okay, here is the situation -and sorry if i'm not doing

She isn't reciprocating, and she has a bf.

If you are still attached to her, take a break from hanging out and assess if you can even remain friends without you ruining everything.

Don't think about pursuing her unless she is having irreparable problems in her relationship to where she tells you she is going to end it.

I'm not saying that there isn't ever going to be a future, but move on for now, remain friends, and revisit this topic again later when the above things mentioned aren't an issue. Don't wait around for this one.

>>17664253
This is of course the logical thing to do, but I can't stop thinking that if she knows I like her, she might turn to me. Our "friendship" is truly sincere, we are -my looks apart- made for each other, so I keep thinking she would feel the same way and eventually come to me. I know this is quite naive thinking, but I can't help it. And this is also why I want her friendship even without the romance: There aren't many people I share the things I share with her, and I rarely make close friends.
And about taking a break from hanging out with her, that is impossible without breaking her heart/coming off cold to her. We are taking almost all our classes together and we use the same route to go home, so the only way we don't interact is if one -or both of us- deliberately ignore the other. I've stopped making efforts to be *next to* her in classes etc, but she waits for me and whatever so we end up being near each other eventually.

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This problem is like mine but kinda different.
>Same lines 1-3 (Meet girl etc. etc.)
First date ever thanks to friend whoop.

>Take her out for lunch. Go to her house to see her artwork.

>Text a lot for four days. Really short response times. Responds at any time.

>hangout at her work place (she's a tutors she has free time.)

>messages start dwindling.

>Still hangout with her, she seemed happy to see me/ doesnt say I'm bothering her.

>Trying take her on another date/ hang out.
She declines because she's busy. I understand she's working on two college majors.

>Ask her out for coffee after works she says yes.
Yeah baby.
>Wait for her.
Watch her get in her car. She doesn't notice me watching her.Get text saying she's sick and she had to cancel. >feels bad man.
>See her two days later she is sick okay.jpg
>Try texting her to see how's she doing. No response. Send a message one message a day for four days no response. (Don't want to do none of that double, triple texting that's just desperate.)
>Asks friend who set me up with girl. For advice see if I'm being creepy. (First "relationship")
Flash back to asking friend about girl. He's says she's talking to someone but it isn't serious.
>Find out he was the one talking to her.
He apologizes I forgive him. (Though I'm not totally convinced.)
>Message girl. Finally girl starts texting me again.
Want to talk to her about revelation to see if it's true.
>try to take her to coffee.
Nope, too busy.

Here I am. What do I do?

>>17664281
You need to make time for yourself before proceeding with anything. You do not have to be cold, and you can certainly still talk and be civil when you run into each other during the day. Tell her you are helping the family out with something and actually take that time to determine what this friendship is worth to you.

Your choices will be down to either focus on school and keep her around as a friend for now, or admit to her that you have feelings for her and take the plunge.

I am a hopeless romantic, and I really hope things will go your way on this, but we both know logically that most relationships never pan out.

The only thing I can say is be her best friend first and foremost so she will see your value should you ever decide to pursue her.

>>17664340
You got cucked.

Seriously though, it looks like she was not into you and she's gone from flake to ghost.

It was your first short relationship and it's time to move on the next one.

>>17664383
I'm okay with this.

How do I proceed with the separation process and moving on?

I already have a couple girls that I want to ask out.

But I don't know what to do?

>>17664372
The thing that bothers me the most is the date went really well.

The guy above me is me as well.

Yeah, OP, consider the problem that if you 'save' her from the inferior relationship given that the two of you are made for each other-- what is to leave you believing that she won't want to be 'saved' again at some point in the future by another man?

If you go for her, and she accepts it, she's proofing a rather awful quality as evident.

And from her point of view, I'd bet she'd be surprised to know you have romantic intentions. And likely next feel betrayed.

When a man acts like a friend, a woman sees
> he doesn't want me, okay!
And generally next she passively accepts this.

See, even if she likes you, you're working up hill due to having waited.

It really-really doesn't work like in the movies where the girl finally notices the best friend who's been there for her all along. The reason why plot lines like that exist is because they are outside of the norm....

Anyway, thanks for the nice desktop wallpaper. I figured I could give you some straight talk for it.

>>17664372
>>17664408
Thing is, the run-into-each-other is all the time we interact, and, I think, that is almost all the time she is socialising irl -she's very shut in to home, I don't even understand the dynamics of her relationship given that the guy wouldn't be living in the same house as her-, so there is no excuse to be not together if I'm already at the campus.

If i don't evade her somehow we are bound to talk and often alone. While I used to be thrilled to be with her, it is kinda weird for me now after I learned about her bf because even though I enjoy her conversation compared to most other people, I can't help getting bored because the only time a 1 hour long conversation doesn't bore me is when I am drunk.
About becoming "best friends", I don't think that's ever going to happen. We are too kind (courteous ) towards each other and never exactly lax as "two dudes" with each other, naturally. There is always an air of two new acquintances who really have a lot in common, but have yet to be so close as to go past what they have in common in their friendship (I don't know if this makes sense but I can't explain it any other way).
> she won't want to be 'saved' again at some point in the future by another man?
Eh, honestly, I just want her now. I would rather have her now and lose her some months later than never have her. And I don't particularly care for morals or ethics of relationships, and I certainly don't care for that other dude
>she'd be surprised to know you have romantic intentions.
>you're working up hill due to having waited.
I am afraid this is true. I don't know how to flirt so I didn't really make it obvious that I like her, I think.
It actually hasn't been so long since we met, just about 3 weeks. I was going to tell her last week, exactly at the day I learned she has a bf, but, well
Is there a way where I can just test her, see how she'd react, without making it awkward? I can hold my spaghetti all the way, but I just don't know this shit

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