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Hey I'm a shut-in with social anxiety I'm sort of an autist and I'm trying to turn my life around and become a functioning male adult instead of the manbaby I am. I haven't really socialized since I was 12 and the socialization I did have was mostly online. Is it just that people aren't as committed to people they meet online? I haven't really tried meeting people offline yet.
I'd really like to make people like me and want to hang out with me and do things with me but I don't really know how. I find I make the mistake of not asking people how they are when they ask me how I am like usually people say "And you" or something but I always forget. I did this in real life too. People usually say I come across as disinterested or distanced. It seems like most of the time people want nothing to do with me and I'm just a second thought.
Maybe I'm too clingy? Should I not reply to people right away when they message me? I don't really understand what makes people seem to avoid me rather than be attracted to me. Maybe I whine to much?
I'm in therapy for social anxiety and its going great so far but I'm basically a manchild when it comes to socialization I haven't gotten the slightest clue. I have NVLD too so that doesn't help that much since I'm bad at body language.
The only thing is I can't seem to get many people to like me on the internet which gives me the idea I'm going to have the same experience with people offline.
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>>17670881
How old are you, anon?
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>>17670902
When you talk to people, what is their reaction?
Do they speak normally to you? Do they avoid conversations?
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>>17670910
When I talk to people they don't seem very interested in talking. I've tried initiating conversations but it turns out the same as if they messaged me first. Sometimes people will just stop responding. most of the time its just general small talk. hey how are you etc nothing really in depth stuff you would say with a random person on a street you passed by. Its like people treat me as if I'm a stranger even though I've known them for a while. Then there are people who will ask me to do something like play a game and never will. I had a lot of people who I used to always do stuff with but its like they want nothing to do with me now.
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>>17670922
I've went through countless people adding people from somewhere and they all seemed so disconnected and disinterested in talking to me and never initiated conversations and they were the person who added me I've never added any people maybe once or twice.
I forgot to mention I'm going to read some books as well one is on body language called what every BODY says and another one called how to win friends and influence people, its older but it seems to have a lot of people who like it.
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>>17670931
How to win friends is too old. You are actually better off reading PUA material.
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>>17671097
>PUA
Does that shit even work? redpill and shit just sounds cringy as fuck.
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>>17670881
Your problem is you think that people need to like you to spend time with you. That's not the case. You just need to be tolerable and persistent. Just keep asking to hang out with the same group of people and unless they reject you all the time, you've now got a group a friends even if no one likes you. Friendship is more about proximity than anything.
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>>17671097
Dude, I agree, read pick up artist material and stuff. Make sure to meet with people at bars and nightclubs. Don't be the 29 year old loser like me who has no friends and excels at watching porn.
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This might sound weird, but you should work on your physical appearance. I've noticed that when I have a nice haircut and dress nicely and take care of my skin people are nicer to me, seemingly more interested in me, and seem like they respond more positively to what I have to say.
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