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I'm scared of dating because I'm scared of commitment. Like, it's honestly pretty likely that you're going to break up with your first girlfriend at some point, and that thought depresses me/makes it feel like it's not worth the trouble to date someone, so I always sort of lose interest in forming relationships. Help?
I don't think I articulated this very well.
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>>17648333
>Help?
Nothing you do in life will last forever. Everything will come to end some day. The possibility of failing at something is a piss poor excuse not to try.
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>>17648333
Your not scared of commitment you're scared of rejection.
You long for commitment but the idea that your commitment might be rejected frightens you.
You need to decide if being alone makes you more happy than the possibility of being rejected.
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>>17648375
>you're not scared of commitment, you're scared of rejection
I can vouch for this not being true. O.P definitely has intimacy issues, but not of the type you're interpreting. I can say this because I suffer from a very similar pessimism towards relationships, and I know it's not fear of rejection, because I'm the majority of cases I knew I wouldn't have been rejected
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>>17648333
It's not about the destination, but the journey. Try to enjoy the experience, the results should stay in the future.
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>>17648333
NEWS FLASH: Some of the people you meet today aren't going to be around tomorrow. That is no reason not to enjoy their company today - if anything, it's more reason to enjoy their company while you have them around.
Apply that thought to girlfriends.
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>>17648333
Even a failed relationship is a good thing.
It gives you more experience and a deeper understanding of your needs in a relationship. It gives you nice memories.
It is still worth it.
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>>17648333
So, don't date. Fuck labels. Have relationships with people, have sex with people, but just reject the bullshit that goes along with all that dating claptrap and appreciate what you have with people when it's there. Then, if you don't want to hang out with them anymore, it's not breaking up. This is the future, man. Live your best life.
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>>17648333
As long as you both know what you're getting into it'll pan out. Also nothing lasts forever, don't be such a greedy cunt
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I'm married and it still feel like that
She wants to have kids and I'm so scared knowing that I will not be able to divorce whatever happens then
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