Guy here. Today I saw some random girl around my age on the bus

>>17722587
I broke up with my ex and she was on the next greyhound to Seattle, tears and all.

You probably could've gotten lucky if you showed some interest.

>>17722587

If you are gong with this Anon's attitude: >>17722597, then don't comfort people.

You don't HAVE to do it, and most people will tell you to go the fuck away. But if you really want to help, you can try next time. You don't feel you "must" try.

>>17722587
No, nope, don't.

>>17722587
If you're sitting right next to her you can ask. But don't cross the bus to ask her or anything.

>>17722738
sounds like good advice

>>17722738
This. If you were a girl, then it would have been more acceptable for you to approach her from a different part of a bus

>>17722738
This. Only draws more attention and she probably already feels humiliated to be crying in public.

For the record, have cried in public. Would have been grateful for a sympathetic look or I don't know, pat on the back in passing or something, but no verbal acknowledgement.

I think it's different when the person is obviously in hysterics and no longer caring about making a scene (like "my mother just died and I'm now too late to see her alive for the last time"), then you are free to go up to them.

>>17722587
Depends on the way she was crying. And on you. If you even have to ask, you probably don't have the right skills so don't bother.

>>17722870
>If you even have to ask, you probably don't have the right skills so don't bother.
that's the most retarded thing I've read today

Go to them and ask them if they'd like to talk about it. Ignore these fukn losers telling you to mind your own business.
>if you are in usa then nvm, ur country is fukt

>>17722881
Obviously it's mean for the situation in question. If you got a friend who got shot and you have to ask online how to remove the bullet, you absolutely shouldn't attempt it. Same here. Only the consequences for failure are less severe.

>>17722886
You are implying that people are just born with skills and if they aren't they should not attempt to even try to learn them?
Besides, comforting someone is not rocket science, once you get past the part where you decide if it's a good idea or if they other person would rather not be comforted by a stranger.

>>17722870
>If you even have to ask, you probably don't have the right skills so don't bother.
I'm normally one to throw around the word 'autist' like it's going out of fashion, but I disagree. Everyone, even the most socially adept, have situations where later they think "should I have done something? What could I have done?"

>>17722897
>You are implying that people are just born with skills and if they aren't they should not attempt to even try to learn them?
Jesus fuck, no. My point is that if there is a "critical" situation that needs certain skills, you shouldn't jump into it. Whether it's removing a bullet, flying a plane because the pilot fell asleep or this.

>once you get past the part where you decide if it's a good idea or if they other person would rather not be comforted by a stranger.
This was the question, so OP is clearly not past this part. It doesn't take any super special skills but you need to be able to read the situation and have some basic skills, and preferably not the mindstate to comfort the person because it's a girl (most likely not an ugly one at that too), admittedly this part may be me reading too much into OP.

>>17722900
A socially adept person would also have the ability to analyze it for him/herself; it's neither a huge moral dilemma nor something that will eat up the person for "acting wrong". Pretty sure most non socially retarded people would be able to decide on the right cause of action in this scenario.

>>17722914
>the mindstate to comfort the person because it's a girl (most likely not an ugly one at that too)

>projecting this fucking hard

>>17722922
It's called reading and interpreting what you read. I didn't exactly accuse OP of it, just mentioned that it might be a possibility given the post ... which you would notice if you'd read yourself.

>>17722933
Then you are really bad at interpreting. You are making an assumption that says a lot about yourself.
Just fyi not every single action a man does is made with the purpose of getting laid. And then you accuse others of being socially retarded...

>>17722940
>#notevermale
I never implied it, hence I differentiated the POSSIBILITY that it COULD be OPs motivation with a fucking oxford coma AND added that I might be reading too much into his/her post.

>And then you accuse others of being socially retarded...
Never did that either. Is it the new theme or do you generally suck at reading?

>>17722958
>I might be reading too much into his/her post
>you would notice if you'd read yourself
>"Guy here" right there in the OP
What the actual fuck? Did you even read the post?

>>17722962
>>"Guy here" right there in the OP
Ahaha, I really missed it. Touche.

>>17722587
She is only crying because she lost the resources her boyfriend could have provided her dont be fool by her crocodile tears.