hey /adv/, im not really good at social settings unless its people

>>17718213
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After that my bro put on tv watching youtube, and i standed near the kitchen doorway. My grandfathr said in spanish to sit down next to him on the couch, and i felt iffy about it but did it out of respect. Like how could i say no? We didnt really talk and he asked me in spanish a question about the vid, i said a quick response. And as time grew i felt worse and my grandfather would just stare at me for a bit. I tried ignoring it but i felt even worse, like what do i do when he does that? I looked back at him once and he asked me something else about the video if it was a violin (we were watching some orchestra) and i said yes and i tried mentioning the bass and cello just to add to it, to make it feel conversational.

I looked at my phone to do look preoccupied, which probably made me feel worse since i tried to look like im doing something infront him, and he would look at me which multiplied my feeling. He said to grandmother at his right in spanish something like "its hard for them to communicate because they cant speak our language", i cant recall exactly but i understood that i was not looking good infront of him. My aunt wanted me to take the compost downstairs and i waited there for a bit. When i walked back up my grandfather was coming out of the kitchen and he looked at me, I was feeling it and I looked at him and yeah, or yes. i sat on a rocking chair and my father came into the room, i didnt worry since he took the attention and eventually my grandparents went to bed.

This is alot longer than i thought i would type it, so alot of you might not read it but
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TLDR; possible inferiority complex or social phobia, how do i fix this?

I fail to see how your (extremely tiresome) story relates to your tldr.

>>17718268
join clubs. go to church. get a job. do (team) sports. go backpacking. force yourself to talk to people.

>>17718399
it's a long and hard journey and you may not become completely normal, but you can at least be better than you are now. good luck OP

>>17718386
alright, i wrote it after i just came back from it. now that im better, i can say what happened was i had a fear of being in an awkward situation where i cant do anything and shame myself. So i try to fake being comfortable or natural and when they see through it it makes me feel horrible. then i feel like panicking and i leave as smooth as possible (not smooth). What do i do about this? I have a job, ive been in track, never been in a club. Should i seek god like >>17718399

>>17718403
I agree. It is a long and hard journey, I suffered from social anxiety up until high school. It took a lot of time, and I had to keep pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I had to keep forcing myself to talk to others. You WILL fail sometimes. You WILL be in awkward situations because you didn't know what to say.

But through these failures, you learn. And you learn. And you learn. And one day, you realize that shy loner has become a man with a solid group of friends (not a lot, but important ones) and can talk to strangers comfortably without anxiety.