> get jealous when I find porn on my bfs phone > think

Yeah, nah. You're just a cunt.

If your bf thought you attractive enough, he would just ask you for nudes.
Sad to be you.

>>17661117

Did I read this right? You're mad that your boyfriend has porn, but you get turned on when he watches it while he's fucking you?

>>17661195
Look you shit why do you think I'm on the advice board. I don't understand either.

>>17661266
You're basically a female cuck

it's not that hard to understand

Real talk, porn fucks everything up. You might get off on it when you're together because you're seeing him enjoy himself, and that pleases you.

But when he's alone, he's literally looking at other girls. I'm gonna get called a cuck faggot for this, but humans think they're smarter than their bodies. Just because we KNOW we're not technically fucking another woman, doesn't mean our bodies know that. If that weren't true, then women wouldn't get jealous over it, men wouldn't have porn-induced ED, and people wouldn't get addicted to it.

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>>17661283
I think this is a truth I have long with held. Well if this is the case. How do I make a seriously monogamous man get into threesomes? More like, he's so cute and nervous. He really doesn't know how to talk to other girls at all. How would he be okay getting used to that intimacy with someone else?

>>17661314
This is also very plausible. I love him so much, I want him to enjoy himself as much as possible. But when he's alone, I can't help but think "I'm right here, I'll do anything for you, why don't you ask me?"

>>17661324
Yeah, it sucks desu. System's against you, girl. Because you either accept that he's gonna keep doing it, or be that girlfriend that won't let her boyfriend watch porn.

I cheated on and broke up with my ex because of his porn. He watched porn before I got home then wasn't in the mood for sex. I put up with being sexually frustrated and getting sex from him was like a pity fuck...after 4 years I cheated and still with the guy who has a healthy outlook on sex and watches porn only if I'm away.
Don't buy into the hype that regularly watching porn is normal, it's not if you have a girlfriend/boyfriend.
I finally realized this after being with a normal guy. If he CAN'T stop going to porn then he has issues.

>>17661364
Me and him are very different. When I want to get off, I just think of him. When I first met him he watched a lot of porn, him being a pervert was one of his traits. Our porn background is so so different, its something I never really look at. I've tried talking to him before but I always end up finding it on his phone anyway. I don't see why I just have to accept it, but I don't want to force him since I can be very wishy washy just like in the situation that I said. He's also someone that never gets jealous, ever, and I am definitely someone who does.

>>17661117
That's screwed up. I honestly don't think he loves you enough. He'll come up with lots of b.s. to cover it up but let's face it, that's weird. I watch a lot of porn, and I fantasize about a bunch of guys, but if I ever met one I loved dearly, I would never do that to them. That's fucked up.

>>17661314
Yeah, you are a cuck faggot.

Forget your 'I and my body are separate entities' & using people's feelings as evidence for your theory, I'm too lazy to try debunking line by line, and instead let me ask:
If jacking it with no other person involved is 'fooling your body' and equal to actually fucking someone, what if you simply imagine someone naked without the jacking?
Did you just peep? Did you effectively strip them naked without their consent?
What if someone says "imagine us fucking" and you did, just for a split second.
Did you just get raped?

Strawman time!
>no, because you aren't getting pleasure from it
So are other sources of pleasure cheating? I doubt you'd say entertainment, hobbies, and fulfillment are cheating.
But what about hypothetical drug that has the EXACT SAME effect on your brain that fucking has- is that a cheating drug?


Should everyone leave their partners if they should commit the horrible, HORRIBLE sin of having a SPECK of lust for others' bodies?
Or, say, fetishes/situations?

>>17661364
>>17661400
Did you two ever ask about their 'perversions'? Why they look at it/what they get out of it?
It might be that THEY were the sexually-frustrated ones, that you two can't/won't provide what they want.

>>17661117
Mad is probably because you've tried to get him to stop and he hasn't done so.
Jealous because, well, you want to be the only person he finds sexually attractive.
To hold a monopoly on his lust.
That's an unrealistic expectation, and you'll just wind up angry & frustrated if you hold onto it.

Love & lust are two different things, as are fucking & masturbating.
If you don't make a distinction & ban the latter, it might be that he'll take the full step to the former.
That is, if you were to make shouting at someone punishable with the same gravity/consequences as physically assaulting them, the end result will be a whole lot fewer angry words thrown around, and a great deal more punches.

>>17661460
this

agreed

also, OP, you are a jealous cunt cunt

if anything you should be apologizing to your boyfriend with daily blowey joeys

feel bad

>>17661266

No, I was really trying to verify the situation.

And I'm sorry, but that is just a really hilarious image, picturing him humping you absent-mindedly while he's fucking around on his phone looking at porn.

>>17661314

Hahaha, what? You sound like the kind of guy who fingers a jar of peanut butter and says, "Ooh, you're a naughty little finger, aren't you? You don't even know, you dirty little finger. But you like it, don't you?"

>>17661603
>>17661117
Actually, come to think of it, that sounds suspect, compared to OP's '>I just think of him' mindset.
People come in all shapes/sizes so watching porn while you bang isn't that odd- what's odd is the disparity between the two here.

Is there anything else going on OP? How does he treat you? How'd you two hook up?

>>17661117
Pitching in with my own experience.
I also get madly jealous and cunt-like when I catch my bf watching porn. But the thing is, he only ever does it because I'm not available either because I'm emotionally not up to it or because I'm suffering the monthly demon bleeding. But sometimes he's bad at hiding it and I'll walk in to see him pumping away to porn. I occasionally watch porn for basically the same logical reasons he does so I have absolutely no right or reason to get jealous, right? I think it's just insecurity you're feeling. I feel utterly unattractive and worthless when I catch him bating to an attractive woman on his computer and I've been trying to deal with the occasional walking in on him unexpectedly and not flip out.

That being said, however, I think in your case, your bf a little too reliant on porn and there's got to be a reason for it other than to satisfy himself when you're not available. It almost sounds like he's just not capable of being satisfied with you like he is with the porn he watches, or he's not that sexually into you. My bf is always up for the banging when I'm in the mood and he gets it up pretty quickly at the mere hint of it and he doesn't bate all the time, only when I'm not available. I'd also consider leaving him if you're not happy with his habits. Hope it helps and good luck.