My fiance just cheated on me. He didn't use a condom. He

>>17806913
Move on and find someone else.
Gonna need details if you want better advice, like all the red flags you missed.

Would it have been OK if he used a condom?

>>17806913

I'd say get some, "Me" time. Preferably away from home. Go spend some time with family, or whatever. It is the season. It'll give you some time to let things sink in, while at the same time let you get away from it all.

I'd say don't be afraid to process your emotions. It's not wrong to be angry, it's not wrong to be upset, it's not wrong to be sad, nor is it wrong to remember past memories fondly.

It can be confusing to find that somebody you were so close to didn't feel the same, or wasn't as close to you as you'd thought. So, you just need to ask yourself why you're feeling what you are feeling, and untangle your emotions. Verbalize it, and come to terms with the reality of it all.

It's easy to blame ourselves, but we have to realize that as many mistakes as we may make, others may make just as many or more. You did what you thought was right, and your fiance wasn't satisfied but never thought to speak with you and handle things properly.

The reality of it is that you two just weren't right for each other at the time.

I'm sorry to hear about this, it really sucks. I mean, you hear about it all the time, but you think it's just the media exaggerating things. Then it happens to you, and it's crushing. The only thing we can do is keep walking. Keep hoping. Remember than we can love, and can be happy rather than think about how we can also be sad.

Leave your ring on the table and don't look back

>>17806913
There aren't many options love. You can either just leave, or burn/destroy his things and leave.

>>17806913
Probably leave and be with family if you trust them or friends if you trust them or yourself if neither. Good luck.

>>17807046
no she should sell the ring and buy something nice with the money

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>>17807199
Im staying with my friends right now. We are having a fuck it party right now. Turns out I'm not the only one who had a guy cheat on her

But the woman wants to sue me for harassment, because i texted her mean things when i found out what he did

Shes going to the police this afternoon im so scared

>>17807212
Did you directly threaten her? Elaborate on "mean things"

>>17807230
This, how "mean" did you get to warrant calling the police

>>17807212
Don't worry about that at all. Given the circumstances, there's zero chance you'll get any reprimand for sending a few texts.

>>17806913

Is this him?
>>17807016

>>17806913
become a cuckquean

>>17806913
I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you. I generally advocate forgiveness when it is practical, but from the information you've given, this does not sound like one of those situations. If this guy is going to allow his passing atteactions to blossom into greater feelings than he has for you, then he is not ready for marriage, and probably never will be as long as he has a good woman in his back pocket.

Get out of there. Let yourself grieve, and then move on with your life. I'm sorry, but there's no other way.

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>>17807230
I told her she's fat for an anorexic. That he told me he loved her like he never loved anyone. That I know where she and her family live. That he wants to be back with her.

I want to die. I'm currently staying at a friend's place. She's too kind.

>>17807574
But I love him. I don't want to ever touch any other man.

>>17808090
Tell him you want a polyamorous relationship.

>>17808090
He betrayed you. Do you want to be with someone you can't trust?

>>17808090
Yeah at this point if you're dumb enough to stay with him you might as well ask if you could be a cuckqueen and watch your man fuck other women then maybe clean up after their mess.
I mean some guys do that for a living

I think you've answered your own question.

>>17806913
What can you do? You aren't married

>>17808090
Love isn't a good reason to let someone treat you like garbage.

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>>17808085
Oh hey I remember you

Don't worry, in 2 weeks you'll be on a new meat pole

Women evolved to move on quickly

>>17808119
L o l

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>>17808174
Lol

I wish you were right

I don't think I'll ever get over him. He was my everything. I was his nothing.

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>>17808223

Your everything? Grow up.

>>17808223
>He was my everything. I was his nothing.

Fuck OP, I want to say kys but that's not constructive. Just get over him, it will take a while, long while only you know when it's fine. Life moves on, you'll move on. Don't settle for less, you're worth more than this and it's not the end of the world. You probabaly won't an hero but if you're going to stay stagnant, then what's the point?

You need a day out with some friends (don't say your fiance, faggot), have fun or get fucked good by a chad to get even and then live YOUR life.

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>>17808288
Well I'm already chilling with some cool friends. They're really too kind. I'm going to buy a plane ticket and bail to the UK before a week is up. In the UK I can get a pretty neat job. I'm looking forward to it. I was never happy here.

I told him he can follow me. But for him that would mean leaving everything behind.

>>17808298
Cool story grill. Hopefully you do well in UK

>I told him he can follow me. But for him that would mean leaving everything behind.

Forgot about him you dingus!

>>17808223
Oh my God you sound absolutely damaged.

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>>17808313
I'll actually be a police officer. Something I was training to do when I met him and stopped to be with him. Something I was actually good at. Here I'm good at nothing.

I'm sad and empty but I don't want him to be sad and empty. Long ago I promised him I'd never let him go. And I meant it. I know he never meant it because he wanted to be with her but...I don't care about myself that much. He's a part of me. I care about that part.

Even though I shouldn't. Even though he will just hurt me again and never change. I naively want him to grow and become loyal. I'm an idiot.

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>>17808327
I am. I had a very bad life. My father wasn't in the picture much and when he was it was scary and never a stable relationship. My mother left my sister to raise me alone in rural poland until I was 10. We often didn't have enough food to eat. Then my mother asked 10 year old me if I wanted to go to the uk and I did...I spent the next 8 years in squalid rooms, sleeping on the floor crawling with bedbugs , black wall fungus, begging the landlord to let us stay another week and cockroaches (lol wish I was exaggerating. My life could be a movie hehe). At school I was severely bullied. Mostly because I stunk (my mother didn't let me wash too often and washing in the school sink only gets you so far) and could never invite anyone over. In fact some girls spotted me going into my hovel and the whole school mocked me for living in such a seedy delapidated place. I was also pretty weird, which as we all know results in merciless bullying. Probably an aspie of some sort.

When I was 18 I left for uni since I had good grades. That was when I met him online. I decided I wasn't enjoying my studies and so applied to be a copper ( since I had volunteered as one since I was 17 anyway). I went flying through the application process but decided I wanted to be with him. I knew he would never come to me, so I asked if I can come live with his parents and him in switzerland.

The next years were an exercise in insanity. Playing house with him while I tried to learn french and I tried to make friends. I couldn't do it. I tried to go to uni but because I'm a foreigner and because I was lacking qualifications for stringent swiss unis it was pretty tough.

He got a job as a teacher and we moved out. The coworker he fucked without a condom and loved more than he ever loved me was a latin teacher. I was haplessly sitting there making piedreams about studying medicine in french and opening an etsy for sewing shenanigans.

I can see why he left me. I'm broken and useless.

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>>17808368
Oh and my mother would beat me horribly for "looking at her wrong". I was left with no self esteem and no idea how to be happy or work hard or desire to do anything.

>>17808368
Well, yeah, go back to what you were doing before.

I'm also really sorry. I was going to say all kinds of horrible things to you before and I just couldn't send them. You seem like a really nice girl and you should go back to Zootopia and be the first rabbit police officer.

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>>17808378
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C5oScxIhZ6w

C'est la vie

>>17808391
What an absolutely uninspired song. Misses its potential every time there's an opportunity to be great. Boring chorus too. Like, really piss poor production.

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>>17808398
Well fuck you I liked it

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>>17808391
Thank you pegasus.
>>17808382
Haha I really liked that cheesy cartoon. It really struck a chord with me. I like cartoons where being a good person (or in this case mammal) is what ends up being the most important thing.

I wonder if that cartoon caused an uptick in copper applications

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>>17808415
Pain is only temporary, right onee-chan?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tm7Xf9818FM

>>17808415
If you want anon you can just be my stay at home gf and just cook while I work win/win

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>>17808455
This will definitely work

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Update:

I told him he's free to come with me to the Uk and he keeps saying things like
It's impossible
I can't
I'm not ready
It's too hard

So I made the choice for him and told him he's no longer free to come along. Now he has gone silent. My stomach hurts.

>>17808571
unclear if you're actually OP or not.

Don't give him back the engagement ring, it was a gift. Sell it and buy yourself whatever the fuck you want.

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>>17808571
This is what they call baggage

>>17808577
I want him to keep the ring. Maybe he can find another girl to put it on. I want him to be happy more than I want trinkets.

>>17808585
Don't be a beta bitch, you being stepped all over is probably a big reason why he treated you so badly.

Unless he got that ring from a cracker jack box he paid anywhere from 1K$ to 10K$ for it.

He obviously doesn't care. Sell it and buy yourself a nice dildo, a refrigerator of icecream. Every Steam game released in the last decade IDK, but fuck giving it back.

>>17808605
I thought if I was nice to him he would treat me well. If all men will treat me like this what's the point?

Given that he's flip flopping all over the place about going to the uk, loving her, loving me and even whether he wore a condom (he didnt) he probably will flip flop on other things.

I wanted a family with this man. Now my future is barren. Perhaps for good if he have me an STD since it was 5 months ago and chlamydia would have had enough time to render me infertile.

The funny thing is, he fucked me not a day after he fucked her.

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>>17808605
But he cared more than anyone else ever did

Maybe this is what I deserve

He's going to come and see me tomorrow. He will try to touch me and convince me to come back. My stomach is all twisted up.

He was still talking to her as recently as a month ago.

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>>17808631
Bad things happen to good people all the time

Doesn't look like you deserved it though

>>17807369
This

>>17806913
Post a pic of your feet

>>17808660
They're ugly. You wouldn't want to see them.I know because he's into feet. I guess hers were nice. Probably were. Didn't ask.

>>17808643
Thank you. I feel like I'm screaming into a void, but then the void is shouting nice things back at me. It feels theraupetic.

I guess I just want to tell people.

>>17806913
Call him in a week to tell him you might have herpes. There are way to give yourself some mild skin rash too, if you want to really fuck him up.

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The woman he slept with told us that if family or friends or her husband calls us to ask we are to claim they were jist friends and I'm a crazy possessive gf.

It's the story she told the cops when she reported me for harassment.

She says if we dont say so she will tell the police (and his workplace???not sure) that he raped her

He protects her still. I want to die.

>>17808691
He's getting tested on friday so it's pointless.

>>17808698
You are both being played like puppets.
Him by her and you by him.
Call the bitch with a program to record calls. Make her say something compromising, then send her the mp3 to make it clear you are not to be trifled with and that you keep her by her metaphorical balls. Start rebuilding a life.
You made a mistake as a kid, learn from it while you can.

>>17808706
Scrub some poison ivy in his boxers.
Or leave some shit filled pastry in the fridge.

Yes, it sounds puerile but just imagine his expression while taking a bite out of a bigné only to process its taste when it is too late to stop.

>>17808605
Oh fuck off, I hate people like you.

I have a friend who's just like you and anytime I do something nice or passive he always gives me "advice" on how I should of been more aggressive or vindictive.

You've already made several posts about selling the rings and she's said no buddy, learn to read.

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>>17808717
>I just had a horrible breakup with my girlfriend
>ooh, she left a bignet
>and it's chocolate!
mfw

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>>17808686
if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee

>>17808631
Dw just sell the ring use it to buy a ticket to my apartment, then you can just live here rent free and cook and at night we can watch anime and play vidya, I'll even reciprocate on oral. And on Sundays you can suck my dick while watching westworld. It's perfect.

>>17808909
Naruto is fucking gay btw

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>>17809008
I can't deny that

I'd marry Haku

>>17808766
Something Nice or passive?

Her fiance cheated bareback on some skank and told her he loves his fuckbuddy more than her?

Fuck off retard. There's being humble and then there's being such a bitch you're basically and object.

succ

>>17806913
This is not very detailed. But from what you've said:
Honestly I would make a huge monologue about how he ruined your fucking life, that you put your all into him and now you genuinely know what hate feels like now etc etc

>>17808085
Your love is what probably gave the guy the fucking confidence to say that to you. You need to show him that he's wrong, and that you don't need him.

>>17808710
Listen to this one anon

>>17809118
You're right. I need to stay strong. He will talk to me today around 5.

And if abyone calls she said, im supposed to tell them theres nothing between them and that im crazy or else she will sue him for rape

I hate my life. It's all a dead black hole. I'm going to call the nice police officer that talked to me yesterday and ask her for advice. I don't think she can help but it feels better when im not alone.

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>>17809118
He claims be was unsure and now he sees her real face or something

The worst part for me is that he fucked me like a day or so after he fucked her. Looking back I feel like I lived with a psychopath. So many things are falling into place now

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>>17809500
I'm sure if you look around you aren't alone

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>>17809507
Wow, we posted in the same minute

I hope that never happens to me, I'd go berserk

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>>17809126
Considering that I want to just leave this situation be and I want her to leave me the hell alone...I'm not going to do that. I don't want her threatening him and me and doing god knows what

I jist want to go at this point and start fresh anew. But he doesn't want me to. How do you cut someone loose when yoh love them this much? It wouldn't hurt so much if I didn't love the bastard.

>>17809518
You just stop talking to them and seeing them

>>17809511
Synchronicity is weird like that.

It feels like the ultimate betrayal. Snd the only reason he's considering going to thr uk is because he cant stand staying in his job now. Fuck it im dumb as shit.

He knows I'm in love and is using it. Just like he knew in in love so its ok to rosk everything by tellong me hes not sure if he wants to be with her or not

And he hugged me too soon before he said that

Or was it aftee

I don't know the alcohol doesnt make remembering easier

>>17809518
It will take time to gather some courage.

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>>17809529

Just don't become so cold you're unable to feel the warmth of another again

>>17809530
I feel like I'd need all the time on the world to get over him, and he will do all he can to make me stay

Im scared of his parents. Theyre completely on his side (go figure ) and im scared theyll say terrible things to me again. Things like "its not that bad. Ot happens. Just get over it and dont be too hard on him. Dont get tested most people dont have diseases"

I want to curl up into a ball and die, but then my friends dog starts trying to lick me all over and brings me a toy haha. Dogs are too pure honestly.

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>>17809538
So I'm going to try and find the courage to call my family today.

First the cops, cleaning ( want to earn my keep here hehehe) and maybe even the infoline the cop lady gave me. She told me its for people going through very tough situations like people cheating on them, relatives dying and stuff like that. At this point I want to use my phone as an instrument for digging my future so I'll give it a shot. Even though I'm dubious.

I dont even know what to tell my sister. She thought he was an amazing guy. So did my mum. We dont have much in terms of family or well anything so he was welcomed with wide open arms since we are short on members, and many members are fucked up in some way...So we were holding him close to our bosoms.

My niece was calling him uncle and really looking forward to coming over in January. I want to die.

But I also want to live. More than I did yesterday. I feel like I'm regaining strength. I'm lucky in a lot of ways and I need to keep focused on that. Even if the std test comes to the worst (aids) I will fight. If it's that bad I don't think I'll ever be the bubbly happy person I am deep under all this crap, but I'll live and maybe make other people's lives better.

It's what I want to do. She took my sunshine away, but I want others to hold onto theirs. It would make so happy and fulfilled to do that. So that's what I'm trying to focus on now. That and not going ballistic haha.

I've been trying to alternatively read and research my plans, but I can't concentrate. I get to the bottom of the page and the words swim off. I get to the bottom of the application pdf and it feels like every word was identical.

I feel like a toddler. How am I supposed to fight and be strong when I'm like this?

>>17807202
Not allowed.
Engagement rings don't belong to the person they were given to if they split up before marriage, so she can't legally sell it.
At least that is how it goes in GA

>>17809687
I want him to keep it. It's too painful.

Dump him and if you paid for the house, then leave his shit on the street. If not, then get all of your stuff and get an apartment.

>>17809715
I'm too weak to dump him. I'm not strong like her.

I guess that's why he loved her and I was the future child incubator/vaginapet

>>17809528
That's what I'm trying to do. But ai can't promise myself I won't tell her husband the truth if he calls. Even though she threatened to accuse my fiance of rape if we tell the truth.

>>17806913
Does this mean, and those words, you've been dumped? Sound like he did you a favour.

>>17809518
She is still likely to fuck both of you up.
A recording won't hurt anyone, just gathwr some courage and do it.

>>17809500
>>17809500
get a recorder and record the conversations so just in case any more drama happens and to cover your ass if the girl is threatening to cry rape.

i got my brother to do this to a girl who was trying to give him false charges and he got out of 10 years of prison for something he didn't do

>>17807212
>harassing the girl because your guy prefered her to you
Why would you do that? It's not her fault, leave her alone, he'll probably leave her at some point too since he sounds like a prick.
Break up with him and tell him to fuck off if he ever tries to get back with you

>>17810136
Also, reading the thread further: either record her telling you the threats, or just fuck it and tell her husband/family about the thing. She can report rape, why not, I think usually you need to prove somehow you were raped and even if he gets jailed then it's his fault he slept with some crazy married chick and """loves her"""

>>17810139
>I think usually you need to prove somehow you were raped and even if he gets jailed then it's his fault he slept with some crazy married chick and """loves her"""
That's enough justification for a man to spend years in jail, in your mind? That's how you support false rape accusations?

>>17808085
You don't need to worry about ger suing uour for harassment as long as you don't keep doing it after you calmed down.
The judge will attribute the messages to your outburst of anger and emotional shock. It'll be a waste of money for her and you.

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>>17810139
In switzerland you cant record people without their permission

In any case i just hope she will leave us alone. Ive calmed down a lot now (im still very sore but not maddened by anger bouncing off the walls crazy) so...

Eh

Also he said he's following this thread. I think he should make his own because from his perspective it can't be easy either. I don't know anything anymore. I feel slowed down and stupid.

>>17810139
Yeah the cops actually told me she can't do shit (I called to talk to them) and that for rape you need proof. You can't just go around accusing people you don't like of rape.

But I'm hardly strong enough to put on my clothes in the morning. I don't have the strength to fight this too.

>>17809982
I know. I'm scared of this so much. She will want revenge for the mean things I said and for "harassing her and her husband". I'm really scared because she's smarter than me and more evil.

She will do something else maybe in a week maybe in a month maybe in two. Im scared

>>17810911
Have you considered... Honey I feel really bad for your situation. I can't even shitpost. You gotta be strong, get all your shit out of his place and fuck off back to the UK as quick as you can. Just fucking end the conversation right there.

There is no self, you are a shell that can be emptied by you at anytime. Get past this as quickly as you can and let it all go into the past for God's sake please honey, you're young, and I hate to see someone your age go through this kind of nonsense.

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>WAAH WAAH CHAD CHEATED ON ME THIS WAS SO UNEXPECTED WAAH WAAH

Lmaoing @ ur life

Of course, you will probably leave him which is my primary advice.

This may be a good time to find yourself (truly understand your goals, wants, and cares) or hop on the dick carousel for a few last rides.

I'm truly sorry he couldn't end this relationship before finding some woman. Be happy it didn't happen while you were married.

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>>17811727
I know, I hate my life too.

I feel like they took my joy away. I can't be happy again. I don't think he was a chad when I met him but I guess he became one which is why he did this. He figured he can fuck as many women as he likes and I won't leave him because I'm weak.

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>>17811824
I wish I could. I'm scared to leave him alone because he might hurt himself. He promised me he wouldn't, but then he promised me he'd use a condom if he ever cheated so I can't trust him.

He won't let me go. I can't let him go. I thibk im being more clingy to him than h3 is to me. Wheb I see him im doing all the talking. When we text the whole screeb is just me saying abd thibking all these thibgs and him just saying "ok" or "il so scared" or "this is a nightmare". Nothing constructive much.

I don't know if I'm strong enough to carry us both back to london. I'm going to need to bail alone. If he wants to follow (doubtful) he needs to find the strength within himself to do that. Not lean on me. I can't look at my naked body without crying, how does h3le expect me to make him heal, to convince him and to do everything?

>>17806913
you deserve it

>>17811703
Thank you. I feel so confused. I just wanted a guy that wouldn't do this stuff to me you know? I even told him if he develops feelings to talk it out with me that we can take a break. I told him if he feels weak and cheats to wear a condom to protect me. I told him to at least get tested before he resumes sex with me. He had sex with me like a day or two after he fucked her.

I'm scared I'll never find anyone like him. He took care of me and protected me for so many years. But now I need to protect myself.

I still haven't bought my ticket back. I don't think he's ready for me goijg away. His cumrag going away.

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>>17812694
I know. I agree. I wasn't skinny enough for him. I wasn't clever and mature enough. I wasn't as compatible as she was.

>>17808631
>Maybe this is what I deserve
Nope, you deserve better than this

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And even a few days ago when he was reading her texts and I tried ti leanover to read he keaned away.

Why am I so blind? He still loves her. Loved her a few days ago, told her sweet nothings a few weeks ago. And I'm supposed to stay his house pet he thinks.

I want to die.

there are plenty of guys who would treat you better than that

don't give up on a relationship because of this

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>>17812715
I don't think he or his family agree. Nor do I. People like me are doormats.

>>17812720
He's the only real relationship I ever had. We were together for 7 years or so.

>>17806913
Stop caring and move on. He probably never liked you to begin with if he says that to you

>>17812719
Sounds like you're going through a real holocaust

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>>17812740
I don't know how to stop caring. I showed him my childhood home, I took him to my father's grave, I looked at the stars with him and allowed him his freedom.

He was free to be friends with her. I was actually really happy she was making him happy at first. I'm a fucking

And the night befire he told me he fucked me. Guess he wanted to get a last taste of what matters to him the most

>>17808619
>I thought if I was nice to him he would treat me well. If all men will treat me like this what's the point?
Whoa this is what "nice guys" say all the time.

OP, you're a very dedicated girlfriend and I gotta congratulate you for that - many guys, myself included, would die for something like that.

But sadly your asshole of a boyfriend didn't reciprocate, and worse, had to resort to cheating before saying a word.

I'd advice appointing a meeting with a therapist. I'm fairly certain nobody here can do a thing and you're having huge issues while trying to cope. Moreover you have family issues that must be solved asap.

>>17812766
I was and am fiercely loyal. I would have never cheated on him. I would have stayed with him if he lived in a cardboard box.

He's nine years older than me and on top of that I'm stupid. He manipulated his fuck toy.

The woman he cheated on me with is 15 years older than me. She's more intelligent and mature.

>>17812766
I think he needs a therapist more than I do. I'll be fine.

>>17812775
>I would have stayed with him if he lived in a cardboard box.
It almost makes me sad my ex gf didn't have your dedication.

>>17812778
I don't know, your posts indicate otherwise. You don't seem like you will be alright. Being unwilling to move past him, albeit reasonable at first, is definitely not normal.

>>17812783
There are plenty of women like me out there. Just show a girl with a really rough loveless past some love and she'll be as loyal as a rescue dog.

I can't go to a therapist even if I wanted to. I don't have any insurance, permits papers nothing useful. I'm a legal nonentity. I managed to figure out how to get an anonymous std bloodtest but don't kid yourself, he didn't do that for me. If phe won't pay for it my friend promised to lend me the money.

>>17812796
>Just show a girl with a really rough loveless past some love and she'll be as loyal as a rescue dog.
That was me with my ex. Except she didn't show any respect for me ever. Ya know what I did? I started to work on my self esteem. I understand your position though, and even when I'm far more hesitant to show the sort of loyalty I showed my ex back then I'm certain that if my guard went down I'd be as loyal as ever.

>I can't go to a therapist even if I wanted to
You said that you would go back to the UK right? Try putting your stuff together first and once you're settled, and given that you still haven't gotten over this or don't feel like you are recovering, go to a therapist.

>>17812807
If I go back to the Uk I'll be at my mum's place at first....And I don't know if I can hide this from her, and once she finds out I don't think she will let me be with him.

>>17812813
I mean sure it's my choice and she can't say a thing at the end of the day, but she had been cheated on when she was pregnant and he got the other woman pregnant...I'm scared she will convince me to leave him if that makes sense

Even though it's what I've been doing all day. Trying to convince myself I need to leave him.

>>17812813
That's the point. Why would you be with somebody who cheated on you? "Because I love him" isn't a valid reason, because you should love yourself first and foremost. So give me yet another reason.

oh don't worry fembitch I know of somebody who fucked his wife's supposed cousin on the regular because old bitches are prunes compared to younger women. You feral modern feminist deserve it honestly because you are annoying as fuck.

>>17808223
>I don't think I'll ever get over him. He was my everything. I was his nothing.

I know that feel from my past ex. It won't seem like it now, but you WILL lose that feeling. You only feel like it now because the wounds are still fresh (I'm assuming this happened recently. If not, it's still ok to have these feelings, however). It will pass, but you also have to make the necessary steps to become a stronger person over time. Learn to love and rely on yourself more, so that you don't feel like you NEED someone else there to make you happy. It's fine to depend on others from time to time if you need to, but don't ever EVER let anyone be your "everything". You need to learn how to stand on your own if you ever want to truly be happy.

I learned this the hard way as well. My "everything" left me for another girl, because I was so depressed and dragged him down - although he never verbalized it until after he broke up with me. I'm better now, confidence wise at least. I know I can stand on my own and I've learned to enjoy my own company. I used to need someone there to make me happy, but I've found happiness within myself just being alone with my thoughts. Now, when I choose to start dating again, I'll be a better and stronger person for myself and my next boyfriend.

>>17812835
I'm not a feminist but you're right. I deserved it.
>>17812818
I have no self esteem. He has been there for me all these years until this.

>>17812838
It happened on sunday. Since then it's like everything is a nightmare. I want to wake up so badly. I would hug him forever if I could just wake up. I want him to wake me up.

>>17812835
She is older than me by 15 years but looks way better than me. Also has a better mind and personality

>>17812877
lol so you're a dude pretending to be female ;) you or the bitch a failure?

>>17812883
No I'm not a transsexual. I'm just ugly with no wit or personality. Which is worse in a way.

>>17812883
I'm the failure. She has a husband, a lovely family, a great body, a degree and a great job.

>>17806913
>my bf cucked me what do i do?
Huh...leave him?
>B-but i love him
Pathetic, you will leave someone treat you like garbage just because you """ love"" them? Move on and you will find someone better.
If you love yourself leave him and travel , that will help you move on.

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>>17812959
Wait which one of you is the op? Your story is falling apart at the seems brodette

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>>17812966
Both?...I know you're trolling but I'm too weak to fight. He still hasn't spoken to me. I can see on his whatsapp that he went online at lunchtime today. Didn't even bother to text me.

I need to move on.

You can't do what he did and expect things to stay the same. But its what he wants from me. He just wants me to come home and be his cumrag like it always was.If I stay with him I will have to forgive him anew every single day and thats fine for me but I don't know if its fine for him.

I'm broken

>>17810799
To be honest everybody is responsible for themselves. If I fuck a crazy girl and she accuses me of rape, I either prove I didn't rape her, or regret fucking a crazy girl. But the thing is, I'm not gonna fuck a crazy girl who would accuse me of rape in the first place. Also, in my country the law is like in OP's country >>17810908 ie you need to prove you were forced to have sex somehow, so there would be no problem anyways.

Either way it's not OP's problem that he may get accused of rape.


To OP: don't base off your self-esteem on some prick you put on a pedestal. It's not surprising you ended up with a guy like that given your issues, but I don't think you understand how exactly you "deserved" this. Stick to a rule: give as much as you get. If what you get is a guy cheating on you and telling you he doesn't love you, don't give him your love.
Why do you think you are a failure?

>>17810881
I hope so. But she can still try and harass me later by contacting my family or sending me mean things. I'm scared of that too.

Not to mention she still works with him, she could start some shit at school for revenge

Fuck

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>>17813002
Thank you. I read over this thread a lot as well as the other one. It helps a lot. I'm a failure because I don't have a degree like she does and im not skinny like her

And worst of all I dont make him happy like ahe did


Going to go make some borscht with a friend now. Eastern european comfort food. This would be funny if I could laugh.

I'm lucky I have people who will let me stay, I should count my blessings

>>17812707
>I wasn't skinny enough
lmao it all makes sense now

>>17813008
what is her degree?
also protips it's not the degree that made him cheat kek

>>17813008
Come on, don't compare yourself to her like that, because for example you're not a kind of person who would accuse someone of rape that didn't happen. I'd rather date you than her just for that.

Being skinny is not something you should be concerned about unless you're very overweight (in this case you should start working out/change your diet, because being overweight is unhealthy - doesn't make you a worse person though)
As for a degree, you can always get one if you feel you need it. But if you have a satisfying job without it, there's no need to be concerned about it either. If you ever want to get one I recommend it though, I'm getting one unrelated to job I do, just because I wanted to learn something new. It's fun to have "pro" knowledge on something.

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>>17813013
You guys sound like every guy that has a girlfriend who's not skinny cheats on her with skinny girls, which is not true. A lot of guys will reject a girl on this basis, sure, but he fucking proposed to her and then cheated, surely it wasn't just about her not being skinny.

>>17808698
>her husband
L M A O

OP you should fuck her husband to restore the symmetry of this system.

>>17806913
Just go find someone else what else is there to do ?

>>17807053
Yeah, destroy his stuff then get charged for destruction of property and sued for damages. Great plan.

>>17813009
Yeah I weigh 74 kgs now abd am going to go down to 55 at least (already lost 7 kgs). I was around 80kgs when he cheated on me.

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>>17813074
You're right.

>>17813087
I wouldn't want to do that for him. I feel little anger towards him. Just disgust and dissapointment. Maybe sadness.

>>17813028
Lol I dont thibk I ever want to fuck anyone ever again

Which is funny because I used to love sex

>>17813145
>I was around 80kgs
holyfuck lol

>>17813231
Yeah. I don't blame him for cheating in all honesty.

I know.

>>17812877
>I have no self esteem.
And you say that you don't need a therapist.

Dear, I'm sorry to break it for you, but you don't love him as nearly as you believe you do. For the most part you were using him as a way to validate yourself and cooe with your lack of self esteem.

Say, do the following. Try looking at him for who he was, pushing to a side every instance of him making up for your lack of self esteem, and every emotion that made you feel validated. Tell me what you come up with.

>>17812959
Nothing of that makes a great person. She cheated on her husband.

>>17812707
Some of us prefer girls to be not so skinny. Even if you weight 80kg. I know I do.

>>17813223
You'll get over it.

Something similar happened to me too, except he cheated on me with many different girls and men.

It has been a year now and I feel much better. I compared myself to the other girls but it's just stupid. I am me and I know there is someone who wants someone exactly like me. He didn't want me. He is a broken man and so is your ex. You will get over this and you will be so much stronger. It took a while to go no contact with my ex but it's the best thing I ever did. Life feels so calm without someone trying to hurt me.

You sound so sweet. I will send some good energy towards you <3

>>17813275
Thank you. It's so hard right now.

Thank you for your comforting words

>>17813275
I take exception to this idea that wanting other people means he doesn't want you, and that liking more than one person at a time makes broken.

>>17813337
He broke up with me to be with another girl. He lied to me about everything. I take that as he didn't want me. Honest, open relatioship where you fuck other people with permission is completely different.

>>17812796
>Just show a girl with a really rough loveless past some love and she'll be as loyal as a rescue dog

Wrong, did this and she was the worst gf I've ever had

>>17813531
True, I was like that and I was clingy and jealous as hell. Got cheated on and that made me come to my senses. Now I am not jealous, I can't control my (new) bf but I am loyal.

>>17813544

I had a girl that was jealous all the time. She ended up being psychotic and trying to kill herself (BPD). Definitely dropped that.

Is this the peg a sus thread

>>17813587
No, this is a "I dated a loser and made him Chad accidentally" thread

>>17813521
>He broke up with me to be with another girl. He lied to me about everything. I take that as he didn't want me.
This is my point. All this means is he wanted the other girl more, and could have her. Not that he didn't want you.
That he bothered to lie to you suggest, to me, that you did mean something to him.

>Honest, open relationship where you fuck other people with permission is completely different.
Yes, but i'm not really thinking about those.
Cheating on a closed relationship still suggests that you want to be in that relationship. It's just that the relationship isn't giving you EVERYTHING you want, but what relationship does?

Cheating could also be a process of realizing you really don't want to be in your current relationship anymore. That happened to a friend of mine and his ex. But that's a different issue.

>>17813621
Well, it certainly doesn't sound like love, just being afraid of being alone.

>>17813719
There's no difference.
I mean, the (your?) idea of "the one true love" is just silly and naive.

>>17806934
Anon, i'm not OP but you helped me too, thanks

>>17813621
>Cheating on a closed relationship still suggests that you want to be in that relationship. It's just that the relationship isn't giving you EVERYTHING you want, but what relationship does?
Okay this is advanced trolling and everyone, including myself, fell for it. 20/10 I seriously believed that you wanted help.

Go fuck yourself and come back whenever you seriously want to get out of this hole you created.

>>17813731
Nah, there are different kinds of loves. If you hurt your partner and are on dating sites trying to find a new girlfriend... Well that is, to me, some weird kind of love. But I get what you are saying.

>>17813762
Oh, please don't think i'm OP, or anything. I'm just a random anon with some thoughts.

>>17813802
This is why IDs should be on this board

Normalfags can't follow a conversation

>>17813771
>there are different kinds of loves.
Which is why i don't like the perpetuation of the idea of a singularly directed all consuming ideal love, that so many, especially here on /adv/, seem to have.

>>17813823
Normalfags can fuck off, or bloody well learn to anonymous.

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>>17813834
This board is basically Facebook