I was snooping on my boyfriend's computer yesterday and

I'd dump him and report him to the police. Depression isn't a free pass to cheat and take illegal pictures.

>>17676133
>would you give him another chance?

nope this won't change, he had a chance to change his behavior but he didn't and he won't

>>17676133

He did it before, so there is always a chance that he might do it again if he gets bored or feels the urge. It sounds like a variation of a porn addiction and it could be easy to fall back into old habits. It's your decision whether you're okay with that possibility or not.

>>17676152
He tries to make it sound like he did everything way before we met, and that he had stopped accepting nudes from the 3rd party lady and was just sending her money bc he knew her. She was an old coworker.

If somebody did bad things before they met you...but they're trying to be a good person now, does that impact anything?

Of course, if he was still violating girls' privacy i the present, I would feel like such a fucking idiot for taking him back. I wish he had been 100 percent honest from the beginning so I could know he is telling the truth.

>>17676175
That's a load of horseshit. You can do better than him

>>17676133
You def aren't that attractive bitch if he gotta pay for porn

>>17676175
well the reason he wasn't totally honest with you is because he didn't want to stop and it was better to lie and take the chance you would buy it and shut up. Ooops. Now you know for certain he is a liar and a creep and question why you think those are admirable qualities in a bf. If you do it's your life and if you don't then get out.
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>>17676217
That is 100 percent not how that works. I could be the most beautiful girl in the world and it still wouldn't be enough. The creepshots, I gotta say...they were garbage. You can't even see that much butt in them. They just look like floating disembodied pants. He either is or was getting off on the transgression of violating their boundaries.

He even admitted himself that he was:
A) violating consent
B) violating privacy
C) that he was a fuckup.

>This literal creep can get a girlfriend and so many of us can't
Fucking how

>>17676239
>C) that he was a fuckup
no he has a real problem. what would you think if you found out some creep was taking shots of you and had a library

>>17676265
Because he was a total sweetheart and we had a lot in common. I guess people can be everything you want initially and slowly reveal their true colors, though.

By creep shots do you mean taking pictures of womens ass and breasts while they are clothed? I don't really get that but I also don't really see a huge problem with it. Its weird but so what. I don't think there is anything wrong with having weird fetishes.

>>17676297
The problem is that the took those pictures without asking them first. Nobody wants their coworker to snap a picture of their butt in secret and fap over it later. That's a fucked up thing to do to someone, whether they know it or not.

The real problem is whether to believe that he wants to be a better person or not.

>>17676301
I don't know about that. I really don't see huge moral problem with that. So what if someone is doing that?
I will gladly listen and am open minded on why that's so wrong if you can explain it

>>17676301
is it though? people fap to fb pics so its not really different, personally it'd find it a compliment and there is no real harm done

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We are the eyes of the blind, we will be willing to help you. No man/woman deserves to be treated unfairly. Or broken down to the point of self doubt.

>>17676301
Are you sure about that? To me it feels like you just have been told that its wrong and almost semi rape towards women even though in real life its harmless. I couldn't give two shits if women or even men would be taking "creep shots" of me(just pictures of my ass or chest while i'm clothed in public area and would go home to masturbate on them.
I know its not exactly the same but still I just feel like you are getting upset about something just because you are supposed to.
Though if it makes you uncomfortable you should leave him. I just don't think that weird fetish makes him a bad person as you suggest. Just a weirdo and if that makes you upset end the relationship.

>happened years ago when he was depressed
>he wants to forget about it
>kept the pictures

(imagine a picture of an anime girl raising one of her eyebrows, can't seem to find any right now)

>>17676335
>(imagine a picture of an anime girl raising one of her eyebrows, can't seem to find any right now)

Doesn't Google Drive automatically back up photos?

>>17676335
I have hard time deleting old stuff like pictures I used to masturbate when I was 14. I don't and probably never will masturbate to them again but for some reason I still like keeping them.

>>17676316
Facebook pictures are voluntarily shared with the public, you twit. Nothing is voluntary about creepshots.

Nothing will get better. Porn addicts are the worst boyfriends. Leave him for your own sake.

>>17676133
Honestly, there is NO justification for snooping around unless it's a life and death question, so you fucked up too, twice.

That said, the guy sounds even more dishonest and creepy and didn't use his chance to come clean the first time; making excuses for the shitty behavior is a bad sign too. Tons of people were depressed but somehow managed not to take creepshots of others.

Don't see anything wrong with the paying girls thing though, I mean it's stupid and a waste of money but nothing really bad in any way.

>But I just don't feel like I can trust him anymore.
Because you can't and won't.

>>17676339
Googe Photos but you can still delete the shit you don't want to have anymore.

>>17676332
>I couldn't give two shits if women or even men would be taking "creep shots" of me(just pictures of my ass or chest while i'm clothed in public area and would go home to masturbate on them.
Same here but just because we don't care, doesn't mean we should force the other person not to care.

>>17676359
But no one is doing anything directly to you? They are taking pics of you like you are in public(so not like they are taking nudes of you while you not noticing). Its like getting upset that someone fantasizes about you while masturbating. Even if you don't like it theres nothing too wrong they are doing.

Post the creepshots here

>>17676372
Consent yo. Ignoring it is bad, whether there is a direct harm or not.

>>17676380
I don't have access to his Google drive anymore, he was dumb enough to leave his gmail logged in on his computer.

Expert hacker, I am not.

>>17676382
again I just feel like you repeat what you have been thought to think. Should you ask consent if you masturbate to someone in your imagination? I think you can argue its wrong to share them without consent.

>>17676372
Nobody's saying it's on the same level as assault or rape or anything like that. It's just a creepy, kind of disrespectful thing to do. It's on the same level as staring at a girl until she gets uncomfortable. I don't think it should be a crime, but it's definitely a very poor display of social skills

>>17676407
I really don't give a shit about your defense of creep behavior, I wanted to know if other people think I should trust him again.

And the overwhelming consensus seems to be that I shouldn't.

>>17676133
It just comes down to if you're willing to trust him. Two fuck-ups like this is pretty bad after you already gave him another chance. It depends on how he is other than this too, and if you think the relationship is worth trying to salvage. If you can't trust him though, the relationship won't work.

You just have to keep in mind that people who compulsively cheat and lie have a hard time stopping even if they want to.

>>17676407
>Should you ask consent if you masturbate to someone in your imagination?
There is no reasonable way to prevent nor check it; so it'd be silly.

When it comes to creep shots and generally making a picture of somebody without their consent on the other hand, it's much easier to deal with and enforce the rule that consent matters. Pretty sure everybody owns the right to their image rights in decent countries unless it's a huge group shot.

>>17676493
Actually in the United States when you're out in public it really doesn't matter because you're out in public. Why do you think celebrities don't sue TMZ or other tabloid organizations? They can't. Is it creepy and completely reprehensible? Yes. Is it the end of the world? Nope.

>>17676133
Leave him.

>>17676507
>in the United States
I specified "in decent countries" for a reason. US barely left the 20th century when it comes to the rights of their citizens.

Besides when it's celebs the common excuse is "public interest" which is still silly of course but doesn't exactly apply to that hot girl with yogapants and huge ass.

>Is it the end of the world?
Obviously not but that can be said about many, many things. Is it the end of the world if some creeper spies on you showering with a high res cam? Definitely not. Should he have the right? Fuck no.

>>17676513
Awww someone sounds a little flustered. Relax, jack. Go run a platform and see if people vote for you.

>>17676133
Are you depressed anonnette? assuming ur a girl btw

usually depressed attracts depressed people..... if that's the case he wilol never change and you are fucking everything up the longer u stay with him

>>17676515
My daddy can't give me a small loan of couple millions for that :(

>>17676193
this. it's respectiful that you come for advice in the first place, though. at least we know you are capable of wagering... in all honesty if you stay with him we will know you are fucking stupid

>>17676265
OP post ur face

I remember you OP, I remember you're first post.
Surprise surprise you're back, and still trying to forgive him. It's baffling.

Every time you've snooped you've found something. Imagine if you had full access? You've probably only seen a quarter of the shit this guy has that would upset you.

This guy is a dishonest creep, please see that.
Doing it years ago? Whatever, he still HAD THE PICS. If he really regretted it they wouldn't be there.

This guy is playing you OP. He is a good liar and says whatever it takes to keep you. You can't trust him anymore, this is ridiculous, you can do better.

Some people are bad at seeing lies, I'm one of them, I've had to learn I can't trust my instinct when it comes to dishonest people. You've got to realize this too so you can be more aware and careful. It also means you have to use past behavior as an indication of future behaviors.
That means when someone lies to you, you recognize that and now must be careful with what else they say, because it can be a lie again. In fact continue to be careful until they EARN the trust back, and it takes imo a real effort on their part to prove it.

OP seriously, you'd be happier alone then stuck in this shitty situation.

>>17677096
THIS. Please OP, just let go. I've been in your situation before, and it was way worse than I imagined.

I stumbled upon a bunch of photos of girls on my ex's computer once. He was letting me use his laptop while he was in class, and he said I could download anime. The pics were in the download folder, so I wasn't even snooping either. Turns out he was cheating on me with tons of chicks, even underage ones, which he confessed like ONE YEAR after I found the pics and only because he was high.

Please, it might hurt to be alone, but this guy is shit. Leave.

>>17676133
he could be wanting you to break up with him or he doesnt care about you. usually when they turn "emotional" theyre bullshitting you so that you feel bad for them.

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Not her boyfriend. But is this thread implying if I ever want a gf will I need to cleanse all nudes and porns I casually saved over the years? Theyre scattered all over my harddisk like a few here and there.

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>>17678204
>saving shit randomly

I'd dump him... And the pics... Preferably to this thread or one linked on an orange board.

>>17678204
Nah i think if it's just not during the relationship it's cool.

>>17678204
If your gf doesn't watch japanese lesbian porn with you then she's not the one.

>>17678204

No, just get a chick that's fine with sex and that understands that physical attraction != wanting to leave them for anything that breathes.

>''Busted him with evidence''
>The evidence is due because he diden't do anything when you were together

Also
You looked into a mens personal life with the intention of finding ''evidence''
You could have also just talked to him
If he does not want to talk about it you have to respect that
You disrespected him by being a fucking detective and then when you find darkness you are acting like he should have told you everything in the first place
You are a disrespectfull, low selfasteem and a awful partner to be with

He didn't violate any ''rules'' and should not even be in the position of you ''maybe giving him another chance''

>>17678300

She just wants to stay with him while also being free of him.

She's in that state of uncertainty that all women are perpetually in - You know, the whole having your cake and eating it too thing?

OP's the kind of chick that's probably going to tell her girlfriends that she's "half-pregnant" later on in life.

Fuck no, he's lying.

>It was a few years ago
>He feels bad and is trying to forget about it

By keeping the pictures hidden on his computer for YEARS? Horse shit. I have nudes and shit that I keep hidden on my computer, too. Know why I keep them hidden? Because I want to /keep them/. If I wanted to forget about them I wouldn't port them to every new HDD I get.

He's lied to you twice. Personally, I kick girls to the curb if they lie the once.

>>17676133
Lmao is your boyfriend the brilliant mind behind the creep threads on gif