Do you ever get over the need to "sow your wild oats"

>>17759959
I personally can't help you since I've been in one relationship so far and recently broke up and am 28. I never had that "play around phase" and don't care to I guess. I have a married friend though who I think... without a relationship he felt empty. He found a woman and they don't have very much drama between them and so he settled for her. He's pretty much what women want though (tall, olive skin, plays guitar like a madman) no homo. I know he banged a lot of women before her and maybe he went through what you did. If you aren't ready don't do it.

>>17759959
Femanon perspective, but oh totally. I fucked everything I could up until about 27. Even leaving major relationships because I was afraid of settling down. Now, almost 2 years later, I know what I want; sex isn't as attractive to me as personality and intellectual/humor compatibility.

But, let me tell you, all that "practice" I got made me an awesome lover, so I'm glad I got it out of my system then so I can please my man to the fullest.

I've had friends who settled down after many years of being party animals and fucking everything in front of them. Some of them are happily married, and some of them are not. Some of them are cheaters.

As I get older I've realized that maybe not everyone is built for the monogamy lifestyle. The most important thing is to follow your desires and not commit to something based on expectations or social pressure. If that means you'll never settle down, that's not necessarily a bad thing.

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yes get off birth control and whatever cocktail of antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications you use and then kill yourself

nah don't kill yourself (or maybe do) but do the other thing and you'll see you'll change a bit.

>>17760062

lol I'm a guy so I don't use birth control, and I'm not on meds either.

>>17759959
Male here - to be honest I've never really had that impulse. I had casual sex a few times when I was younger, but it was kinda always just because the opportunity presented itself and my friends urged me to go for it. It was fine but it always kinda made me anxious, or I'd catch feelings, I never really liked just "hooking up" with people. In my mind I always wanted a serious relationship, I was "tired of fucking people without feelings" the first time I did it. I fell in love with my first girlfriend, married her, and we've been together nine years now.

I dunno. I think there are some people that are wired from monogamy, some people who just aren't, and some people whose preferences just change over time. But I wouldn't ever force yourself to "settle down" if that doesn't feel natural to you, that's how people end up cheating. I still notice attractive women, I had like a little work crush on a co-worker for a while, but I've never cheated and never felt that STRONG impulse to fuck other women that some of my married friends seem to have.

>>17759980
Roastie.

>>17760079
condoms are birth control
so is getting a vasectomy