How do I get over the fact that I've pissed away my youth,

>>17739175
By realizing that it isn't true (at least the last part). Depression and loneliness are things you struggle with, not who you are. No matter what regrets you have about the past, they can never touch your worth as a person. Now your task is to find a way forward.

>>17739175

By sucking it up and doing something about it? Work out and get fit. Find some hobbies besides vidya/tv/electronics. Save some money and go travel on your own. Change your lifestyle bro, no one is going to do it for you. If you wanna make big changes itll take big efforts so get to it. Make a list of what you want in life. And for each item, a checklist of how you will achieve it. Then every day, to help combat procrasination and bullshitting yourself, you will have a checklist of things you must do, THAT DAY, NO EXCEPTIONS - or else no internet for you. Hang your lists on the wall if you must - you made a fucking deal with yourself that youre going to improve your life and you will stick to it.

Or, if you dont think thats possible, just kill yourself. Rotting away in misery like you have been for the last decade is the worst option. Either decide to kill yourself, TODAY, or decide that you believe in yourself despite how shit lifes been, and that youre going to change your stars, TODAY. Not later, not tomorrow, TODAY. Make up your mind.

Once you choose the path, theres no turning back. You will have hard times, points where you catch the "fuckits", but remind yourseld, you made that fucking deal and youre going to overcome because you made up your mind that you still have the will to live. And if you have that, then you need to make your life one thats worth living.

Hope this helps anon. Ive been at rock bottom, i i know how tough it is. But you gotta choose a path TODAY. No more putting it off. If lifes too horrible, then stop the suffering and end it. If you still have that tiny sliver of hope, then start making those baby steps to becoming the man you want to be.

I believe in you anon. Go tear this shitty world a new asshole.

>>17739185

I've gone through this so many times. It may work for a month or two, but pulling myself up by my bootstraps eventually wears me out and I end up back here. It's happened to me over and over again dozens of times and there's been so many false starts it's hard for me to not just believe I'm weak and stupid and hopeless.

>>17739195

Well decide this time if youre hopeless, or if you have the potential for success like you deserve.

You make that call TODAY, and thats your final answer. No fucking exceptions. Anon from /adv/ says so and thats the fucking way its going to be.

If you truly feel hopeless, then end it. Stop suffering bro, no one should go on suffering for a whole lifetime, thats literally a living hell.

But if you got hope (you do, thats why you made this thread ya dingus), then you make some hard fucking changes, TODAY. You pussied out the last few times and accepted failure because you didnt morph into alpha chad thundercock instantly. Well TODAY, you will recognize your road will be long and hard as fuck but not hard as you because you have the will to survive! You will recognize all your failures in life, and see that they are the past, and you will bury that shit for good, TODAY, because TODAY is the day you decide to overcome all that bullshit.

Dont cheat yourself. Make those lists, putting it on paper and then on display makes it so much more real. Literally keep checklists. Stop playing vidya and indulging yourself with useless bullshit - you did that for the last 12 years and you KNOW its a dead end so turn the fuck around and knock down those lists.

You best not make them easy either, nigger. Infact, you will make them hard. Really fucking hard. Like insanity difficulty hard. Because thats what you want; you want to make hard changes and turn your life around, so do it! TODAY!

Not to be all corny and shit but look yourself in the mirror and decide what you truly want. Take your time. Theres no half measures, no stalling, no jerking off and going to bed and thinking about it tomorrow. You either kill yourself or fix yourself and it happens TODAY.

>>17739195
Are you trolling me?

>>17739175
lol same.
Do something to make you proud of yourself.
After that, try and offer something to someone, atm you don't have anything to offer.
Stop trying to get love from someone else, keep yourself busy with whatever your good at, maybe try something new.
Anything you want to do in your life?

>>17739220
Or well.. Been there I suppose *

>>17739220
I'd like to not be alone, be a nice person to be around, have a job I enjoyed, and have friends and a girlfriend who love me for who I am and treat me fairly.

>>17739195
counting too much on other people maybe?

>>17739228
You can't have that if you don't even like yourself.
First, you need to find interests yourself, get to know that better so you can teach other people about it.
Get to know yourself, what do you like? What can you see yourself getting good at? anything?

you sound pretty stupid. go get some meds for sad syndrome if you can't deal with it.

>>17739233
I feel stupid but other people tell me I'm smart so I have no idea.

>>17739233
Meds just make shit worse.
It fucks up your hormones and you'll never be able to produce the right hormones anymore.
Even when you do happy things it won't make you happy. You won't crave or food, or crave too much. You won't be sad, and you'll feel uncomfortable with it, eventually think you're wrong about everything and everything just goes to shit. NEVER TAKE HORMONES.

grow up nigga

lel

seriously, quit crying n move somewhere u feel accepted. time will change the rest.

>>17739232

I don't know...I have to spend most of my time working in an office which I don't really enjoy but the only other skills I have are creative writing and composing music, and I don't want to spend the remainder of my free time on those since it will only further isolate myself from others.

I wish I could start a business or something but I have a feeling once I found out how much work was involved I'd lose interest.

>>17739235

Omfg nigger WHAT THE FUCK is the problem here?!

Seriously WTF are you waiting for? I laid it all out for you bro. Make your choice **TODAY**!

Stop pussyfooting around in this thread looking for pity and easy cheatcode answers because that gay shit doesnt fucking exist. I swear im going to have a fucking aneurysm if i dont see you reply with what your choice is and how your going to get to fucking work TO FUCKING DAY

>>17739228
get another job.

>>17739247
Dude, chill. Are you on steroids or something? You sound like Shia LaBeouf

>>17739244
Is there a possibility to go back to school?
Maybe study management?

What you can try as well is look for completely different stuff. People say your smart, surely it can't be a complete lie. Start watching documentaries about all sors of stuff.
Make sure you can tell people things they might not know, little facts. That helped me talking to people.

Other than that, getting a do might not be bad. Try and raise it proparly, with the necessairy authority. That way you might feel less like a ''failure''? Make sure you can have authority of it. Maybe during a walk you'll meet someone with the same dog, and have a nice talk about what you did exactly to raise it well.

>>17739257

I get that i sound harsh but this fucking nigger needs harsh because this pussy shit is never going to help him. OP is soft, directionless, meek. He refuses to take responsibility for his life; he wants random strangers from the internet to wave a magic fucking wand so he can simply tap his shoes three times and suddenly he can be some alpha pussy slaying beast instead of having to work his ass off for it. Its fucking childish. This is a grown as man we are talking about and this is literally the mindset he is approaching this thread with.

Fuck that. And fuck everyone who is being soft and indulging him - you are NOT helping. He needs some cold, hard reality. He needs the facts, and the facts are that hes being a manchild who refuses to help himself. Coddling him with this "lets just talk about our feelings oh sure anon itll all get better just hang in their bud!!" bullshit is literally the worst possible thing he can have right now.

This is a grown ass man here complimplating suicide, i dont fucking care how i sound ive been there and i know he needs tough love or else he will be doomed to this shit forever, stuck in a limbo of half-assed attempts and sadness.

OP, youre at the fork in the road. Make your choice on where youre going - either into the ground dead or high up with success - and start fucking marching bro. We all believe in you.

>>17739278
you're smart*
sorts*
getting a dog*

>>17739279
I don't want to be a pussy-slaying alpha. I want someone of roughly equivalent personality, intelligence and looks who will love me and not cheat on me, and friends with similar interests. If I had this, I might not feel alone and hopeless and perhaps I could figure out the career part later. But I seem to be unable to do this properly in spite of trying and I just don't think that realistically it's going to happen since it is time sensitive.

>>17739278
If you feel like a doormat, then that's another good reason to get a dog.
You need to feel like the foot that walks on the doormat.

>>17739289
you're asking for a lot. you need to deal with your current situation. make peace with reality and then you can move forward without idealistic expectations

>>17739289

Omfg dude stfu already. Fucking reread all of my posts and get serious. Youre literally putting more effort into dodging what needs to be done right now than youve put into improving your life all week.

STOP FLOUNDERING. STOP STALLING FOR TIME. You literally just said that youve done that for the last 12 years, that you threw away your youth and here you are fighting tooth and nail to hold onto that failure.

WHY?! Why the fuck are you trying so hard to sabotage yourself? Is failure all youve ever known and you just dont know how to do life any different? Obviously, so stop pussyfooting around, write down your lists with a pen and paper, and start checking off boxes and marching down the road to success.

Or just wallow in your self pity on this Cameroonian rock scratching forum, expecting a random from the internet to swoop in and save you from having to take responsibility in life.

YOUR LIFE, not mine! You have what it takes to fix it OP. Just fucking do it, enough of this defeatist bs. You can and will do it and TODAY is when it starts to happen.

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>>17739299
It's really asking that much just to have that? It seems like those are normal expectations. Don't most people have these things? If not, then it seems like a lot of people have a dangerously unhealthy emotional support structure. Maybe that's why depression has become the norm in our society.

>>17739310

No prob anon. Loosing my patience with OP but im mega glad that somebody found what they needed to get started *today* with making their life awesome, was getting worried i was wasting my time with typing all this shit lol.

Best of luck bro. Been there myself, fuck it im still marching on with a fuckload of work to be done who am i kidding, but compared to where i began, i feel like a million bucks right now.

If me, a fucking nobody, can pick themselves up from the dirt and get to where i feel myself now and beyond, then you niggers can do. Go get em.

Actually, the idea of having anything special to offer society seems like a kind of silly idea in the first place. When I am competing with millions of people, it makes sense that a good number of them would be fairly interchangeable with me skill-wise. And, if I wanted to be in the top percentage of people, and thus of some real value, I'd have to compete with people who had been doing whatever it is I decided to do since they were kids. I'd have to work so hard to compete with them, that I would probably not have time for friends or dating anyways. So it seems like an unrealistic expectation to have in the first place. No wonder I feel so useless. I've set an unrealistic expectation for myself.

>>17739175
>How do I get over the fact that I'm a social retard
By stopping yourself from being a social retard.

STOP BEING AN AUTISMO 101
Get a customer facing job, I'm not saying work in a call centre, I'm not saying to jump in the deep end in customer service, but get a job that involves talking to people if possible.
I'll presume this is an option because you haven't got much going for you and I doubt you have a job.

Take up a physical hobby, be it joining a running club, a sport or just a rambling club walking with strangers, this will force you to learn to socialise with people who don't have to have you there.

Learn what is suitable to talk about, this shouldn't be hard, avoid politics, religion, sulking and whining about your life, bragging, humble bragging, money, family, sleep, diet and health.

Learn how to speak, given that you are not very well socialised, you are prone to rambling, getting that higher pitched mania in your voice when you are passionate about something, going off topic or over sharing.

Learn how to contribute, if your story doesn't have a start, middle and end, it isn't worth sharing, if it isn't relevant, it isn't worth sharing, if it requires knowledge they don't have to understand it, it isn't worth sharing, if the conversation topic changes, you missed your chance, don't try and steer conversations to topics you want to discuss either, people notice it and it is really annoying.

Learn to stop being a bitch, you are weak, people will prey on you or take the piss, this might not be malicious, but a group laughing at your expense might throw you off, don't let it get to you
Learn not to over react as well, if someone takes this piss out of your clothes, it doesn't warrant a personal insult, really you don't even have to respond, laughing at your own expense rarely works against you.

Source: I'm a life coach and get paid to help autists like you (by their parents) socialise and stop being fucking losers

>>17739380
I'll add to this until I get a response, more coming up

>>17739247
>calls OP stupid
>his own posts make him seem mentally deficient

>>17739380

Sounds annoying but I might as well try it.

>>17739380
I'm really not that bad...I mean I know how to fake my way through such a superficial social situation and avoid anything that could possibly upset anybody. Do people really have such superficial relationships?

>>17739382
MANAGING EXPECTATIONS 101
Random internet advice isn't going to save you, sorry, that's a fact, you aren't going to read a post one day and say "well now everything makes sense and my life has been turned around", you need to make changes, we're talking lifestyle changes, one day of trying to talk to people isn't going to make you good at socialising.

90% of life is showing up, I've met women, clients, friends and some of the most interesting people I've ever known by simply going to places, you aren't making friends sat at your computer and you aren't making friends by watching TV.
If you struggle with going out to places sign up to meetup and look for a local group that does something you like the look of, be it board games, walking, cooking or ANYTHING, this will at least give you opportunities to talk to new people who like similar things.

>>17739398
I don't get what is annoying about it, is it the stopping being a loser bit? or the fact that we can't magically instil the ability to not be a social retard over the internet?

Some quick questions for you
>What level are you educated to? (label if you completed said education)
>What line of work are you in?
>What kind of money do you make?
>Do you live with your parents or with anyone?
>What does the average week look like in your life?
e.g. mine is 0600 wake up and go to the gym, 0730 sauna, shower and shave, 0815 breakfast, 0900 onwards meeting clients, 1800 dinner/hobbies/studying, 2000 vidya, 2200 sleep (that's most days for me)

>>17739404
>I'm really not that bad...I mean I know how to fake my way through such a superficial social situation and avoid anything that could possibly upset anybody
Then you probably are that bad, the fact that you are "faking it" gives people the impression you aren't good at talking to people or aren't interested, you come off as a bit of a dick head.

>>17739380
>>17739408

Lol this guy is great.

I'll take some advice, I'm going on a date with a girl I really like. How do I make sure I get laid that night?

>>17739175

You can realize you are accountable for your own life. You chose to be this way, you can choose to be something else.

>>17739380
>lol just share stories it's so easy
>have 0 stories to tell

>>17739525
>I'm going on a date with a girl I really like. How do I make sure I get laid that night?
I didn't realise this thread would still be active, even though you have probably gone I'll respond for anyone else.

In short, you can't ensure you get laid without committing rape, there's no way to make it a sure thing.
But if you want to increase your chances of getting laid, avoid having a heavy meal (they make you tired) or foods that give you bad breath (like garlic), make natural physical contact (anyone can tell if it is forced when you brush their hand etc) and use eye contact, don't try and steer conversations to anything sexual, if she approaches the topic don't take it any further than she does and don't drag the topic out if she changes her mind..
And don't forget to have a couple of condoms in your wallet, expecting a blowjob when she is horny probably won't work out too well if you want to see her again.

>>17739667
>baawww I have no stories baawww
Then go out and do things.
Nobody got a good story sitting on 4chan, but that guy who went out running might have one if he saw something or took a different route, the guy who went on holiday with his friends will probably have one, and the guy who goes out for an experience day will probably have one if something fun happens.

An example of this is that I once went to a laser tag place with a client and a couple of his friends, a kid's birthday party showed up (12 of them) and we were put into a game of kids vs adults, we're talking kids young enough to warrant having their mothers with them helping them get around and pointing us out to them, at first we went easy on them, then we decided "fuck it" and caused mass infanticide, one of them threw their gun on the floor because we kept shooting him and his mother tried telling us off, then we went back to letting them shoot us.
That's my funny story I share with some women who work with kids, it usually gets a laugh out of them.

>>17739175
Used to be in the same situation. Just do these things and your life will become better in just weeks:

>practice good hygiene
Just do it nigger. No excuses

>Join an activity
Please don't join a vidya club or something. Find something you like and join a group of people who like the same things as you. It's almost impossible for people to hate you when you have the same interests as them. Use it as a chance to make friends.

>Get a job, or go to uni
Don't take no as an answer, either. If you don't get the job look for another one.

>Get /fit/

>Get /fa/
Be careful not to fall for the memesters on /fa/, though

My life has become immensely better because of these things. Hope this helps.

>>17739175
I identify with this post too much. Truth is I'm too late into life to really do much of anything and it takes forever for me to learn things. I think I was put on this planet to kill myself.
>24
>Kind of short
>Never did anything sexual with a girl
>Can barely drive
>Live with parents
>Have all the problems you mentioned here
>Go traveling a couple times and somehow make the worst of it
>Useless and false interests. Might as well play video games and watch anime because then I'd probably have more people to identify with.
>Fairly /fit/ and /fa/ and go to therapy
>Go to a community college
>Basically no opportunity to meet people
>Freak out over the most easy work there that I'm capable of doing for fuck knows why.
>No one wants to talk to anyone that does nothing. Be it real life or online.
>Never met anyone I could really identify with
>Most of my old friends were either retarded or treated me like shit
>Flat lined self esteem pretty much

Every time I try to better myself I reach a dead end. I want to give life a chance and I'd love to change. And to see everyone tell me that I'm very smart is like teasing me. "Oh you're smart! Too bad you can barely function". People usually look down on me. I get shat on just for existing and I don't know what to do anymore. There's no one to genuinely understand and help me.

>>17739185
>Work out and get fit

Stopped reading there.

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>>17739956
>Please don't join a vidya club or something. >Find something you like and join a group of people who like the same things as you

>Join a group of people who like things you like
>Unless it's a group for things you like

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