I need help /adv/. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years

You should dump him purely based on the fact that he's retarded enough to go broke from spending money on an easily acquired FREE resource.

>>17661692
At the time, he was living off his parents and in uni. Basically, all his money went on porn because he had nothing else going on in his life. It eventually became an addiction.

you should break up with him.

you should let him know you were sleeping with a guy friend.
>he makes me feel so sexy and wanted.
>but my friend gets insane boners as soon as I am near him.
you should also realize that the reason girls have guy friends is because of this and they all try to keep it a secret.

First of all, I want to thank you. I'm always fascinated by the type of person who can cheat and then look their partner in the eye. The idea of kissing a chick who blew another guy recently is infuriating to me so I like to wean myself on some snake venom like your post. That said, your post smacks of diffusion of responsibility. What I mean by that is you say 'he wouldn't go down on me', 'didn't fuck me' etc. to pass off blame. Feel free not to take this advice but you could do a few squats if that's partly to do with why he prefers a cold computer screen to a warm body.

>>17661681
You fucked up. Porn is a real addiction. But you are cheating on him. You are a filthy whore and you deserve to die alone.
But lets talk about what you could have done to fix this.
The only way to stop a porn addiction is to replace it. Ive been close. And its why no fap exist. Go out camping. No porn. Have him doing shit ALL the time. Forcing him to fap to you if need be. Honestly I did no fap to fix my ed. Porn really warped my brain and I had to force myself to fap to vanilla shit. Like images of naked women did nothing for me. This is probably how he feels about you. Nothing. Because porn has warped his brain. The only way to fix this is to keep trying to fap to something vanilla as fuck. Hes going to fail to fap many times and get frustrated. But once he gets that first fap after 3 weeks of desperation he'll be on track to recovery

THough even if he did. Youve been cheating on him. Depression is one of the most common reasons for relapses in addictions. You lose your will to resist it. Why bother not fapping when at least I feel good and not betrayed by some back stabbing whore. This is whats going to happen to him. Youve probably ruined his life. But his life was already in such a bad spot. You just put the dagger in him. A reason, permanent excuse to never not watch porn and masturbate. Because fapping doesnt hurt as much as knowing the person you were trying to stop fapping for was cheating on you.

>>17661681
As someone who legitimately has a porn addiction, and struggles like a motherfucker, I hate you.

Yeah, he is an idiot for going broke on porn, like seriously what the fuck. But you're by far a lower human being than him, and its funny you're trying to pass off blame like the piece of shit you are with excuses like "he goes down on me".

I haven't said it in a while, but you should genuinely kill yourself.

>>17661706
I know I should do these things but I don't want to break up with him.

>>17661779
I go to the gym 4 times a week, he is overweight and his diet is poor. I have tried getting him to live a better lifestyle but he doesn't want to change and he told me to stop trying to be his mom when I do suggest things. This problem started before me. He cut back when we started dating.

>>17661783
I tried to get him busy but he'll stay up all night while I sleep looking at it and then sleep in the next day because he is so exhausted.
Even if I break up with him, I could never tell him I cheated on him. I didn't want it to be this way. I only wanted him, I felt like I have 2 options without losing him: Be faithful and miserable, waiting on him to be in the mood or this. I have been a better girlfriend since I started this. The tension in the room no longer exists because I am not thinking about sex or being plagued with thoughts about how I am so undesirable to him.

move on in life and better yourself.. dont kill yourself because of him. a partner should compliment you, not drag you down.

>>17661824
>>17661824
>I go to the gym 4 times a week, he is overweight and his diet is poor. I have tried getting him to live a better lifestyle but he doesn't want to change and he told me to stop trying to be his mom when I do suggest things. This problem started before me. He cut back when we started dating.

Again, you diffuse. Yes he has fucked up, but all I've seen in your posts is you passing the blame off so you don't feel guilty about cheating.

You're a whore, and will always be a whore .End of story. If you're not happy in a relationship, you end it. You don't stick around and act like a fucking cock roach.

>>17661824
if you honestly love him and want to stay with him, you should talk to him and give him two options: either he deals with his porn addiction or you're leaving him.
as the other anon pointed out, porn addiction is a serious issue. it isn't some mild bullshit, it can really mess up your life. you should be supportive and help him through it.
shame on you for cheating on him though.

>>17661824
I hope you die alone. And your bf watches over you in your last breathes with a woman who actually loves him.

>>17661886
We have had the talk numerous times. I've supported him for 5 years. These 5 years have been all about him. I supported him financially, emotionally, mentally and now I have nothing more to give.

When he agrees, he is good for a week but then I see the bills come in and we go back to square 1. I don't fight with him about it anymore, I just pay for the bill and have a calm chat about it, he says sorry and looks guilty so I drop it.

And the cycle goes on. I love him but I hate this.

After our anniversary, I will give him a final chance and then walk away. I guess there is really no other way.

>>17661890
lol ok

>>17661901
>I don't fight with him about it anymore, I just pay for the bill and have a calm chat about it, he says sorry and looks guilty so I drop it.
well, you should fight with him about it. make it clear that it's destroying your relationship.

>>17661926
How is it his fault. Shes the cheater. He should know if he even wants to fight for it.

>>17661930
he doesn't seem to want to help himself. but yeah, she doesn't seem to want to help him either.

>>17661930
Dude her cheating and him being lazy are two different things. You can admonish her for that but it doesn't sound like her boyfriends killin it either.

>>17661943
Doesnt matter. He didnt betray her. What she did is cruel to him. He was up front with her problem and she accepted him. Shes just as responsible for his problem as he is for that. But no matter what hes done, he didnt stab her in the back like this.
>>17661942
That in no way makes it his fault though. Its all hers. The biggest most glaring and impossible to overcome issue in their relationship is that she is in no way trustworty. A cheater. His biggest problem might be that hes not with someone who cares for him

>>17661681
This is probably bait but I'll bite

So what do you need help with? You never really mafde that clear. The only answer is to stop sleeping with your friend. You say you "don't know how" but it's simple, you just tell them you want to stop. Then, you tell your boyfriend. If he doesn't break up with you, which he probably will, then you explain EXACTLY what's wrong, in the clearest terms possible. Tell him that you can't stay in a relationship like this.

However, I think the most humane thing to do would be to tell your boyfriend that you cheated and then end the relationship. Sorry, but there's very little chance of fixing a relationship after cheating, especially since it's been an ongoing thing and not a one time mistake. Cheating on him was much worse than anything he did to you. He sounds irresponsible and immature, but you don't punish someone for their personality faults, you try to help them. You did the cruelest thing that a person can do to someone they love.

Overall it sounds to me like the relationship was not meant to be.

Your boyfriends is a lazy piece of shit, and the onus of "fixing him" was never on you, but the answer wasn't and never will be to cheat. Admit what you did, break up, maybe ask your friend to go out(don't cheat on him either). It'll be better for everyone, and honestly you should have broken up a long time ago.

There's never an excuse for cheating, OP. You should have broken it off before pursuing something with someone else.

>Everything is great between us apart from this.

No. no no no. THIS means things are anything but great.

Wow. I'm in a very similar scenario with my boyfriend too. I've never cheated and never would but I understand the temptation. You have all these guys wanting you and you want your guy to look at you the way they do but he's wasted up and used porn. I can't blame you but cheating is never the answer. See if he'll opt for an open relationship otherwise the guilt will start eating at you. It's not easy having a porn addict boyfriend so I feel your frustration.

>>17661681
>broke because of porn addiction

definitely bait.

>>17661963
He betrayed her in the sense that she probably thought he would be a man with his shit together 5 years later. If I had to guess I'd say she'd prefer the muscular, hot version of him.

>>17662052
bull fucking shit. He was open and honest. They communicated about this. He did not betray her. Her expectations just werent met which he is not obligated to. In a committed relationship cheating is in fact breaking the obligation to the partner.

>>17662033

I knew this was bait when I was a robot link to it from another thread

>>17662092
I linked this thread in the gender thread. It does feel like bait because OP seems like a genuine piece of shit. But the link is not why you should doubt OP.
I kinda feel like OP is Yoni baiting for more threads.
More infidelity and women being whores.

>>17661681
>I love my boyfriend, that's why I cheated on him. :^)
Is this Yoni Camper? Yoni Camper, is that you?

You're fucked for cheating, but you can't un-cheat. Apologize, explain your feelings and advice to him, and break up with him.

>>17661963

>she betrayed him
>when he's using her money to buy porn
>when she's the one confronting him
>when he pushes her away by calling her his mom when she tries to help

He betrayed himself, m8.

>>17662211
>he cheated on himself
I dont think you know what betrayal is.
>giving someone money and trying to help means you arent the bad guy when you stab them in the back
My sides. Whores these days I swear.

>>17662211
This. I don't know how you stayed so long.

What kind of sick fucked up shit is this, are you rationalizing cheating you deluded whore?

World War 3 when.

>>17661681
it is clear this relationship is over, been over, but it is also clear OP is a coward. Get the guts to end it, no more chances, no more cheating, no more affixing blame, no more stringing the other guy along too. Neither of them make a whole guy for you so try to find one that is an equal or go solo for awhile.

I feel bad for your friend though you have taken advantage of his adoration

brake up