Is it normal that I don't want my boyfriend to jerk off

that's perfectly normal, but honestly pretty highschool like.
you have to realize that the human sexuality has a big spectrum and that he may be jacking off to kinks that turn him on. have you tried talking about kinks, etc? i understand you may feel jealous because you think he finds the other girls more visually appealing etc

https://youtu.be/iihsbrwqZLU?t=6m38s

Start at 6:38 - watch

Also, you don't masturbate at all? Just sex with him only?

>>17653514
Yes we talked about kinks and I am literally the kind of girl who will let a man poop on her if that's what my partner wants xD I know all his kinks and am willing to do it.
I am totally open for telling him he can do it, I just wanted to ask. I'm open for discussion to why etc.

It's normal, but sometimes you gotta watch stuff that your girlfriend would never do, or you would want her to do. -my 2 cents.

>>17653493
his kink:
attractive women

Why not make him porn?

Start with some tasteful nudes.

>>17653517
No, I don't. Used to when I didn't have him. Now I don't really need it.

I think it's just that I'm jealous, like the anon above said. I guess I just have to get over it.

>>17653517
this

Just to be clear, he isn't against it. He said peacefully if I don't want him to watch, he won't watch. That he'll probably miss it sometimes but that's okay, he said.
I'm just asking here because I feel guilty as fuck and feel like I should let him.

>>17653538
in all honesty, a lot of males can't masturbate without some kind of visual. this doesn't make you inferior to the women on the screen. just realize that he's doing this to relieve stress and tension, it's honestly healthy once in a while. i think it is a little controlling to tell your partner they can't watch porn.

>>17653517
Just watched it and I completely agree. I don't use it anymore but yeah. I'm just fucking jealous, man. Have to get over it I guess. Thanks men of adv!

Yeah, get over it. It's not completely abnormal to feel some level of jealousy, but it will be an unnecessary strain for the relationship. Masturbation is one of the most private, personal things that a person can do and not even being in a romantic relationship gives you the right to dictate what they do (or don't do) to their own body to relax and pleasure themselves.
It's a different story if he's being obnoxious, like pulling out his phone and scrolling instagrams full of near naked shots with you right next to him trying to have a romantic movie night together. You can absolutely ask him to be discrete etc. But you can't tell him not to do it.

For the record, your statement about being up for anything and having a high sex drive implies that you feel like masturbation is something for when sex fails. In practice masturbation is simply relaxing in a way that sex is not. You are always hoping to please, attract and reach your partner during sex, no matter how accommodating or active they are in the bedroom. Masturbation on the other hand is like taking a bath - you're not trying to please or impress anyone, just have an orgasm in the exact way you know how to. So provided he has normal habits (aka, he's not turning down sex with you every other day to opt for porn), it is less that porn satisfies his sexual desires but more that porn and sex scratch a different itch. Sex will for most people always be more pleasurable and obviously much more emotionally intense, but sometimes you just want to rub one out and be done with it. Give him that space, it is a matter of respect.

What kind of porn does he like?

Maybe he wants some variety. You don't eat the same food every day, do you? Same concept here.

>>17653549
Thank you so much for this. I understand it more now and will tell him I'm not against it. Thank you again, really helped me.

>>17653553
Don't really know. When I asked he said he doesn't really search for anything specific. But watches porn with girls only (which kinda annoyed me at first haha, I know I'm an idiot lol)

>>17653561
Probably lolies or bbw black on white grannies.

It seems like this is a common thing to want in modern relationships. I personally wouldn't mind that rule in a relationship but some guys find it weird.

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Porn as a target of envy makes very little sense. You don't want him to treat you like he does porn, I should hope.

Used once then discarded.

It's something anti-sex feminism has an exceedingly hard time understanding: a man can look at a PICTURE and not see a PERSON, as holy shit-- it's a PICTURE.

Pict is related, over 9000 hours in MT paint delivers this glorious pin up I just drew.

Now, where anti-sex feminists go full retard is in conflating a man's reaction to a picture on the internet with how next it's assumed his reaction indicates how he considers real women he socializes with.

This is part of the rape hysteria movement. As, if you honestly can't tell pictures from people apart, and assume everyone else is that retarded too; next you must accept that since men totally dehumanize and objectify pictures of women, that in turn men must routinely confuse real women for objects who's value is limited to their sexual function.

Makes your brain hurt to consider retardation this deep, eh? The worst of it, this isn't tumblard feminism--well it is-- but the basis is rooted in high academia. Really smart fucks toil with these philosophical questions while pretending they are doing science.

Anyway, porn can be bad if it's cock blocking you.

This is no different from a woman choosing her moods over her desire to see her man well pleased.

It's wrong. It's selfishness that doesn't make logical sense. There's nothing right about it.

If your guy isn't faping to the smut, but rather just enjoys watching it-- that's different. If he'd enjoy watching it WITH you, again, different.

And since you feel guilty, I'd bet you're not telling us the whole story.

>>17653561
>But watches porn with girls only
Kek, go to xxx whatever and click on the 'straight' category.

Watch a couple videos.

Notice anything yet?

You're watching a guy pound some pussy, right?

Get it?

K, say you're a guy fapping to this that you're watching. What are you emulating?

Are you laughing yet?

K, I'll just tell you.

VANILLA PORN IS KEKOLD PORN WHERE THE VIEWER IS PLAYING THE KEK.

The only non-cuck straight porn is 'point of view' type. Girls solo or with other girls is non-cuck as well. BDSM porn is often non-cuck as well, strangely enough it's less kinky than
'straight porn'.

Kek, capitcha wants milkshakes. It knows!

>>17653640
It's all a matter of perception. If a guy just likes to see a pussy stretched out by a real dick because that's what he personally wants to do, and isn't so focused on a man being around that he cannot get off to the woman anymore, I don't see what's wrong with that.

>>17653493
if you put out on demand, the only time he should need to fap is when youre not around. even then, i would just wait til you came back if it wasnt going to be longer than 12 hours or so. if what you say is true, you are most certainly based

>>17653640
>The only non-cuck straight porn is 'point of view' type.
You sure about that?
>Pretending to be guy fucking the girl.

OP, I totally understand how you feel. I've dated men who fap to porn, and if you think about it a certain way it can feel pretty bad that he's looking at another woman on a screen. It is very normal to be jealous of it. However it doesn't mean anything. It's visual stimulation to assist in masturbation, and it has nothing to do with you, how hot you are, etc. I am extremely beautiful, and was way out of my ex's league. He used to get upset and cry because he thought I was so much better looking than him. And he fapped to porn.

I totally get why it would make you feel insecure, it used to hurt my feelings too. But here's the thing. You should let him do it.
>>17653517
This is actually very accurate, except the part where you're a bad person for feeling this way.
If you ask him to stop, he'll be silently resentful. Also- it's not a good idea to try to change your bf's behavior. Ever. It breeds resentment and makes you into his mom- screaming at him to clean his room and do his homework. And when that happens,
of course the kid plays video games instead.

make porn for him to fap to

>>17653640
Oh, please.

You fuckers have diluted the word "cuckold" so much that it's essentially meaningless at this stage.

Cuckolding (as a fetish) is about the mix of emotions you get from watching another guy fuck YOUR girl. People with the fetish find that particular cocktail of emotions to be a turn-on. Get rid of the emotional component and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH KEKOLDING ANYMORE. There's no element of e.g. jealousy or humiliation in watching two random strangers fuck.

If masturbating to porn is analogous to any fetish, it's voyeurism -- which, you know, actually consists of watching (in theory) two random strangers fuck while you get off to it. But you've spent so long on here that you've apparently forgotten that any other fetishes besides cuckolding exist.

I really wish this place had never discovered that fetish or even that word. It's gotten so fucking tiresome, everything is cuck this or cuck that.

Also, apparently "cuck" only filters to "kek" when you type it in all caps, which is news to me.

>>17653528
Not OP but I do this and he still watches porn.

>>17653736
>Cuckolding (as a fetish) is about the mix of emotions you get from watching another guy fuck YOUR girl.
Dude, I feel your pain, and I disagree.

That's what I just used the word cuckold to identify, that very concept.

I suppose you didn't attach the EMULATING qualifier.

I suppose our disagreement is your take on voyeurism -- I'd disagree as voyeurism REQUIRES a conscious target, you're not doing it if the person can't find out you're looking at them.

If you set up a web cam with mischief, or use a telescope or peep thru a window-- that's voyeurism.

Watching porn is observing an inanimate digital object on your screen.

At best, you'd be emulating voyeurism-- and good on you for looking at it like that, if I could do that straight porn wouldn't creep me out as hard as it does.

>>17653736
Protip: it's because most people on here are so endlessly insecure that they overcompensate by regarding everything as an attack on their masculinity.

>>17653906
Disagree, I think the most important aspect of voyeurism is observing something that is typically hidden away. Watching porn isn't voyeurism in the sense that you aren't actively spying on unknowing participants - but you are indulging in observing (as a passive onlooker) an intimate part of human life that is firmly hidden away from the public realm. That absolutely has a voyeuristic quality.

>>17653493
>Is it normal
That's irrelevant, because it's infantile and unnecessary. What, are you really going to waste your time and mind watching him like a hawk to make sure he's not appreciating the physique of any other woman when you go out as well? Going to keep tabs on him constantly? I'm taking the logic to an extreme to show you how arbitrary and inane the whole deal is.

Not to be harsh, but it's really insecure and unmaintainable. I have no idea why women fail to realize they only damage their relationship integrity for no gain of any kind with this nonsense. If you don't like the kind of porn he's into though, that's a different matter entirely.

Ugh. Some days I really am glad I'm me, and not someone else. s-m-h senpai tbqh

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>>17653493
Yes and if he doesn't want home cooking but wants to spank it to his cuck vision, drop him.

T. Known Boss

>>17653493
Men get bored with the same woman, they need variety. It's in our genes to be this way.

My girlfriend is similar to you, she will do whatever and is almost always willing but sometimes I get bored of fucking her honestly.

>>17653930
>That absolutely has a voyeuristic quality.
You're thoughtful, I like you.

I attach a modicum of exhibitionism to voyeurism in the sense of duality intrinsic to all things.

Then looking at porn to voyeurism is as fapping to sex. There need be that communication to resolve the participants position-- or in the case of a pure voyeurism just the the risk of bidirectional communication. Without that discovery being possible, it's a mere object you're addressing.

And surely you then see how I see porn as an emulation of voyeurism. It's like, you wouldn't say sticking your dick in a plastic sex doll could ever be rape, right?

But, surely you could emulate an action of rape-- but this emulation can never rise to the level of the real thing.

Perhaps removing the active participant would yield a purer action. No mixed intent at all.

In the case of a real voyeuristic action, the subject to the viewer must assume they have privacy, right?

>>17653984
I understand what you are saying about the risk of discovery and that naturally being absent in porn. I think we might just use different definitions. I agree that peeping through someone's window while they are unsuspecting is the more pure, simple, "classic" example of voyeurism. But if I had to describe the term without looking it up, I'd characterize it as seeing more than your "natural line of sight" so to speak.

For example, the peeping is voyeurism, but I personally feel slightly voyeuristic too when I read about intimate details of the lives of people I have never known, like explicit love letters from dead people or private snapshots from their family life. This has nothing to do with any risk of discovery, but rather with the discrepancy between the factual real life situation (you don't know this person) and either the amount or the level of intimacy about the information you receive. Perhaps even more primarily it is about a power imbalance - you can see into their life, but they never even knew you existed. They can't hide from you the way people typically hide from one another in every part of everyday life, where you can't tell who someone is or what life they lead. They are exposed to you in a way that they have no control over.

For me this is also what makes the privacy most relevant. The only difference between looking at someone and spying on someone in real time is whether or not they're aware of you being there. Even witnessing the most private acts is not spying if they are fine with your presence. It is the lack of awareness that gives you the upper hand, the sole person who can oversee the entire situation. That rings true for events that happen in real time with you present, but it's different for other situations. What if you see a girl undressing for her boyfriend, who posted it online? She knew that she'd be seen, but she never knew who would see her.

>>17654022
In the example I mentioned of footage/letters from the past, they could never have suspected that those private parts of life would be exposed to some future stranger, let alone to you specifically.

Either way, back to the whole "natural line of sight" thing. Obviously pornstars are aware that anyone who wants to can look at them going at it, so the power imbalance doesn't apply in the same way, I just thought that was worth mentioning. For me the voyeur is someone who is primarily drawn to that what is hidden away - and while on a personal level we hide what we only want to deal with in privacy, there's also what we hide on a societal level and some acts are more private than others. They're not even all vulgar - watching someone wash themselves privately is pretty rare, just to name something. I think most voyeurs have some additional interest in practices like these because there is something uncovered - even if it is not uncovered from someone's attempt to hide it, but rather uncovered from habit to hide it.

And in line with that it's also more difficult to pinpoint when something is or isn't voyeurism (in the definition of witnessing something not necessarily meant for your eyes). A pornstar can consent to shooting a scene, but what if she intends for the viewer to see her as a sex machine, and during the scene she is in pain for a moment and it is briefly visible in her face? Isn't that justifiably comparable to being caught doing anything you don't want others to see? What if she attempted to position her body so that she looked slim, but at some point she forget and relaxed and showed rolls anyway?

>>17654022
Good examples, I find your perspective of voyeurism more a power dynamic based abuse than a risk of the looker being looked on understood. I too am just going off how my kinks engage the subject, this is really something a dictionary fails to illustrate in an apt manner.

The only thing I believe we're not clear on then is the porn-- I'd fully agree that if a girl makes a video of herself slicking off for the eyes of her boyfriend, it would be voyeuristic to purse the material for anyone else.

But, then we have porn-- if the porn actress is knowingly being filmed, how could it be voyeurism by your definition to view the smut?

Or say the letters you're reading are from a politician who's almost surely published them openly for political advantage?

OP some of my fetishes, like forced feminization, are absolutely not conductive to having a loving relationship with a person I want to be respected by. Some things are meant to be hidden. Some secrets a man must take to the grave.

>>17653493

Like your situation I also live with my gf and can have sex whenever I want. We fuck often.

And still watch a ton of porn and gawk at women in public.

Why? Because we are not monogamous animals and at some point you want some strange.

So it's either him jerking it to porn or cheating IRL with a flesh and blood woman.

Which would you prefer?

>>17653549
One of the best pieces of advice I've seen on the subject. The key difference between sex and masturbation is that with sex, you have someone else to take care of. Even if you claim to be super accommodating in bed and only there for his pleasure, he's still going to feel obligated to make sure you enjoy yourself. With masturbation, there is no such obligation, and so it's more relaxing. For de-stressing, masturbation is the way to go. For emotional connection, sex is the choice method. Don't get offended if he needs to relax on his own every now and again.

>>17653549
Well said, anon

>>17654055
X that, I'm a faggot, didn't see you posted
>>17654045
That's some quality kink you got there, too.
So, your solution is that voyeurism can be found thru a social taboo vector, of sorts, things we would want to hide being visible.

Quite interesting all said, and sorry to OP for ruining your thread with some actual content.

Not every time a guy jerks off is "BOY I WISH I HAD SOMETHING TO FUCK RIGHT NOW"
Sometimes its just an annoying boner that won't go away and you can't focus, so you jerk off real quick to get back to what you were doing.
It doesn't mean he doesn't want to fuck you, it means he doesn't want to have to deal with the whole process of fucking.

>>17654070
>>17654055
Yeah I have difficulty putting into words what the real crux is as well, it seems to have different branches too and I don't know enough opinions (though that would be worth getting into) to know how common it is for people to be exclusively interested in eg the unsuspecting object.

I guess my main point was that instigating being seen does not necessarily equal having full control over everything of you that you show. There is vulnerability and helplessness in things that you obviously want to divert attention from suddenly being made apparent, even if the setting is otherwise normal. And in case of porn you have the double effect that you are already looking at naked people (still a novelty compared to how many clothes people you see) engaging in a private act. And then there's the extent to which people delude themselves - looking at how many people despise fake moaning or the woman not looking into it, I don't think it's a rare "fantasy" to watch porn while imagining that she's a secret nympho who really gets off on it all, and then her sincere arousal and inability to hide it would once again be intimate and out of place within the relatively sterile and professional context of a porn shoot.

Quality kinks all the way!
And yes. It is a bit of an intuitive thing for me but trying to explain it, it would be somewhat like someone revealing a generally hidden part of life to you already is loaded because of the generally felt secrecy. Whereas in many other situations you being an observer is very much neutral - until that person isn't aware of you anymore.

Yeah I think it's an interesting fetish psychologically, more interesting than exhibitionism, but I might be biased because I never quite got that appeal personally. It is surprisingly nice that my line of reasoning makes sense to someone else.

>>17654082
Pretty much this. The only way to combat it is to make it clear to him you will give him a blowjob whenever he wants no strings. As in he can walk over to you with an erection and you will go straight to work. At least that is what made me stop watching porn with my GF.

Some times you just need some alone time with your dick, but porn really is junk food that rots your brain and your ability to enjoy real contact with someone else. Porn is straight up addiction. There are a million guys out there that literally watch porn just for the sake of watching porn.

Something for a woman to remember is that in a lost of cases, and in nearly all cases where addiction is a factor, the porn watching isn't due to how he feels about other women or about you, it's about how he feels about himself. Pron doesn't just make women feel insecure, it makes men feel insecure too.

>>17654110
>more interesting than exhibitionism, but I might be biased because I never quite got that appeal personally.
Heh, since I understand your perspective on the voyeurism, I can see this as the difference in our perspectives. One that I suppose I've arrived at thru an appreciation of exhibitionism, which in turn is why I see voyeurism in a more direct manner.

An appreciation mostly arrested in my enjoyment in giving a girl a wild ride. The danger aspect is also appealing, I can't deny.

You're seeing voyeurism in a much more vestigial and effete manner than I, which is perfectly fine and entirely amusing for me to review. You're a fine interlocutor, anon.

> It is surprisingly nice that my line of reasoning makes sense to someone else.
y-you too! And by how mad you got at me initially, I've been pleasantly surprised myself.

>>17654258
I can envision getting off on the thrill of potentially being caught, but what about full on hoping to get caught or to expose yourselves to others? Can you put into words what the psychology behind that is or is that not your cup of tea either?

To me it's rather that "direct" voyeurism is a powerful expression of something that is present in many different forms. The most powerful one is the most striking and fascinating, but the others draw me in exactly because they are elusive... and it's just fun to see something you enjoy in a more mundane form appear in real life.
Do you not care for these things at all or do they hold a lesser appeal to you? (A common example would be studying someone with an emotional or out of place expression on their face, and them meeting your gaze and looking flustered and caught red handed.)

>how mad
Not sure what you're referring to, I butted in with >>17653930

>>17654283
>get caught or to expose yourself to others? Can you put into words what the psychology behind that
Getting caught isn't my cup of tea, but I do enjoy attention-- I'm one of those people who's most comfortable in a group when I'm giving a presentation f.ex. Public speaking, I /like/ doing it, though I also understand why public speaking can horrify some people to the point of crippling them psychologically.

At the same time, I'm much more insecure than virtually anyone who knows me knows. The type of shy that refuses the be known as shy--as I don't find comfort in leaning on others, but if anyone wants to lean on me, that's fine. And per the public speaking thing, I need to remind myself that my words aren't worthless, that some will surely find amusement in them in one form or another.

I'm trying to paw into this-- as like you said, bringing words to these things is quite tricky!

Now, I don't like getting caught-- the danger itself, rather irrationally, /does/ appeal to me.

For someone who does wish to be caught-- I'd suppose there are levels of 'catching' one could experience like anything else. I'm not sure I even could hope to understand someone who desired to be caught by the police, cuffed, arranged for trial and convicted.

As ugh-- seriously? I enjoy that my criminal record is non existent, not even traffic violations. Another level, yes-- I can easily imagine a girl walking in front of a floor to ceiling window and wanting to be seen, imagining someone in the distance is watching her. That sort of thing.

> fun to see something you enjoy in a more mundane form appear
That's an interesting illustration, I'm further convinced your perspective is much more vestigial than mine. Cool shit bro, but hmm, that momentary insight into another that they didn't intend... I can see I'd find that cute, but mapping it to sexuality is difficult for me.

> Not sure what you're referring to,
Whops, I was confuse!

I weep when I see threads like this.

OP, you don't deserve a guy who needs porn.

I say 'need' because your boyfriend needs it. The fact that you know about it and the fact that he knows you know he watches it and can continue like it's nothing is sad.

The fact that you think you're an idiot for the way you're thinking makes me weep.

The fact that all of the advice in this thread is taking the side of your boyfriend makes me want to hurl.

The fact that you're willing to put up with this behaviour is even more deplorable.

Sometimes, I'm not sure if the people who make these threads are the victims or just as guilty as their counterparts.

OP, I'd encourage you to read stories, watch interviews of women in marriages who thought this meant nothing to their marriage only to find their marriage in shambles.

If your boyfriend loves you, he wouldn't need to be aroused by women on a screen.

If you're boyfriend loves you, you'll tell him that his viewing of porn disturbs you and is putting a strain on the relationship. If he can stop viewing porn (which by the sound of it, he's bound by the ankles) he loves you.

What will you're boyfriend say and do if you tell him to stop watching porn?

You'll know what kind of man he really is based on his response.

>>17653523
Maybe his fetish is for an uptight girl who has to be convinced? ;)

I'm gonna be honest, your man is gonna get sick of you if you make him quit porn. He will get bored and you will end up nagging him like you're his mother.

You already sound pretty controlling. If things arent done your way you're mad. If you want the relationship to last, get over your insecurities.

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>>17654714
>The fact that all of the advice in this thread is taking the side of your boyfriend makes me want to hurl.

You didn't read the thread. Do so. Amid it you'll see anon and I having a delightful repartee comparing our different ideas which really had nothing to do with the thread topic at all.

Besides that delightful anon, there's many other thoughtful posters in this thread.

And you decided to insult them all.

How quaint.

And amid this, you deliver a painfully insipid argument declaring YOUR JUDGEMENT exceeds OP, and she is not a GROWN woman who has a right to make her own choices.

I would no sooner allow you to choose for her than I would a fucking Muslim intent on dwelling in the 15th century in 2016.

You disgusting swine, who the fuck are you to dictate social rules to women you don't even fucking know?

What if OP LIKES being frustrated by her boyfriend's use of porn? What if this thread was all a game to her, mmm?

You need to project your disgusting perspective onto her, limiting what she's 'allowed' to do. Dictating what is 'right' and 'wrong'.

Fuck that and fuck you. If your goal was to make someone mad-- good job, you done that.

Here, take this drawing of a ladybug as payment, I value it at $9.83

>Is it normal that I don't want my boyfriend to jerk off to other women (watch porn)?

I think it's normal, though I might be inclined to say that it's normal if you're insecure. I don't mean this as a criticism, but if you read the next part of my post it will, hopefully, link together.

>We live together and I *really* love sex and he can have it whenever, so that shouldn't be an issue.

Having sex =/= masturbation

You see, humans are a bit like this. We could have access to all the sex we want, but need/want masturbation. Why should I masturbate when I live with my girlfriend? Well, masturbation isn't sex, it allows you time to be free and be alone, and without exaggerating, it's normally good part of one's identity. It's also stress releasing.

Now, when making love to a woman, I can't really forget that she's there. She's the raison d'etre, if you will. This is why you have such issues as performance anxiety, "why can I masturbate but can't fuck?". At the extreme end of what I'm trying to say is, that this is about fantasy and is quite removed from reality.

>>17654875
Probably the best post in the thread.
but yes, masturbation's a normal part of life.

>>17653493
they jerk off to porn if they feel like youre getting uglier by the month. sorry youre not just good enough for him. but if youre restrain him he will get even more mad.

>>17653517
>this whole video

Fuck, he just articulated past experiences I've had so well. The bit about women manipulating men by triggering their protective instincts was so fucking real.

>>17653493
>We live together and I *really* love sex and he can have it whenever, so that shouldn't be an issue.

See I don't really believe this.

Are you 100% sure that whenever he wants to it is both convenient for him and you are willing?

What if he's a night person but has to get up at 4 for work? This is obviously outside yor control but is something to consider

>>17653493
>and he can have it whenever, so that shouldn't be an issue.
Weird phrasing.
Is sex with your bf a chore for you? Something you are just supposed to do instead of you wanting to do it?

Niggas love to taste it. Esp in their imagination.

>>17656133
I mean, you should let him know how you feel about sex. Those feelings are probably normal.

What if it was bukkake porn with hot white chicks that are into it? Would it make you fap also?

Thats what you need to do, a dual bukkake fap

>>17653493
Is it normal you don't want your boyfriend to look at other women?
Yes
That said, he isn't actually fucking them, he will never contact them in his lifetime.
I am married, I still watch porn from time to time, sometimes the wife isn't in the mood, I find a decent blowjob video and get off to it, the wife doesn't mind, I'm not going elsewhere.

If he is late to seeing you because he is watching porn, or if he would rather watch porn than fuck you, you have an issue.
Otherwise just let him watch porn when you aren't about.

We know what we like, we can get ourselves off quickly, that's all we want when we wank.
Wanking to porn is the equivalent to getting a McDonald's when you are hungry, we know it is shit quality, but it is quick and it gets the job done.

>>17653831
I wouldn't be so jealous about it. It's not like he's cheating on you. It's just something that helps him get him off. Some people like to be alone to please themselves rather than to have their partner aid them.

the only time i fapped to porn when in a relationship was when she denied sex
i fap regardless but to memories or to fantasies

>>17653561

>watches porn with girls only

tfw you realize noone else caught this, and you're the only les-bro in the thread.
But then!

>which kinda annoyed me at first

Oh? And how about later?
Any interesting F/F thoughts you'd like to share with us?
(You know - so you can help you please your bf - talk things through, so to speak ...)

>>17653614
Actually the brain can't distinguish between media and reality when it comes to associations and neurotransmitters firing. A picture of tits makes your brain react like it's seeing tits.


Op you are normal. He is taking sexual energy that should be going to you and using it elsewhere. It effects how long he lasts and how turned on you make him.

>>17653493
The truth is that the majority of people have a porn addiction.

No you shouldn't feel guilty, and it's gonna be better for the both of you.

Quite frankly, as others have said in this thread, sometimes sex is too much of an effort. I want to have a quick, down to business, fast go at it, with no worries about someone else's feelings, pleasure, our mutual cleanliness, etc. It's a little selfish, I guess, but it's just that simple.

My white girlfriend with no ass saw my search history for twerking one time.

Now she's passive aggressive anytime there's a black woman around.

I was jerking off to chubby white teens twerking, though.

>>17653493
It's not a matter of "normal", it's a matter of how you feel. Definitely something you two need to talk about though.

I would say it's nothing to really worry about, porn is just an outlet. If you like maybe see what he's into and try offering it to him.

OP you are a hypocrite.

You use a vibrator to masturbate don't you ??? Well we use porn to stimulate ourselves.

*mindblow*

>>17653493


You apply nailpolish once a week, but youre not gonna go with red nailpolish every week. Just think about that when your boyfriend jacks it to pixels of another person.

Be lucky he's not cheating on you.

>>17657388
The ideology that fantasizing is wrong is fucking ridiculous

>>17653493


Living together has changed the dynamic of your relationship. It's understandable you DON'T want him to jack it when you are a willing partner, after there's NOTHING wrong with you but the thrill and adrenaline behind the sexual motivation may have decrease due to your living arrangement. As our partners open up to us emotionally and our friends, family, good and bad times are revealed lots of the 'thrill' of sex can dissipate. Its a combo of boredom and overstimulation (excessive nudity, porn etc these days).
Living togeether hasn't ruined anything by any means, i just reckon thats whats up in this case. If you make a move and he isnt keen, try the reverse (push pull theory ) and act aloof. Or you could talk to him.
good luck

>>17653517
This video is good, too bad 99% of men are attracted to these women which are the majority.

I hate to say this and sound like a bitter virgin. But truly nice girls rarely get attention.

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>>17653549
If only I understood this when I started my first relationship.

>>17653493
Sex is a three course meal, sometimes all I want is McDonald's.

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>>17653523
This is a troll, niggas.