Hey guys, long time answerer first time asker I've been

I said whoa don't lie, I saw you emailing him last night. She broke down and admitted it, and showed me a text app with literally 20 sentences replies of conversations going on for weeks. Literally hundreds a day, I felt sick and said what the fuck. She said she only did it because she has no female friends and she said she doesn't like talking to me because I don't listen, I said I always do and always will. In her texts with him she said "my boyfriend never listens to me". To her credit, she said I could read them all. I said I don't care what's in them and to delete them, I said I'm hurt she lied by saying she want talking to him. I made her swear she would never contact him again and if she did, we're breaking up. I said I forgive her for this time and I said I'm worried about her depression and she has agreed to see a psychiatrist

I'm still highly pissed she said no, she broke alot of trust with me in that. Am I wrong for feeling that way? I'm not looking for consolation In a sob story since this isn't my first rodeo with girls but the anger from hearing she wasn't talking to him and getting caught in a lie hurts

Sorry this is turning long as hell and tl dr but she said since he overcame his depression and now she's in his shoes she feels he understands her and listens better than I do, I have always listened to her and am a gentle person. Her parentd are tough on her, but my mom treats her like a daughter and alwaysn listens. thanks for any replies

Let me break it down for you, because simplicity - is the best explanation.

1. She has a crazy ex boyfriend who she let into her life, it shows about her that she's a weak person
2. She has no female friends
3. She has depression (Doesn't matter if she agreed to see a psychiatrist)
4. She hid the truth from you while emotionally cheating on you with her ex
5. On top of hiding the truth she lied to you when confronted about still talking or feeling for her ex

I've just been left by my gf of 1 year and 4 months, for another guy who she's been emotionally cheating on me with for the past 2 months without telling me

There is no forgiving this, she lied, she'll continue to lie, you are better than this - think about yourself, this is all you.
You do not deserve this, the sex isn't worth it, the "companionship" isn't worth it, find yourself a worthy girl who's fucking normal, you're not saint jesus who needs to fix anyone, and you're not some low-standard fatass who will take whichever woman he can get.

People lie, people manipulate, people are capable of terrible things, It's how you choose to live that dictates who you are - she clearly made wrong choice, don't let her drag you down.

Make the right choice, break up with her and don't look back *FOR YOUR OWN GOOD*

I truly believe she wouldn't get together with him again considering he's in another country and all, I'm pissed that she lied about talking to him. Anytime she asks me something of the sort, I tell the truth because getting caught in a lie makes it 5x worse. He was her first boyfriend so she can be "awkward" in relationships but I have proven I am dedicated to her In the last 2 years, she seemed the same but when I saw hundreds for 5 paragraph replies back and forth I could have puked.

Sitting here at work I've thought of it and I'm going to give a gentle reminder tomorrow that If she ever talks to him again, that's it and that she's hurt me by breaking my trust. I feel guilty going through her email but the fact they went to the extent of using whatsapp or whatever the hell secret messaging when she has free texting to the usa was a dagger

Thanks for the reply btw, being stuck in a giant warehouse with a couple other guys at 1am isn't exactly comforting

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No problem mate, I know the struggle, but if you take my advice I think It'll be better for you, better to get something new than to try and fix something she broke, It's her choice and you can't control her actions as a person.. I'd say you're setting yourself up for getting hurt even bigger.