i think my best friend is trying to date me and i don't

>>17695675
Why would anyone call you names, you don't want to date him and that's fine.
Not only that but you're worried about losing a good relationship, how "obvious" are these signs of no interest?

The problem is that this is hard, one misstep and he might get mad at you even without saying no.

There's also the chance that he's been trying to be with you more time because you broke up with your boyfriend and he's thinks you need someone to be with you on though times.

>>17695690
thank you
well the other week he came over and we started chatting and he was asking like "so who do you have in mind to date next?" and i told him no one and he goes "mm.. that's really good to hear" which was a bit uncomfortable
today he took me out for hours and it started with a restaurant where he payed, then we went to some amusement thing and he put his arm around me and i asked him to take it off .. then he tried holding my hand and i pretty much told him that i didn't want to be touched but in a stern way
then afterwards he just texted me a bunch of stuff saying like "i hope you're okay. tonight was really fun."
idk it seems too much to just be friendly.. he's not usually like this

>>17695704
Oh yeah, "I think" is not a thing here, he's not even being subtle and he's not being friendly, that's flat out trying to get it on with you.
Do you think that he might get mad at you if you find someone else?
Is he that kind of guy?
You might just say certain guy caught your eye on a casual conversation with him, that tends to really bring down expectations but this is where you gotta be careful, depending on how mature he is he might get extremely hurt and take it out on you for no reason, and the same thing might happen if you flat out tell him you don't want to be with him.

It's a tough situation and it really boils down to how he handles it, the "mm.. that's really good to hear" is just fucking weird which makes me think he might have been waiting to "have a shot" with you.

>>17695716
would it be wrong if we dated for like a week or two and then called it off after that? i think that would make him less angry about it. i really do value his friendship but he's not the person i want to date. he's usually very nice. i just think that rejection is going to happen one way or another and i KNOW he's going to get hurt and not want to talk to me anymore... i don't have many friends i don't want to lose anyone...

>>17695704
If youre not interested in dating anyone for now, try to naturally bring that up in a conversation.

From what youve said it sounds as if hes passively flirting with you. Maybe even a little bit aggressively. If it keeps up youll just have to be honest with him. The soonrr the easier itll be for the both of you.

>>17695728
I dont think that would be a good idea at all. He could get emotionally invested quickly, and that will cause some decent drama. He may get angry thinking you didnt try to make it work or something and break things off completely

>>17695728
Maybe, but that might mean that he's gonna keep trying and trying and he could get really invested and excited only to crash down and, again, taking it all out on you and possibly cutting contact.
The "mm.. that's really good to hear" line feels like he has been waiting for this, who knows for how long.
I'm not trying to be a dick here but you have to wonder if he kept being your friend waiting for a chance for you to be single and swoop in immediately, and if he might try to do that even after not getting things his way.

Sounds kinda wacky I know, but there's a LOT of guys like this.
>>17695729
This is a good idea, trying to lead him on will potentially make him feel worse but then there's the chance of the thing above happening.

You gotta figure out if it's a sudden thing or if he had his eye on you for God knows how long.