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>>17735065
No. Fucking an escort is NOT the same as having sex with someone who is into it.

> Never been good at meeting women
Meeting women is a skill. What, you want to take the final on the second day of class? Go fishing, my boy.

It's Friday night. Go out to where women are, and talk to 3 of them. Just talk. Don't try to score a home run or get laid, just talk.

It will be awkward. It will be painful. But it will net you experience. Next week, try something else. Go places, do things. Read up on communication techniques. Learn.

The easy way out never works.

>>17735095
I always think that people who say this are talking out of their ass. Like if they were actually as bad as the people they were giving this advice to, they would know how stupid it sounds. This works if you can just talk to a random person, but if youre a social fuckwit like me then you just get this:

"Hey, hows it going?"
"Good, you?"
"Yeah, good."
....
"Hows your night?"
"Good, you?"
Yeah, good."
.....
"Ok bye"

Like what do I get out of that. Ive had plenty of stupid little chats like this, never did it make me better at it.

I just want to not be a virgin and not have to think this way; never done it, not an adult etc. Bruv do you actually have any experiences here or what.

>>17735141
I used to be like OP, couldn't talk to people for shit.

If your skills didn't go up with a thousand hours of experience interacting with people (20-30 conversations don't count), you might be autistic or something. Even the shittiest neurotypical people are bound to gain social skills if they put in enough effort.

Not the person you're replying to btw but I agree with his advice. No pain no gain.

>>17735150
OP here, what is the value of that gain though? My problem isnt that im inherently bad at speaking, its that I have incredibly niche interests and little things to say to people who dont share them. If someone watches the same tv shows or smokes my cigarettes I'm fine.

Its just that since im a nerd with incredibly niche interests I dont go to parties or meet people. I dont particularly want to find and fuck some normie girl who likes make-up and the kardashians. If I was going to find a serious relationship it'd have to be someone who had a serious interest in something interesting and was able to appreciate my interest in stupid things like esports and asian movies.

You guys are focused on the 'skills' but im focused on the 'sex'. Why spend all this time searching for the right one when I can have a good experience and cross it off my list?

I dont mean to be contrary but thats what this is about to me.

>>17735174
Because it's pretty retarded to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you.

You're putting yourself on a pedestal, you have all these ~unique~ interests and don't want a girl who "likes make-up and the kardashians". Grow up a bit. Get outside your own head, lose the narcissism, and get to know people. You'll realize you're not as interesting as you thought.

>>17735141

Ok, not the same guy you were talking to but I gotta say that I agree with him AND I'm speaking from experience.

I used to be the same as you - even when I was hanging out with other people at school I would just kind of awkwardly stand nearby and not really say anything. Forget about girls, I would get terribly flustered no matter what female was talking to me and I would barely be able to manage basic responses. It never completely goes away either - there will always be certain chicks that just get you tongue tied or behaving like an idiot until you get to know them better.

But that's the thing, you will never get any better if you never try and that's exactly the excuse that you're giving right now.

"Bro it's just too hard, it's impossible!"

No, it's not. You're in a spot where you're paralyzed into inaction because you're terribly afraid that you'll embarrass yourself. You're terrified of potentially embarrassing yourself because you think that you're an awkward retard who will inevitably embarrass yourself - so you never do anything and it becomes a cycle of re-affirmation since you never socialize or try.

Dude, you have to start somewhere and I'm not going to lie - it's going to be weird and shitty at least some of the time. There are going to be people who don't like you or think you're a loser. BUT, there will be others who are happy to talk to you and you'll start to build your confidence AND you'll be able to loosen up and move away from that feeling where it seems like making conversation seems intimidating and stressful because you feel pressure to not make a fool of yourself.

>>17735183
>>17735191
Im not expressing this well, but I like my social life with my friends, and I think it would be very difficult to find a satisfying relationship. No doubt that would be a good thing to have, but is it necessary?

I just want to fuck and enjoy myself, do something I've never done and grow. Going to an escort would be fun because theres a script. I know what it is and what I'm getting. Why is virginity so precious you have to hoard it for the 'right' one?

Remember, im not asking how to get a better social life, I'm just asking if having sex with an escort would be a bad time.

>>17735183
Not him but you're not interpreting it right.
As a flight simulation enthusiast I have exactly nothing to say to an artist. As a competitive shooter I have nothing to say to a jogger. As a weeaboo I have nothing to say to a Game of Thrones fan. I may as well be speaking another language because they don't understand the words coming out of my mouth and I can't understand theirs.

>>17735065
>Should I give my virginity to an escort?
Bro, I just lost my virginity to an escort a couple of weeks ago.

I am 24 years old and never had a girlfriend. I have shit social skills (my conversations usually go like this >>17735141), bad self-esteem, and just wanted to get it over with. Even in college, I wasn't able to meet a girl nor make friends. I just said fuck it and hired the escort. Don't regret it one bit, and I actually plan on doing more. But that's just me, most people will tell you to work on yourself and meet a girl the normal way. Didn't work for me, but yeah, I don't regret it.

If you decide to go through with it, I can give you my email if you wanna talk about it.

>>17735065
i lost mine to a hooker when i was 19. it wasnt bad and i dont regret it really. ive never been honest about it in real life but thats ok. the worst part about messing with hookers is that once you get over the initial hitch of paying for it you will probably be ok with hookers and fuck them often at least for a while. in my opinion fucking a hooker does not make having sex with your first real girlfriend any less special but it will probably calm performance anxiety and fear you'd definitely have with her.

overall id say more people should give hookers a try. getting a blowjob from a professional blowjob giver is truly an experience because the kind of girl you want to date probably wont do it like some cheap hoe that needs 40 bucks

can I have your email?

My first time was with a new girlfriend that was not the love of my life. It was absolutely not amazing. Don't understand why a hooker would be a problem. It will only get great after a couple of times anyway.