Ok this is going to be a long one I expect, thanks for reading!

>>17760726

When we moved into the house I bought carpets, furniture, all sorts of things and I had been living there for about 3 months before she dropped this on me. I hung around living with her for about 3 weeks while I weighed up my options hoping she would change her mind, and decided to move back in with my mother and sister. All through this I'm asking the ex to explain why she isn't happy, what could I do, is there someone else, but she never gave me a real answer. She said that she needed her space, maybe in a few months without me she would be able to make sense of it.

I have been out of the house about 2 months now, I didn't feel a great deal of emotion about losing her, but I deeply miss the kids, I have them when I can but they can't stay overnight at my mothers house, and I work long hours so fitting them in can be difficult. I also miss family life, and the companionship you gain with someone you've known for 8 years, which she seemed to switch off like a tap.

I blocked her on social media, when I saw her to exchange the kids I'd say very little to her, I couldn't look her in the eye. At those times I felt pretty bad but I could ignore to a point.

To be continued..

>>17760728

Now I've found out from somebody that my ex works with, that my ex has been seeing a guy from her work which she has known for years. This is a guy that she had told me before that he reminded her of me when we first got together, and actually said his name during sex once.. I was willing to put this to one side as we had been having certain bedroom fantasies which I'll leave for another time.

Now I struggle to believe that they spontaneously started dating after I was well out of the picture. I have asked her directly if she was cheating on me with him but she doesn't say yes or no. I had a minor argument with her regarding babysitting, because I was having to sit in her house one night a week until she got home from work, after I found out she was seeing this guy. I said I shouldn't have to be in that position because it's too difficult for me, why can't the new guy sit here all night while the kids are in bed.

She was very defensive about this telling me it was none of my business, telling me that it was the 'very early beginning' and he doesn't have anything to do with the kids. My response was that she's known him for years and he knew what he's getting into, but also that I shouldn't have to sit in the family home I was kicked out of while she is with someone else.

A week later I'm on Facebook and my exs sister took a selfie with my daughter at exs house and posted it, I notice in the background somebody sitting in a chair, my chair, at my desk (I'd bought this when we moved in, it was expensive but I have no room for it), using my computer monitor, to play a game on his PC. Oh it's the guy from her work. Seems pretty settled in for the 'very early beginning' of a relationship.

This has really sparked something in me and I'm losing sleep over it, feeling like I've been lied to for a long time.

>>17760734
Obviously I don't have all the facts, but you don't take your computer over to play games with headphones on at a girls house you've only been seeing a month. This combined with threats from her about me having to pay child maintenance (she could force me to pay 20% of my wages directly to her) has really got me angry and bitter.

I guess my question is, how do I deal with all of this. I wish I wish that I could have just cut her out of my life and not cared what she does, but with the children I can't just block her out. I've had my entire life taken away from me so suddenly, and I've been replaced so quickly.

She has been extremely cold and oddly bitter towards me the whole time also, she acts like the victim and like I have wronged her, she says things like I don't care about the children, which is always when she wants me to have them but I can't, she knows how busy I am. I have been incredibly amicable towards her considering the circumstances, 'if you can't say nothing nice say nothing at all'.

One thing that has cheered me up is that several members of her family are disgusted with her actions and genuinely feel bad for me, also I'm so glad we weren't married and I hadn't bought a house with her (I was saving up to do that). I don't really know what I'm asking for, I suppose any advice from people in similar situations, thanks.

tl;dr : kicked out of my home away from my kids, possibly cheated on with guy who appears to have moved in quite quickly.

Erm, bump?

Take the kids and the house from her

>>17760738
What legal recourse do you have? Talk to a lawyer. Figure out how you can play this. She's obviously been consistently cheating on you and you don't seem too shook up over losing her, just the kids and the house. See if you can take those from her and then cut ties.

>>17760734
>and actually said his name during sex once
>didn't leave her right then and there after that

sasuga cuck