If you're a tomboy, is it smart to girly yourself up at

>>17797240

heres the thing. all men are perverts.

but very few men are exclusively perverts. romance is basically just friendship with the added benefit of sex these days. so if you're not into being sexy for a guy, why not just be someones sister?

that being said, you dont need to girlie yourself up. if you want him to notice you, make a move. he either likes you for you or he doesn't.

As a tomboy, I often get mistaken for a feminist or lesbian so guys never actually approach me.

Why not, like... Fucking approach them yourself? They either like you, or not and no "girlying" yourself up is gonna change that.

>>17797240
I can't speak for all guys but I fucking love a slightly girly tomboy. But you also have to realize you won't be dressed up all the time you're with him, you need a guy that likes your look

>>17797257
>heres the thing. all men are perverts.
Yup

My dad and older brothers were pretty blunt with "the talk"

It's about finding a guy who won't smash AND dash

>if you want him to notice you, make a move
I'm bad with rejection

It feels like I'm an invalid
>>17797304
>Fucking approach them yourself?
I have, and the answer I get is some shit about what a "special friend" I am and pity

>>17797324
True

Don't change yourself for a guy. It's cliche as fuck, but he needs to like you for you. If you put on a charade - even if it's slight - then he isn't liking the real you. I know as creatures we like to peacock but it's not worth it in the long run.

>Is it a bad thing to actively want a boyfriend?
No, but ultimately you gotta live for yourself and do what makes you happy.

>I have, and the answer I get is some shit about what a "special friend" I am and pity
Then you just haven't found guys that are into you.

>I'm bad with rejection
Women always want men to make the first move and it's met with rejection very often. It's part of life. Not everyone will like you and there are so many people in this world.

>>17797349

>I'm bad with rejection

if you kill yourself, you wont have to be rejected ever again :^)

be a woman, learn to handle a 'no'.

>>17797349
You sound like a guy in high school

Not a tomboy myself, but I have a friend who is very much a tomboy. From her experience, I do think it can be worth putting in a little bit of effort, at least when it comes to your appearance. Personality depends on what you're like, if you're crass and curse like a pirate, you're probably going to have a harder time than if you just have masculine hobbies and interests