Is it playing with fire to let your girlfriend or wife act on

if her fantasies/sexual desires are more important than her relationship with you then fuck it, it's a lost cause anyway.

it would bother you if she wanted to be sexually satisfied by some other dude, why would some other woman be any different?

you clearly aren't comfortable with it. don't "let" her, but don't physically stop her. if she's gonna cheat on you, just move on.

>>17741584
It feels like our bond of love is deeper and closer than just mere sex though, so this would mean that her fulfilling that fantasy is just a fantasy. It's not like she's leaving me for another girl, if she wanted to do that she'd do it wouldn't she?

There are plenty of guys who masturbate to shit porn, but then go and pay someone to shit in their mouths and realise what a fucking huge mistake they've made just as its too late.

Fantasy and reality are different and its important to recognise that.

Being honest and communicating how you feel is also important. Tell her that you don't like the idea of her being sexual with someone else, don't just expect her to know what you secretly want. Especially if everything you've said about up until now has given her the impression that you're okay with it, because you're too much of a beta to enforce your boundaries.

Can you get anything for yourself out of it, like a threesome?

>>17741557
>I feel like they're there
I don't see anywhere here that she has told you she has lesbian fantasies only that you feel they are there and lets say for sake of argument she has lesbian fantasies it doesn't mean she wants to act them out or would do it because she is married happily to you. This is more in your fucked up head.

Cry and have an emotional cuddle talk, you fucking pussy she already has a goddamn woman

>>17741653
Go ahead and make assumptions

She literally told me they are there and realistically she would be disappointed if she went her whole life without experiencing them.

Project more though

>>17741742
Try telling her you have a blonde/redhead/asian fetish (whatever she isn't) and you'd be disappointed if you went your whole life without experiencing them.

>>17741742
You didn't mention until now so what else could I assume. Be more plain spoken in your OP next time.

You tell her she needs to choose. To pursue her fantasy or commit to a monogamous marriage. You don't want to live a life with a partner running off whenever they have a new whim.

>>17741783
What if it's not just a whim and we both decide we can handle it being an okay part of our relationship. It's not like it's a man

Is that an acceptable choice or are we making a mistake and don't even realize it, when it comes to the health of our relationship?

>>17742018
It opens a Pandoras box OP. You know this and it cannot be undone. It makes no difference if it is a man or a woman. Once you realize she prefers to seek pleasure outside your marriage you may not be so enthusiastic

If people want to experiment and get their yaya's out you do it before committing and marriage to decide later changes the whole agreement.

>>17741614
but it's a fantasy?? the point of a fantasy is that it's something that you desire so greatly, but are extremely unlikely to happen. if her fantasy is to just fuck other women, then it's not a fantasy, it's a reality that she can indulge in.

lets imagine that i'm with a girl. i love her, whatever. she's great. but she is a 7/10. i meet a 10/10 girl of my dreams. she's interested in me. holy shit, that is a fantasy. literally why wouldn't i want to go with her.

>>17742018
>it's not like it's a man

do you understand what bisexuality is? jesus christ OP you're an idiot and beyond help.

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Yeah no

My friend wanted a threesome REALLY badly so he convinced this dyke to share his wife

Dyke stared at her like a hungry dog while they chit chatted then when they were ready just picked up, carried her to their bedroom, and locked the door behind them

He just stands there like and cuck while his wife begs for mercy and after half an hour of grunting and sobbing dyke opens the door again and thanks him before leaving

Wifey didn't tell anyone and divorced him soon after

Then you also have other guys who get straight up cucked by a chick consensually

>>17742067
She'd want it to be with a womanly attractive woman, not a bull dyke weird lesbian. I think realistically her fantasy would be really hard to legitimately find a person to do this with unless she settles with some slutty lesbian who just fucks any woman, in which case there's a risk of diseases

Anyway. I just know that I care about our love more than anything else and hope this isn't something that can harm it. I just want to know that this can be overcome so to speak and we can still be happy and just in love as ever

>>17742102
I have never known a single married couple who had a threesome and DIDN'T divorce

No offense but you shouldn't be married if you just want to fuck around

Marriage is a sacred union between one man and one woman

Not lust addled perverts

>>17742119
It wouldn't be a threesome, it would be just her and a lesbian

>>17742067

Join us next week for another exciting episode of "Things That Never Happened"

I did this once.

Back in highschool, I'd been dating a girl for a couple months (my first relationship), and we were pretty solid for what was, in retrospect, a short period of time - we threw around the L-word, and were really into each other. During that period, a mutual friend of ours proposed to my girlfriend, since she was bi, that they spend a night hooking up and acting on both of their fantasies - I think for the mutual friend's 18th birthday, or something.

This was all with my consent, of course.

I told her I was ultimately cool with it - at the time, for the wrong reasons, but in retrospect, I can still see an argument for it.

The day after, me and the mutual friend showed up to our Pathfinder session, and exchanged a knowing glance.

Me and gf broke up later for unrelated reasons.

Dunno if that helps.