How do you accept the fact that other people will never truly

>>17689126
>How do you accept the fact that other people will never truly care about you?

With that attitude, it's no wonder people don't feel like hanging out.

You met people that you didn't get along with. Wow, join the club. That's life.

Keep the people that you connect with around, and keep looking for more. That's what we all do.

I was in this situation, it hurts for sure.

I found that people care more about you when you aren't an ass but aren't some nice guy either.

>>17689147

Not OP.

What's a "nice guy" to you?

>>17689134
Yeah, this is something I definitely need to come to terms with. Thanks.

>>17689147
I guess I'll have to be...less nice? Bleh. It feels wrong, but I know you're right on this. Thanks.

>>17689168

Wait a goddamned second!

What does being "less nice" mean?

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>>17689126

>How do you accept the fact that other people will never truly care about you?

You're a fucking bummer. Your pity party is boring and no one wants to attend. Stop exhausting the people in your life with your shitty attitude and they might actually stick around.

>>17689126
develop a common interest if you care this much

>>17689174
Going above and beyond. One of them was sick with the flu, so I dropped off some tea for her. Another was sick during a shift we had together, so I went to Wal-Mart on my break and grabbed her some painkillers. Just stuff to show I care.

>>17689186
I don't act this way in life. Just using 4chan as means to get advice and vent. A change in my attitude is probably in order though.

>>17689211

Funny how you do nice things for girls specifically...

Also, did you call before dropping of the tea?

Because you might not be nice, but obnoxiously overbearing.

>>17689126
just realize you either look too slutty or youre ugly and dumb. thats what explains it for me.

>>17689252
I sent her a text beforehand.
Yeah, most of my friends are girls. I've done sort of stuff for male friends too, but not nearly as much. Maybe I should just cut doing that kind of stuff entirely. I love doing stuff for people but I guess I shouldn't. Or at least not in the way I do.

>>17689126
You learn to respect yourself. Which is (IMO) about finding out what's important to you, truly important, and living that.

I know where your coming from anon, these situations can hurt and be difficult but dont let it ruin you. The best thing to do here imo is take a step back and focus on your self. Maybe you just dont click as well as you thought or your personality isnt as strong as you think. People seem to want to be around those that are truly themselves and can do so without being an asshole. It comes off much more envious, charming, and interesting than just being a nice guy. Who knows maybe we just suck

>>17689211
>>17689316

You need to be a little more self-aware of your actions. Consider how they might be received.

Like >>17689252 said, doing that stuff when you aren't asked can seem overbearing, and even as if you're trying to get in their good graces because you want something in return.

Doing things like that doesn't entitle you to their friendship. It's nice, yes, but it may not be what they need or want.

Also, speaking personally, guys who are only nice to girls irritate the shit out of me. Maybe that's how you're coming off to these people?

Just some things to consider.

>>17689126
The world isn't made for selfless people, if you let them walk all over you, they will -- start demanding more from friendships, and give them incentive to hang out with you.

>>17689126

Friends are a bit like partners, you can't be the one putting in all the effort, it puts people off and makes them think they can walk all over you. Initiating plans is fine but if you find it doesn't work out the first time then leave the ball in their court to arrange something else, otherwise you become this needy friend immediately that no one really has time for. Keep socialising and talking to people, you will meet others like you who will be the ones chasing you for plans.

And yeah doing overly nice things for people you're not really close with just comes across a bit weird, especially to girls because they will think you fancy them. Especially when it involves money, time and effort spent. Try to win people over with your personality not the things you do for them, friends are mostly there for entertainment sake, they just want like minded people to talk and hang out with.