How do you develop a sense of self-esteem when you are stupid,

First stop being so hard on yourself

>>17672335
>stupid, undriven, vaguely unlikeable and completely incapable of offering anything of value to a romantic partner

Hard to have a sense of self worth when you feel that way about yourself. You've got to reimagine yourself, and see what is good about yourself, while taking small and achievable steps to improve what are definite deficiencies.

>>17672339
I'm not being hard on myself.

If I was I would have killed myself by now.

>>17672344
But you are. Calling your self stupid and incapable.

>>17672356
Well if I was smart and capable I'd be able to keep a boyfriend, which is not something that has happened.

>>17672387
Then take a look at what has caused the break ups and try to fix it.

>>17672398
They get bored and wander off. Or ghost me completely.

>>17672411
Have you considered the fact that you might be boring?