Hi /adv/, I've got a bit of a relationship problem that

>>17670968
first : acknowledge your feelings and don't feel bad for having them

>>17670968
Please tell us more. What happened between you and your ex?

>>17670995
So I accidentally confessed to her early that I loved her(because of our long history beforehand she goated it out of me as a joke and got the real answer), and this put her off the relationship pretty quickly as would be expected. She veered off from our relationship, and that's when we ended up breaking up. I kind of lingered onto her for a bit, but in the end I distanced myself from her completely cutting off contact to move on with my life. Ended up getting with the girl I'm with now a bit later, and have been with her for about 7 months. Ran into ex recently at a get together with some friends watching movies, and we had mild chats at each other rather than to each other so not much interaction.

>>17671003
That's quite a complicated case, because if you have been so close, and haven't had a proper closure, it is certain that things will be awkward between both you. But awkward feelings towards someone you had a story with doesn't mean you're still in love and want to be with her.

You have said on the original post that you feel guilty about certain old feelings, old emotions. The obvious question here is, do you still /love/ your ex? That's an question only you can answer, and once you know the deepest desire of your heart, then your course of action will be clear.

And you can't avoid this question forever. If you really do wish her to be with you, you better do it before your long-distance relationship gets serious. You have to be sincere with yourself, no matter how hard it is. If you ever plan to meet and even live with your current girl, you need to be sure that you don't have romantic feelings for anyone else.

You see, I met my fianceé on the internet. We've been together for 3 1/2 years. We have been through some fantastic times together, and some very, very rough times together. But I know that I'm with someone that I know that is my soulmate no matter how many fights or rough times we have, and that's what makes a relationship last.

>>17671046
The problem is that things have already become serious in the relationship I'm currently in. It's just difficult because I haven't even thought about my ex girlfriend much if at all in the last 6 months, and I'm just all mixed up about why these feelings have popped up so strongly after barely talking to her once. I'll try and sort out my emotions and thoughts better before I make any decision, but you're right I don't want to lead my girlfriend on if there's someone else that I want.