What's wrong with me? I'm 22 and I've been with

How do you know sexting and nudes are better than sex if you never experienced sex? I´ve been with my gf almost 2 years and never had that necessity, even though several months passed until i could take her virginity. Ask yourself: Do I really love her? If yes, why cheat? If no, why are you still with her? It will only hurt her. And btw, she maybe didn´t get mad because somehow she discovered you and was glad you confessed. Maybe. You have to be the one that initiates it, women are not very likely to take the first step when it´s about sex.

>>17807332
>How do you know sexting and nudes are better than sex if you never experienced sex? I´ve been with my gf almost 2 years and never had that necessity, even though several months passed until i could take her virginity. Ask yourself: Do I really love her? If yes, why cheat? If no, why are you still with her? It will only hurt her. And btw, she maybe didn´t get mad because somehow she discovered you and was glad you confessed. Maybe. You have to be the one that initiates it, women are not very likely to take the first step when it´s about sex.

We have tried 3 times (first being 2 months ago) and every time my dick went limp when I put on a condom. It's always in the morning when I'm tired and she is never in the mood later in the day. Now I'm afraid that my masturbation habits have fucked me up.

And as far as love, I honestly don't know. She makes me really happy and I do everything I can to make her happy. We live together and are always with each other aside from class or work. I don't know how I should feel since this is my first real relationship. I can't see myself wanting to be with another girl.

>>17807340
So then if you really care about her stop sexting with girls and do that with her instead maybe some times. Let me tell you, the first 5 TIMES we tried to have sex i had your same problem, right when i was putting the condom on. You just have to be patient, kiss, foreplay, let her give you a hand job and put on the condom, it happens to a lot of us. Then when you will have sex many times, that problem will just go away. If you really want to make her happy, don´t let your sexual urges ruin your relationship, i have had urges before, but never seek it in other women, apart from porn, and im looking always at less and less porn and more at her nudes. (I am in a LDR). You´re not fucked up, just make a change and be patient with yourself when it comes to sex

>>17807346
+ and if you get limp anyways just wait doing foreplay or oral . don´t you get hard licking your gf? Like I said before, patience. My gf had a lot of patience with me and we have tried lots of time, you have to be relaxed, and have a high confidence. Even if you don´t have it, try to trick your mind to have it, the time we first could have sex, i pretended to be very confident with myself and just looked for have a good time with her and always thinking positive, even if I got limp, we waited some time doing lots of foreplay and then we got to it. I cummed in a short time but hey, after like 3 times of that happening it didn´t happen again and I don´t have problems with erections or cumming fast. Your body needs to adapt physically and mentally for this new situation, anxiety is a very common cause of your problem but like I said, confidence and patience

op remember when you were a little boy that couldnt pee when people were watching?
same thing. your dick cant get hard cause she is staring at it.
you need to blindfold that bitch and tell her youll be gentle as you have your way with her

>>17807346
>>>17807340 (You)
>So then if you really care about her stop sexting with girls and do that with her instead maybe some times. Let me tell you, the first 5 TIMES we tried to have sex i had your same problem, right when i was putting the condom on. You just have to be patient, kiss, foreplay, let her give you a hand job and put on the condom, it happens to a lot of us. Then when you will have sex many times, that problem will just go away. If you really want to make her happy, don´t let your sexual urges ruin your relationship, i have had urges before, but never seek it in other women, apart from porn, and im looking always at less and less porn and more at her nudes. (I am in a LDR). You´re not fucked up, just make a change and be patient with yourself when it comes to sex

Thank you for your help. But as far as what I've already done, how can I fix it? Another way I can justify it in my head is that I've already done it before and she won't find out. Like I already feel like I don't deserve her.

Also her sex drive is a lot lower than mine. She usually doesn't shave downstairs and will not reciprocate anything most of the time. If I don't get off at least once a day I feel like I'm going crazy. Eventually I got bored with porn and went back to this.

>>17807359
Sorry for late reply.
You can do right, you can fix things. You just have to talk to her about eveything, the sexting the nudes, yout both sex situation. I masturbate once 2 weeks now or 3, it feels good after a while you stop doing it.

>>17807315
Old man here with a bit of news for you.

You will never stop looking, noticing and wondering. Never. Love doesn't mean not looking; it means not doing anything more than looking.