Last night I have finally lost my virginity (I'm 27), with

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So right now, I'm sitting here feeling a rush of thoughts and emotion. I feel guilt and shame for taking things so fast at the first date. I can't tell if I'm fully physically attracted to her or not. I have no idea if I should continue this relationship and risk hurting her if I feel unsatisfied. I wonder if I should seek other sexual partners in the meantime to get a better idea of sex. I wonder if the procedure left me unable to feel sexual pleasure. And I wonder if I had not pressured her into anything during sex as I was desperately trying to climax.

She wants to meet me again this weekend and I'm confused as fuck as to how to proceed.

Everyones first time is a little awkward, and so will the next few times, don't worry about it. Also don't jack off to much, and when you do use lube and use long gentle strokes not a fucking deathclaw grip because when that dick goes into a pussy it doesn't know what its doing

>>17735431
You masturbate too much. That easy.

>>17735434
Keep at it with this chick if she seems to really like you, dude. If she's tryna really be with you and you're not too autistic with how you word the issues you're having she'll be understanding and the two of you can figure out solutions together

>>17735431
>When I was a boy I had a medical procedure done to me that removed some of my foreskin.

Yeah technically circumcised penises are have a minor decrease in feeling, but not enough to seriously affect you.

>You masturbate too much. That easy.
This could be it definitely.

Also when i had sex the first few times i was so nervous that i too had a hard time finishing. But eventually it got to a point where orgasms was just about instant.

Thanks guys, I did masturbate the day before the date to make sure I didn't get too horny and do anything stupid. I guess I will ease off for now.

I definitely like her a lot and I want to meet her again. But I feel now really awkward around her. The morning after, as I was trying to figure out if I'm really into her I couldn't help but scrutinize her looks in my head. Which makes me feel like a fucking asshole.

Maybe all the porn I've watched over the years just fucks with my head and makes it difficult for me to appreciate girls in real life.

>>17735461
I have to agtree with what he's saying about first timers here.

Let me be honest tho, did she feel loose? How did it feel on ur dick, was it like fucking a wind tunnel or was that shit really tight?

>>17735582
I have no idea what a pussy should feel like. It definitely wasn't as tight as my hand. And I wouldn't say I felt much pressure on my dick.

>>17735604

You need to work shit out and figure out angles and shit.

Fortunately for you it seems this girl might just let you figure things out with her

Stop death-gripping your cock when you jack off - no pussy is going to be able to torque down on your dick with a man's grip strength

>>17735608

Thanks, I will keep at it with her as we both seem to really like each other.

I was so fucking disappointed with myself that I think I was just coming up with some ridiculous reasons that something must be wrong with my dick or her.

>>17735625
Dude her vagina might be a little loose.

I fill like a tight vagina should grab ur dick so hard it makes it a little sore if u go for a long time Like it should be soar from being squeezed by her vagina.

The firs time i lost my virginity i was a little id so U know i was whacking it harder than fuck everyday, and this bitches vag was so tight my shit came out like a super soaker in 45 seconds flat.


Yo I just want to say this, whattever ur issue is. You need to get it fixed quick, bitches DO NOT LIKE IF U DONT CUM WHEN U FUCK THEM.

I know it sounds crazy, but it makes them feel very inadequate.

This might sound dumb, but try to fuck her titties feels better than ud think and might be more similiar to ur hand if that really is the issue.

>>17735625

You would be more disappointed if you were a two pump chump. You'll be fine, anon - just like anything else, sex takes practice.

It's like driving a car - you have the general idea if you've never done it, but you need to do it a bit before you get it.

And when you get a new car (or thicc truck) you need to get a little used to it.

Eventually, you can drive most things with little to no time spent getting used to it... but that takes experience.

>>17735631

Could it be that I fingered her too much? Before I even put my dick in I gave her some oral and then played with her using my finger. She was really wet the whole time and I recall reading that vaginas expand as women get aroused.

>>17735642
Thanks man, that's a valid point. At the very least she seemed really happy with how I made her feel and that made the whole experience a lot less awkward for me.

>>17735660
And also yeah a good point would be just try giveing her light oral mayb a fe minutes to warm her up then going in. That might actually help u more.

>>17735660

Vaginas deepen as they get aroused.

Don't stop the foreplay out of a misguided worry about tightness.

I say again, vaginas are not hands. How copy, over?

>>17735431

Anxiety and too much masturbation. The situation is actually pretty good for a first encounter. Focus on the positives here:

> She had multiple orgasms
> You lost your V-card
> She stayed over at your place so clearly she REALLY liked you
> You got excellent memories to store up in your spank bank

Anxiety will go down as you do it more, especially in an LTR where you will have sex with extreme efficiency to each others needs. Sex is so much better in an LTR just because you are so comfortable with each other that you can really just do what feels awesome.

Sex is both physical and mental. On the physical side we get turned on by a hot girl, on the mental we get turned on by a woman overcome with horniness to the point where she will throw caution to the wind on you. Shame is what holds us back from enjoying the mental aspect of it.

Read some stuff on Tantric and limit masturbation to twice a week at most. It will change your life.

>>17735700

This is good advice anon.

Another thing you may want to think about is that you might have been worried about getting her off (which is good).

Took me and my last gf a while to figure out I liked getting kissed on the neck while she traced her nipples across my chest and ground herself against me a certain way.

Like a few anon have advised, you just need to figure out what gets you off. It's not just pump pump pump sometimes, especially when you're used to deathgripping your dick every time you jack off.

>>17735431
Other anon with a similar question.
I'm looking for a relationship with a girl but afraid that I might not be able to meet her needs sexually.
Mind you, I've been watching porn since the age of 13 or so.
Throughout the ages I've knocked it out 2/3 sometimes 4 times in a day.
I've toned it down a bit now that I'm older but I've come to the point where porn doesn't do it for me.
Now when I watch porn I feel nothing and I'm afraid that after all those years of fapping that my dick won't function properly in the bed.
Also, is it true that underwear actually reduces sperm count?

>>17735725

You can retrain your dick pretty quick. Don't worry. Just go light on the hand and use memories or imagination instead of porn, say, once a week for a month and you should be fine.

Depends on the underwear. If it doesn't allow your balls to regulate temperature, then yes.

>>17735711

> pump pump pump

This is such a common rookie mistake. This is a porn thing. Our only frame of reference when we lose our V card is what people do in porn, which works sometimes and for some people but not for everybody.

Also remember in porn they are actors and professionals. They are not working to maximize each others pleasure but rather to get the good camera angles and shots and follow the direction of the director. They are constantly stopping and starting up again, holding position, doing incredibly athletic feats of stamina, sweating under hot studio lights, and having cum, shit and blood wiped up between scenes. Yeah some of them enjoy it too but that is incidental.

Sex is giving and receiving pleasure with someone you trust who won't judge you. Porn is not real life.

>>17735742
Is it possible to change myself from fapping to absolute degenerate shit to pure vanilla?

My balls generally don't get too hot, at least not hotter than the rest of my body. Only when I'm working hard or I'm sitting in direct sunlight with black pants.
More importantly, how do I fend off my sexual urges?

>>17735700
>>17735711

That some really great advice, thank you Anons. I always thought I knew the basics from porn, but when you get down to its way more complex than just thrusting your dick. I am now much less worried about it. I actually really enjoyed making sure that she got off, so that probably scored me some points with her even if I couldn't cum easily.

If we end up doing it again, I will probably need to discuss trying out some different positions with her.

>>17735431
It probably has more to do with jacking off than your foreskin being removed. Whether you're a man or woman, sex is different from masturbation, and takes some time getting used to. It was a year or two before I could climax with my boyfriend because I'd been masturbating so long before.

>>17735753

> Is it possible to change myself from fapping to absolute degenerate shit to pure vanilla?

If you go on a masturbation and porn detox for about 7 days then the vanilla shit will have you practically hands free cumming.

> More importantly, how do I fend off my sexual urges?

Get busy with something, preferably something that makes you physically tired. Home improvement project, going to the gym, staying off the computer when you are home alone.

If that doesn't work then take some pills or drink. I generally don't feel like fucking after taking a few vicodin or drinking.

>>17735753

You don't ever have to go pure vanilla.

Like >>17735711 said, maybe he fantasizes about her being a vampire about to bite him or someshit when she's kissing on his neck.

Don't worry about your balls, they'll be ok.

>More importantly, how do I fend off my sexual urges?

Don't start wildly groping the first thing with tits that crosses your vision?

>>17735766

Have her get on top. Or sit in a chair. Or put her on a table.

>>17735769

No skin means less sensitive (fewer nerve endings), means less control over what you're doing.

BUT

You don't know what you're missing anyway. So no worries.

>>17735781
>Don't start wildly groping the first thing with tits that crosses your vision?
I was more talking along the lines of how to get myself not in the mood to fap.
>>17735774
Pretty much nailed it.