How do I make my anger prone boyfriend feel guilty for lashing

>>17748612

I don't have advice, but good luck with this.

Some people end up getting stuck in something they eventually come to hate, so do be wise about setting boundaries, and acknowledging that change is entirely dependent upon each person themselves.

>>17748612
People with "anger problems" are usually VERY self-centered. He doesn't actually empathize with you in the way you do with him, and other people. It doesn't enter into his mind to comfort you, because he is upset and that is the only thing he's thinking about.

This is how pretty much all abusive relationships start, for real.
>My boyfriend is so mean to me when he gets angry!
>How do I comfort him to make him less angry?

Stand up for yourself, verbally, and tell him you're not going to be his verbal punching bag whenever he feels bad. If this does not get through to him, and the problem continues - you're gonna have to realize that it isn't about you, you can't change him, and it's only gonna get worse.

OP here, thank you both- I'll do my best

I have previously been in one serious abusive relationship and I don't want it to happen again

He is seeking counselling for his issues and is otherwise very caring, until he gets angry or upset and then all he seems to see is himself.

How do I set boundaries without him guilt tripping me in response?

>>17748625
How would he exactly guilt trip you?

>>17748702

Tells me he's the worst boyfriend and that he wants to die and avoid reconciliation til he's calm and I never know how to comfort him apart from wait until he feels calmer himself which is hard to predict how long