I have a bit of a predicament on my hands. I was searching

>>17751993

you werent snooping. you googled yourself and then checked out your dads social media account.

id tell him, like you said, non judgemental. if theres a way to make that stuff private, tell him, and if not, recommend he make a private anonymous twitter for such things.

if you're comfortable with it admit to sharing a similar porn interest so he feels less weird. i know that sounds weird but as you get older you'll realize the only thing stopping you from discussing your sexuality is the other people.

i vote for telling him. ask him if he's aware his twitter follows are public. offer to fix for him if possible.

>>17751999
That's what I'm leaning towards too. I feel like I gotta tell him when a potential job is at stake. (My parents are software engineers, and they just moved, so they are looking for local jobs. They've been working remotely in the meantime. )

>>17752014

its really not as big a deal as you're making it out to be, and if you make it otu to be a big deal, he will feel bad.

just chill man. its porn. you watch it. a lot. probably discuss it a lot with your friends or at least with us.

unless im wrong and ur a chick in which case do it anyways but still be non judgy.

>>17752021
Yeah I'm a guy, 20.

You're right. I'm not too worried about it. I don't blame him at all. He will take it well too since he's usually easy going.

Thanks for the advice guys.

>>17752026

ah that makes sense. im 24 and im still closed minded in it. you notice a lot of older guys talking about sex porn and sexuality pretty openly these days.

the older you get the less it matters and the opinions of others matter... at least ofr men.

>>17752026
>>17752034

use it as a chance to bond with your dad. you'll be better for it.

>>17752034
Yeah it seems like that. I don't see a problem if someone likes to look at porn or openly discuss their sexuality. Live and let live, as long as the setting is appropriate, of course.

Keeping it underwraps is a must though. Especially as a professional with a good career. It's just kind of ironic though, since he is an experienced programmer and an avid internet user since it was a thing. Haha.

>>17752035
Yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. A little more common ground never hurts with your parents.

>>17752040

what we say and what we think are two different things.


if it was comfortable to talk to your father about porn you wouldnt have consulted us first.

what you say is what you aspire to. and good for you. just talk it out. it will bond you.

>>17752044

you dont even need for it to be common ground, its just a normally private part of your lives that you will be discussing, if only for a moment.

>>17752035
this OP
next step is to sit back to back and fap together

best buddies for life

>>17752048
Haha. That would be an interesting form of bonding.

>>17752045
True. Yeah it's not a big deal after I think about it more. I just wanted to bounce the idea off someone before I did it, haha. I considered asking my sister or one of my good buddies, but my better judgment killed that idea real fucking quick. It wouldn't be my place to make this anymore public than it is.

>>17752057
Anyway, I gotta get back to studying. I have an exam tomorrow that's going to kick my ass. Thanks again for the advice. I'm going to bite the bullet and send him a text.

>>17752057

very true, that'd be borderline rude just to avoid an awkward moment.

just go have fun with it. you didnt do anything wrong.

>>17752063
Yeah that would've been shitty of me. I thought about it for a nanosecond, but then I realized how stupid that would be.

I sent the text, so he'll get it in the morning. The deed is done, ha.

>>17752084

>i sent the text

dude what? talk to him in person man whats wrong with you, how is this having an open discussion about it? geez man.

>i realized how stupid that would be

its okay man, we all have weird passing thoughts. if our first three thoughts were what we did / said, everyone would think were the worst people ever.

its the conclusion you reach that matters the most.

but still dude wtf

>>17752096
We're across the country, so in person isn't an option unfortunately. In this situation I'd prefer a text. I feel like giving him a call just to tell him that would be strange. I think he would prefer a text too. Quick and easy with maybe a few jokes and then we can move on.

>>17752103
Also since he and my mom are working remotely (for the same company too), they share an office at their new house, so there wouldn't be a time when I could get him alone and we could talk about it.