Hi guys, I have a girl problem and I need some help in approaching

self bump so it doesn't die til morning

Out of the two, go for the first one. Better yet, don't talk about defining the relationship, and don't talk about feelings. If you know how to enjoy yourself, continue doing that. Be fun, pleasant, all that jazz, and when you've established proper, daily contact, THEN you start building attraction with her. Don't tell her your planning to, or planning not to, or whatever. Don't ever mention friendzoning, just do what you need to do in order to avoid it.

>>17677145
What if she brings it up? It is very likely she will cause we talked completely honestly about our feelings all the time.

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>>17676757
why are you wasting your time, she does not have romantic feelings toward you, that is in your head and you are only hearing and interpreting those things that support she does. Noting you have said here sounds any more than an adoring boy and a girl that uses the adoring boy for emotional support. You cannot convince or make anyone your willing partner. They either want you or they don't

>>17676757
>And now, after some time has passed, I have a strong feeling she'll want to get back in contact

what makes you think that?

>>17678629
I imagine the same delusional thinking that got OP into the mess in the first place

>>17677622
Sorry, fell alseep on you.

If she brings up feelings? Well, then you brush it off laughingly and show her a good time, without worrying so much about the big questions.

Feelings are something you develop, it's not something given at the beginning of getting to know each other or talking for the first time in ages. It's in the small things, how well you carry yourself around her, how you make her smile, the adventures you bring her on. Stuff that she doesn't see anyone else doing for her.

The young boys of 4chan seem to think that a relationship always should be seen in light of what ever has happened so far, instead for investing in the oportunities that lies ahead. Why would you talk about feelings, when you can create them instead?

>>17678629
just the way she acts and also info from her close friends suggesting so

>>17678709
Thank you so much, anon.

I've been really ripped apart on those 2 options and now you assured me on option 2. All that's necessary is some patience, playing it smart and having fun.

Thank you so so much, again.

>>17678806
Yeah, no worries, basically stop questioning. Act as if you're getting everything you want long-term, by doing what you feel like doing, as long as it's enjoyable (and sexy, don't forget to have fun,) for both parties.

Just be outcome-independant, don't let small steps back get you down, because ultimately any sign of her not being into you, is just an invitation to do better, and you can both step forward in no time. A lot of girls need time to get intimate. Don't take it as a bad sign, she's thinking about it - and the better you act, the more likely she'll want you in the end.

>>17678819
Yeah, I know that she's thinking about it. She told me herself she thinks about it every now and then.

But anyways I see this kind of like a soft reset, allowing me to do things right this time. But most importantly, I should enjoy life and make her want me in her life even more than she does. Thank you again anon.

PS Also I think it is very important to act as if she doesn't interest me in a romantic way (anymore) because she said that knowing that repulses her. Meaning I should keep it at a strict fun friendship level, always making her want more of me. Which I know won't be hard to do.

>friendship between man and women

unless you're childhood friends, it doesn't exist

>>17676757
There is no way out of the friendzone. If you got in and consider it a viable concept, you're fucked already. Basically it's a mental trap and you put yourself on the sexual desirability level of a pet by believing in it.

>So what should I do? What would be smarter?
Look for other fish in the sea, nigga.

>End goal obviously being making her my gf
Not going to happen.

>>17679369
That's bullshit. All it takes is to be somewhat open and not a horny faggot who needs to bang everything with a pussy.