Long story. Can't really do a TL;DR because that would be

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Shameless self bump. Posted in a few other anon's topics, for any mods reading this.

Her happiness is not your burden. Do what makes you happy.
1) Being with her makes you happy
2) Being with her makes her unhappy and that makes you unhappy

If 2 > 1 then stay away from her.

>>17752220
That's the thing, though. When we would text, we would text basically nonstop for a few days until one of us would get too busy to text the other, I was fine with that, she was fine with that, we knew we were both busy people.

We also never get bored of the conversation (obviously) and can always find something new to talk about, wether it be my hobbies, her hobbies, life in general, music, even mundane topics. We also keep making plans to hang out, but they never fall through, because again, we've both got busy lives, and she lives about maybe 45 minutes to an hour away, which I wouldn't mind driving at all.

She hasn't specifically said she still had a thing for me, but she didn't deny it when I asked her, either, and I asked her to be straight up with me, that I'd rather hear a no and continue being good friends than be playing little games.

I know how it feels to lose someone to someone else, so I don't want to put her bf in that situation. Especially coz he's military.

Not that I'm afraid or anything, it's just that that would be an extremely shitty thing to come home to, being stationed out there and having to come home to find girl who's been fighting so hard to stay with you being with someone else.

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Here's an image since I didn't post one last post.

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More bumps. More random images.

>>17752156
The best thing you can do is talk to her and understand if she's still into you and if there is a chance to be together or not.
If she says she has no interest in you or doesn't want to be with you anyway, move on.

Pursuing a person in a relationship is selfish, but might be rewarding.
Try to be as respectful as possible. Don't bring her to cheat on him, don't try to push her to break up with him. It is ultimately her choice and you shouldn't influence her too much. I'd suggest to avoid talking about him entirely, if possible, in case she has a thing for you.

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>>17752267
The last time we chatted, I was giving her little hints that I still did have a thing for her, then eventually blatantly said it (original post).

After I said that i found it kind of funny that both her dad and brother (both whom we used to work with) knew that I had a thing for her, she said they both liked me anyway, and to not worry about it.

THAT'S when i mentioned that her boyfriend might not like that, but she responded with "he's an understanding guy, he'd like you." Then I dropped him out of the conversation, and again, kept dropping subtle hints, and eventually apologized to her 'if I was coming on too strong."

She said she appreciated the fact that I was being respectful and actually interested in her, as opposed to all the other guys at her uni who hit on her.

I'd also like to think that if we do finally get a chance to go out, I don't believe I'd be going into it with a huge ulterior motive. I mean, sure, I want her to want me, but I'd much rather her actually enjoy her time with me.

fuck you and i hope you die

>>17752282
What got into your corn flakes, m8

>>17752301
women

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>>17752305
I hear ya, dude. They're all bitches until you find the one you want to be with.

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Here's to hoping I can get more input.

Gonna text her in the morning how I really feel. Gonna explain that no, I don't want her to cheat on her bf, but at the same time I really want to be with her and it's slowly making me go crazy, because I can't be with her. I'll let her know that if she feels uncomfortable about that fact, that I'll stop talking to her altogether, but if there's a chance in hell that it might make her think about her current relationship and if it's going as well as she thinks it is, that I'll stay.

I dunno, it's fucking 2:22 in the morning and I need sleep, and I shouldn't let this be stressing me out, but I can't sleep. Here's a fucking picture of a fucking dog.

>>17752156
A chick looking like THAT also cheats? wtf this is really depressing. I thought when you date a homely girl at least she'd do you the courtesy of being loyal.

>>17752326
Read the OP again. She's not the girl who cheated.

She's also pretty cute. If you're comparing her to the girls you see in porn, then maybe not, but I see a cute girl flashing a spontaneous smile and squinting into the sun.

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>>17752329
uh can I see the girl who cheated?

>>17752326
She's not the one who cheated, she's the one I have a huge crush on still.

I'll pull up another picture. She is extremely cute, and 100% wife material. You think her smile is great in OP image, just get a load of this. She's on the left again.

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>>17752340
Goddamn forgot the image. Should really consider sleep soon.

>>17752156
Is it absolutely essential to your happiness that this be a romantic/sexual relationship? Sometimes having a really good friend of the other gender is better than a lover.

>>17752340
>I'll pull up another picture
I'd rather you post the girl who cheated on you.

>>17752334
Exgf who cheated on me. She's really cute, too, and was all I could ever ask for, an extremely great lay, but goddamn she had to go and fuck it up.

Oh well, live and learn and whatnot.

>>17752351
oh my god lol any proper pic
So far yes your current girl is cuter
which is rather depressing

>>17752349
I don't even care if it's sexual or not at this point. Like, I straight up just want to be with her. All the sappy shit. Make and feed her warm soup when she's sick, snuggle up on the couch after a long day at uni/work. Dance with her in the middle of the fucking living room. Fucking bake baked goods with her and make a mess in the kitchen but be too lazy to clean it up and eventually clean up after both of us arguing over who cleaned up last time.

The whole fucking shebang.

>>17752352
She's no longer my current girl. Yes, we're still fucking around, but I would drop all that in a heartbeat to be with this other girl.

Yes, my ex is cute, she's a great lay, but she's a fucking cheating bitch, who cheated on me with a guy who came into our lives literally a few weeks before we moved in together. A guy who I thought was my best mate.

>>17752362
by current girl I meant the girl you currently like.
Your ex looks ... idk lol
any proper pics?

>>17752352
And no recent proper pics. I'm starting to limit the social media contact a bit.

She claims she wants to get back with me, yet she still talks and hangs out with the dude she cheated on me with.

Here's current crush on the right.

>>17752369
Dude I don't think you should post your current crush on 4chin, post your ex instead

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>>17752370
Kek.

Anyway, here's what I'm thinking of sending her. I haven't sent it to her yet, just have it saved as a draft. Need input, my dudes. Do I sound too beta?
Hey! What's up?

Listen, I know this might sound really weird and really cringy, but I still really like you. I still can't help but think that we have amazing chemistry, and ever since we texted last week, I've been thinking about you quite a bit. Now, I understand that you're in a relationship, and that's alright, but I'm just wondering if you still feel the way you did about me back then? I mean, your feelings for me probably weren't very strong, but from what I understand is you had a crush on me, as well, no? If you do still, that's pretty great, and if you don't, that's okay, too, I obviously don't mind staying friends. I really enjoy our long conversations, and above all how you're an insanely interesting person.

Again, I'm really sorry that I'm coming off too strong, and this is probably a huge bombshell I just dropped (but probably not), so I don't expect a quick response, but again, I'm just badly wondering how you feel about me.

If you do feel the same (obviously to a certain extent), I'm not asking you to just drop everything and run for the hills. I guess, just knowing that I'd have a shot if things didn't work out between the two of you is reassurance enough.

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Gonna try to keep this alive for another 10, then I'm going to try and get some sleep. Thanks everyone, for the input and for helping to push me to really tell her how i feel without looking like the bad guy.

I'm a firm believer in karma, so I'm hoping all goes well.

>>17752390
more of your ex dude

>>17752404
Don't got no more. I'm an honorfag and was pretty pissed, so I got rid of all the pics I had of her.

Also, I recorded us fucking through hidden cam, but very very ironically, about a week after I recorded that, my phone crapped out on me and the vid didn't save to SD card.

It was a really bad quality video, anyway, I was recording with my phone but trying to make it seem like I wasn't doing anything sketchy, so it ended up recording no video for a long while, only audio.

Karma, my friend.

Alright, going to bed. I'll check back when I wake up if this thread is still up.

Getting into a relationship with a cheater is not a good idea. She's emotionally cheating on her BF with you, so not quite up there, but it's definitely in the same ball-park.

One day you're going to be that military bf if you go down that road. As soon as she gets bored of you or some co-worked catches her interest, it's all over.

On another note, how exactly did your ex-GF get away with cheating on you with your best friend? I just don't get it. This happened to someone I know and when they explained the story to me it just blew my mind that they ignored all these blatant signs. What was it like? How'd you find out?

She's a woman, so morals mean jack shit to her. She's fucking a guy, just to fuck (not married). You're thinking bout muh dik, with unmarried slore, but wrestling with morals.. but muh dik sucked wud b nice. Bittersweet, muh complicated. Pay for tranny sex you faggot

>>17752326
Everyone cheats.

shes cute as hell op

>>17752349
A man and a woman can never be friends - That Jewish guy in When Harry Met Sally

Your crush is pretty cute and does seem like a nice girl. Marriage material.

I dont see a single pic of your ex. Be an honorfag but post her pic for research purposes. This is /adv/, not /b/. We are ok.

>>17752156
Who is the Batmanfag?

>>17752569
Hey military boyfriend.

I did post a pic of my ex, but deleted it shortly after. I don't really have any "proper" pics, just shit I've saved from Snapchat recently.

>>17752487
Looked past all the blatant signs. We were living together, but my bitch ass trusted both of them when they started hanging out more together than hanging out as a group all three of us.

She's not really flirting back with me, tho. She's just accepting the compliments and telling me that I've been very respectful about how i bought it up, and that she liked that.

>>17752569
>>17752691

I'll date the military boyfriend if they break up. God damn, so cute.

>>17752790
if you live near Chicago, go for it kek

>>17752156
Boy, does that OP pic make you look like her gay best friend!

>>17752984
that's the military bf
OP never showed himself

>>17752984
>>17752985


OP here. I myself am not that great in terms of looks, so honestly, he's the more obvious choice. But fuck it. I sent her the text, just waiting for a response.

>>17753011
Good luck OP! We ar rooting for you.

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>>17754362
Well, it happened. Sent her a long message, just to be shot down.

Awh, well, it was worth a shot. It just feels different this time. I've been rejected plenty of times before, and I always tend to just shrug it off. Not this time, though. This time i actually felt pretty bummed out about it.

Well, gotta keep moving forward, I guess.

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Second half of my message.

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And her response.

R.I.P. OP for the night. Gonna binge on Netflix and Fallout 4 all night to help me keep my mind off it.

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>>17752156
Please try to ignore this awful advice about "making yourself happy" and blowing up her phone unnecessarily.

If she's willing to cheat and flirt with other men while in a relationship (with a giy in the military none the less) she WILL do it to you whenever she becomes unsatisified, frustrated or bored with your relationship.

Try to contain your feelings and expand your logic for a moment. Do you really want to date a girl like this? Do you really want to role those dice?

Please dear god ignore the feely advice you're getting and don't be a faggot op.

>>17752320
AND you're sending her long, emotional text about "how you feel" like a teenage girl. This woman is going to fuck you up, I promisr you.

>>17754682
She already did, senpai. It's all good, though.

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>>17754679
Also, if you read the rest of the thread, you'd know. She's doing nothing in terms of "cheating" with me, mate. I'm the one that's asking her out, I'm the one that's dropping not so subtle hints to her, and she respectfully declined. What's going to happen now? Nothing, we'll move on and continue being friends, I'm going to respect her choice by not being a dick and constantly bringing it up, or asking her again. We both enjoy each other's company, but she clearly doesn't want to be with me.

Also, there's nothing wrong with being open with someone every once in a blue moon, so don't think I'm "like a teenage girl." Motherfucker, girls like that sappy shit, whether they like to admit it or not.

>>17755059
Fuck, I forgot about the filter.

>>17755073
Testing filter
Senpai = f a m

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>>17755440
Kek yeah guess I just lurked for so long without posting that I completely forgot this board had filters.

>>17755535
What other filter you got?


Just tryin to keep you busy s e n p a i :)

Dude id say go for it BUT if you take her away from the other dude make sure you REALLY like her becausr if not youre always gonna wonder if she is gonna leave you for a guy she,"has a thing with"

>>17755584
I think cuck in all caps still filters to KEK. That's the only one I know about.

This post will sure look silly if I'm wrong though.

>>17752156
To sum it up:
>Got gf
>Got crush on other girl who has bf
>Your gf cheats on you
>Still thinking about crush girl
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Don't make someone cheat if you don't like being cheated on.

Be patient.

>>17755815
I wonder if all caps has diffeent filter for f a m: SENPAI

>>17755794
Read thread, my man. Went for it, got shot down. Brushed it off, and I'm still going to stay in the friendzone, but I'm all cool with it.

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>>17755837
Yep, basically my whole situation in a nutshell, except for the fact that I don't want her to cheat on him, for that exact reason. Funny story on how that ex and I came to be: I cheated on my ex before her and immediately broke it off with her once I did what I did with recent ex. Changed myself for the better, sure I started to feel for other girls here and there, but never acted the same way with ex before her, as I was a complete ass who would flirt with other girls while I was with her.

Lasted three years with first ex, and then got cheated on by recent ex after being with her for three years. Needless to say, that firmly made me believe in karma, and what goes around comes around.

So, I wouldn't want to get in the way of crush's relationship, or any other relationship, because it'll come right back around and bite me in the ass.

Thanks, all, for the input. Godspeed to other anons in a similar situation.

Being on the receiving end myself, I can tell you emotional cheating is definitely the worse one of the two, she's not only going to end up leaving you for the other guy but she might already be fucking whoever he is behind your back and hop to a relationship with the same person, leaving you broken inside while she's having the time of her life with this other guy.

Do not be a "Lady in waiting", you're inciting her to finish her relationship at most and question it at the very least - both of these are bad, if you truly believe in Karma don't do that selfish thing, roll single for a while and if you really care about her remain good friends but don't direct all of your attention to a girl who's taken, the entire "I don't even want to fuck her I just want to snuggle and love" thing is really lovely on Its own but in the context of the situation - you're trying to take another man's woman.

Pursuing this further is nothing but selfish, I will not fuel your justification of this like alot of people in this thread do, they're 4chan autists, probably never had a relationship with anyone or had very fucked up relationships

This is unfortunate because you seem like an emotionally intelligent guy that also has some sort of conscious, there's not many people with conscious in this world that hold themselves up to a standard man, you seem like one of them, let me put you on the right track - do what is right, not what you want. Opportunity is always there, there's more than one girl, I've been cheated on emotionally too and she left me for him and started fucking him the same day she left, they're still together and Its been 2 weeks, I was with her for a year and a half and never thought she's capable of this but she lied.

Do not be swayed by opportunity and emotions of the moment mate, you're not weak, you know what is right and what's wrong, follow that.

>>17752156
I want to cum on her face OP

I want to grab lost chubby arms and pile drive her my man