Why is it so hard to be happy? Why have I lived my life without

Happiness is just an allegory, an abstract goal. Just set your personal goal and try to reach them. Don't think about happiness itself, otherwise you'll be wasting your time.

>>17717839
*your personal goals
Fix'd.

By this I mean learning something you always wanted to, or traveling to a place you never been before, etc.

>>17717827
>The only thing bringing me to my goals is a feeling of obligation, not passion, not legitimate motivation, just a feeling of "I have to get this done because I have to". It's been like that in pretty much every area of my life that involves doing anything productive.

Obligated by what
>society
...as in not partying or drinking or fucking
>yea
You dont have to do that
>but everyone else is
Right but you have a choice not to do that shit
>but people will think im weird
And?
>i want people to like me
Everyone wants to be liked but you eventually find out that you dont have to be liked, and no one has to fucking like you.
>but i wont have friends
Yea you will theyre just harder to find now but i assure you more people just like you exist
>but itll be hard to find them
Yea well. Life is hard.
>i just dont want to do anything
Aight well dont expect people to stop and pick you up if you no longer possess the will to even hold your head up.

>>17717845
>>17717839
but i don't even know what that is anymore.

I'm so unbelievably confused about myself.

>>17717849
So are you trying to say I shouldn't be out partying?

I'm very confused on the actual point your trying to make here

>>17717850
I would suggest you to search on mindfulness. Maybe this can help you. And keep calm, respect your own time. Best wishes.

>>17717864
Yeah, maybe not a bad idea.

Jesus Christ though, I graduate in less than 2 years and I'm not even close to being emotionally ready for the real world.

How did i end up this way :/

>>17717827
stop asking these stupid fucking questions and break down what makes life meaningful for you. really tackle the question, i doubt youve ever thought about it for longer than 10 minutes before, probably not even that.

"but nothing in life seems meaningful to me"

well, because you havent fucking thought. think about what you can do to give your life meaning. for me, i want to expand the scope of human consciousness, and i happen to be good at making movies, so i spend 16 hours a day working my ass off at something i'm good at in order to make an impact in an area. i don't think my life would be meaningful in any other way.

youre depressed, but youre also obviously being a bit of a bitch, have some self confidence.

establish a base to go off of. start a routine, build some habits. be more productive for 21 days before quitting, put some real effort in, even if it seems worthless; you're in a funk and you can break out of it. start exercising, waking up early, meditating, SOMETHING which is hard to do and do that consistently so you can know that you're not being undisciplined, and then go from there.

t. a whiney directioneless kid who had depression for 6 years and wasted years of his life feeling sad, and feeling sad that he was sad rather than trying to make an active change.

also, passion is something that has to be developed for people like us, man. put some real thought into this and break the problem down. the only thing "wrong" with you is that you are too afraid to face some of your problems.

>>17717880


i think the biggest thing to distill from this is just to be active, and to try to get better at doing certain things.

for me, when i first started trying to find passions, i went out and tried rock climbing. i ended up liking it and its one of my hobbies now, its how i define myself. from going out on a day i was depressed and had been sleeping for 16 hrs, by mustering up the will, etc. put in some effort, it doesnt sound like you are doing it right now.

>>17717880
>and break down what makes life meaningful for you.

My friends are really the only things that make my life feel like it's worth living. Just being around some of them is just an instant good mood for me. Obviously that's not what you mean though. It's kind of a big, vauge question. I haven't the foggiest idea as to where to behind

>the only thing "wrong" with you is that you are too afraid to face some of your problems.

It isn't so much I'm afraid, moreso I feel overwhelmed. We're literally talking about fixing myself here. That's a huge undertaking, there's so much to do, so much to consider, so much I need to understand about myself that I just don't. This isn't the first time I've gotten advice like this from someone, and it's not like I think it's wrong, but for some reason it always feels like way too much to wrap my head around...

>>17717827
Dopamine receptor insensitivity, many possible causes, most commonly porn.

Try reading this.

http://yourbrainonporn.com

>>17717913
There we go again

I feel like I know you, OP.

>>17717913
porn is actually fucking awful for the mind isnt it, holy fuck.

>>17717928
do you live in southwestern ontario?

>>17717933
I'm afraid not. I guess this is just a universal feeling then, unfortunately.

>>17717886
>>17717886
> i went out and tried rock climbing
>its how i define myself

Why are happy people such fucking faggots?

Miserable people 4lyfe OP

>>17717982
but i don't wanna be miserable 4lyfe.

At least my counselling helps a little bit

Seems like therapy could be good for you.

While they'll tell you a lot of the same shit we are, they'll also be there to guide you through it. Sometimes all you need is a push up the first step

>>17717982
You seem bitterly uptight. To each his own.

bumping for interest