I can't get sexually aroused anymore for almost 3 years

>>17712141
Go to the doctor, hormones may be acting up.

Are you taking any medicament? Anything that could be triggering this?
Are you depressed? Shocked by anything?

There could be a million catalysts for this.

Did you used to pleasure your self a lot ?( toys or hand )

A lot of women feel this way.
A lot more than you would think.
That's why the common conception of female sexuality is lesser than the male one.
What you're feeling happens to a lot of people.

Have you tried going to the gym with your partner?
You go together and sweat out and watch each other build their bodies.
That can help.

Don't feel shame about how you feel.

>>17712151
I used to take anti-depressants, but that was 5 years ago. I'm on birth control for 7 months now. Mainly because of a minor medical thing that cleared up really fast but I also like how I can just have sex with my bf without using condoms or worrying.

When I started using the I didn't feel any change in sex drive or mood for that matter.

The feeling is non stop for 3 years. I do feel upset sometimes and get a bad day from time to time, but it shouldn't affect me much, should it?

> Go to the doctor, hormones may be acting up.
can it last for so many years? Also wouldn't I feel a difference after starting taking bc pills? But maybe that's a good idea. I wonder if I should just visit the family doctor or a gynecologist.

>>17712152
Those clitoris vibrators, but 95% of the time hand or shower head. Used to masturbate quite abit, but then I stopped feeling the need. Now I just do it sometimes to see if I feel something. I can orgas but there's a disconnect between my body and my mind. It's very hard to explain but completely ruins everything.

>>17712157

The problem is I had such a gigantic an enjoyable sex drive. Also an imagination that could drive e nuts. I could basically almost get off with my imagination alone.

We don't go to the gym.
I kind of wish y boyfriend worked out more, but only because of his health issues. Don't want his boy to change sine I like the type. But even if his body or he was the problem all together wouldn't I still be able to feel arousal while watching something?

> A lot of women feel this way.
> A lot more than you would think.
> That's why the common conception of female sexuality is lesser than the male one.
> What you're feeling happens to a lot of people.

At this point I would be fine with just sometimes feeling horny. Even a small portion of what I used to feel before.

>>17712198
>> Go to the doctor, hormones may be acting up.
>can it last for so many years? Also wouldn't I feel a difference after starting taking bc pills? But maybe that's a good idea. I wonder if I should just visit the family doctor or a gynecologist.
This sounds like it might need several visits.
General/family practitioner, gynecologist and psychologist.

The fact that you just drastically changed like that is weird, and it could also be some kind of illness.

Does your boyfriend knows this?
Maybe you can discuss it with him, ASSURING HIM that it's nothing to do with him or someone else and that you just want to feel better.

Give it some time to see how you feel, just don't have sex.
It might bring the need back.

>>17712202
> The fact that you just drastically changed like that is weird, and it could also be some kind of illness.

What do you mean "drastically changed"? Like I said the sex drive and my mood have been stable for 3 years now. No sex drive and relatively good mood.

He knows this and we talked about it alot. He did feel like it's his fault, but if it was I would tell him that. He has a huge sex drive so I feel very bad for not satisfying him. He tells me to not push myself and to not do it if I don't want to, but then I will never do it, if it's all up to me.

When I said that my mood is good, this is the only major psychological issue. I feel as a failure of a girlfriend, because I can't satisfy him and that I can't show any sexual arousal towards him.

> just wait and see

I've been waiting for 3 years now. I think you're right, I need to see a doctor about this. It's abit embarrassing and i'm not sure how to approach the problem with them, but I guess it's just another simple illness in their eyes and nothing else.

>>17712224
>What do you mean "drastically changed"? Like I said the sex drive and my mood have been stable for 3 years now. No sex drive and relatively good mood.
Your sex drive changed drastically.
It may happened 3 years ago but it changed drastically.
>I've been waiting for 3 years now.
I suggested that before knowing all this, I really recommend a general practitioner that's likely to redirect you to either a gynecologist or a psychologist, maybe even a psychiatrist.

A doctor is a doctor and they study years to get there, the embarrassing part would be sacrificing your well being for no reason.
I warn you tho, you might not like what you find if you do go to a psychologist/psychiatrist.
Just make sure that you find a good one.

>>17712227
Well I will need to have a check up next month and see my gynecologist to get a prescription for pills, so I will ask her about it.

But at this point it feels like i'll never be aroused by anything again.

>>17712260
It honestly could be as minor as hormones or a medication to more major stuff as psychological things or a trauma or you're not into guys or maybe even a problem in your brain.
Or maybe you're just not into it for whatever non problematic reason.

Which is why it's really important you figure out what's going on as quickly as possible, best of luck.

Were you extremely sexual for an escape from depression? Similar to how people get addicted to drugs you can get addicted to porn and sex.

>>17712285
>>17712271

I'm not sure. Not sure what's considered alot. I just used to become aroused if I saw an image of a person I like or if I touched myself. Then my brain would switch to wanting pleasure. After reaching a few orgasms it would simmer down. Like I said I could sometimes spend the day just imagining all sorts of sexual things.

I can't say my depression at that time affected how I felt about it. There were moments where I was feeling like I was in the deepest pit and would still have sexual thoughts. There were moments were things were stable and didn't have any feelings about it and vise versa. I suppose the best way to put it is that I was very easy to turn on, but I wasn't constantly horny.

I wasn't sexually active either. I did have a few boyfriends over those years, but we never did any thing sexual above kissing and cuddling. There was always something missing in them for me to want to have sex with them. I would get horny, but I didn't have the trust to do it with them. But alot of masturbation. Keep in mind I was between 15 to 19 during my most heated up period. Met my current bf when I was 20. He was the first person I did something sexual with. But even before meeting him my arousal dipped down. After about 2 years of being with him it just disappeared. If anything the sex itself feels amazingly good now. And when I started taking bc pills it became even better. Got very sensitive. But there's a gigantic disconnect between what I feel physically and psychologically/emotionally.

I had one moment a few years back when I was mind blowingly horny for no reason. I was able to have sex with him from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep. Constantly feeling as if there's an itch only he can scratch. BUT, he was suffering from minor depression at the time because of his family issues and studies, so I controlled myself because I knew he wasn't in the mood. I think that after those few weeks I lost all and any feelings of arousal.

Get your thyroid hormones checked out too. That little shit can fuck up a lot of things.