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>engaged to dream girl
>about to get married in a couple of months
>we're both fairly religious but I like to smoke weed occasionally
>haven't told her yet and not sure how she feels about weed (we haven't really discussed the subject of drugs but I feel like she might have a problem with it)
how should I tell her? should I even tell her before we get married?
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...just how long have you two been together? I would assume not long enough to get married if she hasn't found out about your pot habit.
Tell her, you moron, and if she hates it, then you have a decision to make.
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>>17745597
well yeah it's been kind of a long distance relationship until now, that's why it never really came up
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>>17745622
>kind of a long distance relationship until now
>about to get married
>haven't even discussed controversial topics
I hope you know what you're doing
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>>17745589
Do you plan to stop smoking after you two get married? If so it's useless to bring this up now. If you want to keep smoking then she'll probably find out anyway so it's better if you talk to her about it.
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>>17745622
>kind of
Have you even met in real life?
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>>17745629
Maybe an arranged marriage.
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>>17745629
I do, 100%
>>17745635
yes, many times but we haven't lived together or anything.
>>17745634
I would prefer to keep smoking but if it's really a problem for her I'd stop. But I'd prefer to be able to make her understand that it's not as bad as most people think, especially religious people.
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>>17745651
Have you had sex yet?
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>>17745589
So you're engaged to someone you barely know and never spent long periods of time with?
Move in together and spend at least a year around each other all the time. Discuss EVERYTHING before committing yourself - abortion (I don't even have sex with people before discussing this), plans for life, drugs, alcohol, mental issues.
You should have in mind how issues would be faced before going through them. You don't want to have a chit chat about abortion when she's already pregnant, or to find out 10 years down the line that she isn't interested in being a stay at home mom, or that she wants to raise your kids differently from you do, or that she's been an alcoholic all this time.
It is insane that you want to get married to someone you don't know well. You don't want to sign a contract that says that you're mutually responsible for each other emotionally and financially when you don't really know what to expect.
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>>17745649
>tfw no arranged marriage to skip all the bullshit games of dating
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