>J-JUST BE YOURSELF BRAH! Has there ever been a worst lie

Most people I've met and had long friendships with (enough time to really get to see who they are through events/reactions/whatever), are pretty okay people.

Some people are just shit humans. I don't even feel bad if you are one man. Suffering might be justice if you're that bad a person.

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>>17697775

>Has there ever been a worst lie than that? I've been myself every time I tried to get it with a girl and I've been rejected in horrible manners.

Maybe you're a really shitty person. I'm not sure why you thought that "being yourself" was all that was required to develop a relationship with a woman.

Maybe you're a creep. Have you considered this possibility?

>>17697790

>I'll apply some weak mental gymnastics into the situation to try to prove him wrong, that will work!

No anon, I am a regular human being that behaves, or tries to, like any other person.

If being yourself isn't working them something has to change.

>>17697810

Yes, women should change.

I did everything I could.

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>>17697795

>No anon, I am a regular human being that behaves, or tries to, like any other person.

Obviously not. Regular human beings are able to get into relationships. If you can't accomplish what regular human beings routinely accomplish with relative success then it would only be logical to assume that you aren't a regular human being.

Shitty people exist. I'm not sure if you know what "mental gymnastics" but hypothesizing that maybe people don't like you because you're a shitty person isn't a ridiculous thing to say nor is it a stretch of the imagination.

Women don't like you. Obviously, something about you puts them off. Judging from the 2 posts you've made I would venture to say you probably don't have a great attitude. Also, the fact that you haven't participated in even the smallest bit of introspection when trying to figure out why women don't like you says you're probably not all that wise or intelligent.

Shitty people exist, OP. A lot of them. Maybe you are one of them.

>>17697775

in horrible manners or in regular ways that you pretend are 'horrible' because you're ego centric?

>>17697775
That's because the vast majority of people suck. So you can pretend to be someone else and snag someone that's probably not right for you, or you can drop the bullshit and go through the fire until you find someone that doesn't suck.

It's up to you.

I'm 100% believer in 'be yourself' and 'don't play games' but I think the issue is people sugar-coat it as id someone will fall from the sky and love your soul. No. You open yourself up to a lot of bullshit and hurt, and it can take awhile to find someone great. But I don't want someone that just likes me because I'm super cool with a super cool car anyway.

Don't get me wrong, NOTHING is bad about improving yourself and growing as a person. But some of the shit I see on here I think would get a SO I wouldn't want in the first place.

>>17697814

That's out of your control.

I was referring to you.

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>>17697828
Nice RLM reaction pic

It means be the best version of yourself.

It doesn't mean being an outgoing life of the party. It just means enhancing the good qualities about yourself.

>>17697868

I did, It did not work.

Why do you keep trying to prove such blatant lie? Women don't want you to be yourself, they want Chads and big dick tyrone to ram them every weekend.

>>17697890
are you being 100% serious right now? because I can tell you right now... know how it sucks to be lumped in with dudes that 'use and abuse' women when you yourself aren't like that and tried to be a good guy?

Yeah, same goes for chicks.

Sorry your personal experience has been so negative, but you can't be making blanket statements.

>>17697890
You really are naive. Look in different places and stop projecting bitterness. Nothing worth doing is easy.

>>17697890

then just date dudes. or dont date at all. but stop being salty that literally all woman are sex robots who run the exact same script.

>>17697890

lets pretend you are right. you're not but lets pretend.

you are presumably talking about chicks you deem 'bangable'.

but you are not bangable to them. ergo, why are you mad? you are mad at them for having the same standard you do.

>>17697833
>>17697915
these.

the bitterness is so childish and pathetic honestly. Plenty of us have been kicked around and seen how awful people can be, and don't act like this. I'm starting to think you're not as nice of a guy as you think you are.

"just be yourself"
is usually said when it's assumed you know enough about yourself, your beliefs and social boundaries in order for this to work.
Not knowing yourself you'll go for an opportunity and you'll get hurt

>>17697890
Dude, you just sound bitter as fuck.

You're not fuckable, get over it. Either lower your standards and improve yourself so they'll fuck you.

>>17697933

>lower your standards

I tried. ive tried hitting on every single fat ugly chick ive seen, the kind that make me want to vomit jsut being around them, but they all date alpha chads, how do they do it? is pussy just worth that much?

>>17697938
>but they all date alpha chads

No they aren't dude. I agree that women are definitely dating up due to tinder and the likes but fat hambeasts are not getting Chads.

Post your picture, because if you can't find anyone you're either really ugly or have no game.

>>17697938
you're just a shitty person, sorry.

no seriously.

You're not a good guy any better than the Chads. You're worse, if anything, because you THINK you're a better person.

Stupid people are stupid. But ESPECIALLY stupid people are stupid bit think they're smart.

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>>17697938
Elliot?

>>17697775
get the fuck back to /r9k/

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>>17697944
>>17697955

fine do your worst. i coudl surely at least get a ham planet if what i said wasn't true, but they're all dating alphas.

>>17697968
You kind of look like a tool but you're not bad looking. You're definitely projecting some serial killer vibe that makes people run.

See>>17697960
Elliot wasn't bad looking and was rich but couldn't get laid to save his life because he was a psychopath.

>>17697955
>>17697972

You are so unbelievably stupid or a woman.

My guess is the latest.

>>17697975

whats the difference?

>>17697968

Yeah you look like a tool.
Not even the "Chad" type of tool. Just generally the type fat feminists call "fuck boys." Lose the bracelets and the smug look of superiority and you'll get laid. You're giving off a narcissistic vibe.

>>17697975
nah, these aren't even both me. you're just one of those 'fake nice guys' which is way worse than an overt asshole

chicks can smell it on you.

>>17697975
I'm average looking and I can still get laid. So if you can't get laid you must be really trying to repel these girls

It doesn't sound like you're open to advice anyway. You're just here to take out your virgin rage. Just tell me where you live so I can avoid you when you go on a rage.

>>17697968
holy shit lmao

>>17697972
i don't get how he looks like a serial killer, also he is objectively handsome in that he has a good jaw, a fuckboi haircut that girls love, etc.

I honestly believe you are basing this opinion off the things he has said prior, he looks like a harmless teen.. with fucking multiple bracelets kek

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>>17697972
>>17697990
>>17697997

thats not even him

>>17698005
I didn't say he looks like a serial killer, I just said he probably projects a vibe with his attitude.

>>17698007
damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn niggaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lolololololololololololol

>>17697990
>implying narcissists don't get mad pussy
I knew a guy who walked around shirtless and occasionally liked to joke that he had superhuman genes. You shouldve seen the girls, head over fucking heels

Be yourself is great advice.

Rule of thumb: be yourself while being kind and corteous to others. If they don't like you, fuck em. The golden rule really is the most important anon

Yes, and it's "Just be confident!". I can't think of a single sentence that's more condescending or more of a back-handed insult than it.

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>>17697968

I think your problem is you aren't wearing enough bracelets.

Holy fucking kek, this is hilarious.
How women classify the pic, not knowing anything about him: >>17698007
>cute boy

When women are imagining him as a virgin
>serial killer vibe
>tool
>narcissist

Mental gymnastics folks, it's written on the wall.

>>17697775
Not.but really... Just be yourself, bro

Don't change they way you are, believe it or not, people can perceive this.
I'm pretty sure there's atleast 1 person, somewhere that might be interested in you

>>17698088
I AM NOT AMUSED.

>>17697775
They mean 'bee' yourself, as in love life (bees are the happiest race in the world), love nature (smell flowers and shit), do sweet things for others (like bees do honey for bears) and if people don't like it sting them with your ass.

If you aren't an upstanding citizen that takes care of themselves, then yeah, don't be yourself, neckbeard.

>>17697944
>but fat hambeasts are not getting Chads

not op but op is right I know ugly as girls with chad boyfriends. women can get away with dating up because men have a higher sex drive then women and this put men at a disadvantage.

>>17698392

Not a neckbeard, take care of myself and excercise, on top of that I study and work at the same time. Theres not much wrong with me, still, by ''being myself'' I cant seem to get anybody.

Therefore ''just be yourself XD'' is bullshit.

>>17697890
Is your dad a Chad?

>>17697775

>just be yourself
>doesn't mean "change nothing about yourself"
>you still need to try to maintain good health and hygiene and at least try to do the right thing
>be yourself doesn't mean instantly you get pussy by staying the exact same forever
>you still have to go out and try to meet people and be at least in contact with some form of life in order to find a date

>>17698466
You're on 4chan moaning about a lack of grill, there is going to be something wrong with you.

>>17697775
Just be yourself only works for normies.

Where did all these dickwads come from? Why can't you stay on your containment board? Fuck off back to /r9k/. This board is for people who actually want to improve, not gutter trash who chose to be failures at life and want to do nothing but wallow in self-pity.

I suggest you to read Models by Mark Manson. The book will vastly explain to you what "being yourself" means. I think you just come off as too needy to girls and that is a big turn off. By being yourself, we mean putting yourself vulnerable to your environment. If you are too hurt because of some rejections, you're coming off as a needy person who desperately needs a grill.

I myself haven't finished the book yet but it'll def. give you a greater insight about how such things work in life.

You can download his pdf easily if you're a poorfag like me xP.

You're right, it's bullshit advice on 4chan where 90% of men are losers. In the real world? Nothing wrong with it.

>>17699024
No, not 90% on 4chan. 90% on /r9k/.

>>17697814
No. If being youself doesn't work, YOU have to change. And I mean change, not increase the amount of weight you can squat.

>>17697814
Liar. No you didn't. You didn't do shit. Robots like you are all liars. You lie to yourself saying you have worked hard and tried everything.

Liar.

Im an funny smiling asshole with great attitude although 4-5/10 look and manlet (175cm) and had 3 gfs long term so be urself and be not shitty is real. Its up to you if you want to die beta fag way.

>>17697775
git

gud

>>17697775
It just Means be confident and don't emulate other people because it's obvious and not respectable

It's implying you should forego lying if you're gonna try and start a relationship, since they'll see through it sooner or later.

You should improve yourself, not just expect people to like you exactly as you are. There is a "best" version of yourself. You'll still need an iota of charisma.

Also, probably stop lashing out at people who try to help you when you fail. The failure is yours. That attitude translates into your actions and girls can probably tell.

>>17697775
>>J-JUST BE YOURSELF BRAH!
it works but only if yourself is a cool bro

>>17698098
I think it's because, if you're gonna pose as a "cute guy", and then write a whiney novel about how women don't date you, the obvious reason they won't is because of shit personality.

>>17697795
There's your problem man.

You try to be like other people. You don't even realize it, but you've literally went from
>Hire durr being yourself is a lie and a meme I've tried

To

>Hurt durr I'm not creepy I try to be normal like other people

No joke, my ex told me that it was creepy and off putting when I acted and behaved like other people and adopted their mannerisms. She told me it was like I had no identity and it was a sign of something a lot more disturbing.

I tried to avoid being the nastier side of what I know I am and it wasn't until recently that I realized it was that side of me, the one I actively try to hide to be like "normal" people that actually makes me interesting. So I embraced it. I always wondered why so many people thought I was judgmental, but it turns out because I actively notice and read people. When I keep my mouth shut, my incessant behavior comes off as judging, but when I actively point out things about people, they actually appreciate it.

Just embrace who you are man. This is what it means to love yourself and be comfortable in your own skin. This is how you defeat your insecurities

>>17697775
Be yourself and just do you mean the same thing
It means go out and have fun and hike and play sports and go to the movies and shit. Alone.
Be self reliant when everyone flakes, because you're the star. Your plans do not need others, others can come and join in the fun if they want.

If people see someone having fun, they'll join, because they want to have fun and forget about their problems.

>>17697775
How can I not be myself?

Sure, it's a hollow advice, but at the same time, what are the alternatives ?
Pretending you are someone you aren't ? You won't develop any meaningful relationships with somebody that way.

I'm not someone who likes normie clubs and stuff like that for example, so the best thing for me to do is to go to places where people enjoy or think the same kind of things as me and meet some of them there (concerts where the music I like is played, etc.)
I'm not saying I want someone who is exactly like me, but there are people who are obviously not compatible with me.

However, being yourself doesn't mean you should be an asshole. It means asserting your personality, but in a civil way.

Anyway, you should lower your expectations and accept this situation. I'm an introverted alcoholic nerd who is always afraid of showing his feelings, and even though I have the chance to be kinda cute and not totally socially inept, I know most girls are more attracted by hotter normies than me.
But some girls like the way I am, and once in a blue moon, some of them want to be intimate with me.
It helps to have some female friends btw, it makes you consider them like regular human beings, and not mystical creatures made for the sole purpose of procreation.

>>17699562
This, also.

>>17697790
>Maybe you're a creep. Have you considered this possibility?
This is pretty much why I hate the "be yourself" meme, like what if I'm an asshole man.

You ding dong. It's not being yourself that gets you anywhere, it's being the person you WANT to be.
The thing is that isn't you, at least not your pathetic entitled ass right now. Sure there are some things you can't change such as being good looking or having a disease, but you can change other things such as your habits and hobbies.
You are going to have some really, REALLY bad moments where you let yourself down or others let you down. Probably the worst you'll ever feel in your entire life. But you have to strive for something greater, to make sure at the end of the day you are a better person than you were yesterday by experience or knowledge in some way.

I'm not going to lie to you, you may NEVER reach that goal. But it gets easier trying to get there, and in the end you can at least look at yourself in the mirror and believe you tried.

>>17698007
>>17698098
That's pretty funny

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>>17697938

Lowered your standards, did you?

Would you fuck her? She's 28 and single.

>>17697938
>lower your standarts
Most retarded advice ever.
If you don't have autistic pornstar-tier standards, it makes things just more difficult.
I find that I can hardly talk to unattractive girls if they're not very interesting people otherwise, because I don't care about them. It also becomes much harder to show sexual intent because you have to completely force yourself.
Nevermind that they'll notice you're just looking for a practice fuck because of this - they may not give a shit, but they know.

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>>17699469
>upset that women's advice for being single didn't work
>shit personality
kill yourself.