"Wow that fast?"/"Yeah I want to beat the traffic."
>As she is furiously bolting for the door I ask if I can talk to her before she leaves.
>Doesn't even look at me, makes a pissy face, and smugly says "No!"
>I say "We need to have this conversation now or I never want to have it--"
>She's now outside the door and mockingly goes "Ooooooh!"
>"-- because if we don't then don't come around anymore and and don't have your kids come around anymore."
>Walking to her car and goes "Oh, big man! You're an idiot."
>I say "Fuck you."
>She gets in the car and gives me a mocking look.
>I kick the car door and walk away.
>She drives off.

Her and her ex-husband got divorced because they got in a fistfight and I now understand why. Hope he beat the shit out of her.

>>17814249

>>33104067

Afterwards my mom doesn't cry but she asks what that was all about. I tell her about what happened between me and my half-sister earlier in the morning when she was upstairs, that my half-sister refused to take her to the hospital if I went, that she started getting ready to leave when I didn't back down, that she gave some excuse about how if there was already an adult who could take my mom then her time had been wasted, then she started insulting me, refused to talk to me when I wouldn't back down again and told me to "get out of her face," etc.

Mom reveals that half-sister didn't really want to ever take her to get surgery, even though she immediately offered to when told about it. Said she acted like it was really putting her out the whole time and the only reason she followed through was because my mom drove my sister to/from the hospital last year. Mom says that if half-sister had known I wanted to come ahead of time then she would never have agreed to drive her.

We agreed that she was a cunt. My tendy privileges remain intact.

>>17814291
>She's now outside the door and mockingly goes "Ooooooh!"
>"-- because if we don't then don't come around anymore and and don't have your kids come around anymore."
>Walking to her car and goes "Oh, big man! You're an idiot."
>I say "Fuck you."

forgot to add that around this time she mumbled something about how we hadn't "talked to each in 5 years" and when she said the "big man" line i said "i'm not trying to be macho i'm trying to solve this between us" which is when she called me an idiot

>>17814249

She sounds like a big, self important bitch to be honest. Reminds me of my older sister. Picking fights, starting drama unnecessarily and not finishing things when the discussion gets serious, only leaving on a bad note in an arrogant tone like they're above what they started. My sister even had to whole 'fist fight in a relationship' thing too if you can believe it.

The best thing to do to these people is not give them time or just not let it affect you. It drives them mad since they're fueled by daily drama. I did this and it was kind of funny to see my sister's utter confusion since I wasn't playing along. It seriously threw her off.

Your position in life isn't good but at least it sounds like you really care for your mom. Sounds like your sister is just a grade A bitch. Take care anon and learn how to drive so you won't have to deal with this again.

>>17814299

Sounds like she's the problem and one that will never be solved. Let it go and focus on bettering yourself and helping your mom.

>>17814314
>not finishing things when the discussion gets serious, only leaving on a bad note in an arrogant tone like they're above what they started

This is her exact M.O. She did it to me twice today and I've seen her do it to my other siblings. If you challenge her she will literally try to physically get away from you as fast as possible while spouting insults and trying to get the last word, like a skunk spraying and running.

My mom said she respected how I felt but that she wasn't going to just ban my half-sister and her kids from coming around, which I get, it's her house and my sister is her kid too. But I'll probably never see her again.