I'm supposed to go to my first party ever tomorrow and I

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>>17646331
>I didn't sleep more than 3 hours in 3 days
Well this is definitely a problem. Even if you're the most social butterfly on the planet you're not going to feel good enough to socialize if you're that sleep deprived.

You should probably not go to this because you're going to be a zombie from having not slept very much. Just explain that to your friends later and that you'd like to go to the next party and they'll be cool with it. They're likely to have another party down the road.


It's completely natural to be nervous about meeting somebody for the first time. I say this so you don't interpret that part as crippling social anxiety. And it's totally natural for them to be nervous about meeting new people too so don't take any distance from them initially as a bad sign. They've just met you.

Uh don't really obsess over the topic you want to talk about. Just the fact that you're talking to them about anything will be a good first step no matter what it is. They'll be glad you're at least trying with them. As you get more comfortable talking to them in general you'll begin to feel more comfortable to talk about more deep meaningful things with them. Don't worry about freezing up and running out of things to say. Even for somebody with ridiculous social anxiety like me that isn't an issue when I actually get around to conversing with them. Really you'll find it easy to keep chaining the conversation into other thing and finding more talking points the more you go along in the conversation.


Can't really get much better at dancing in one night so i'd say probably no.
Drink enough to where you're more social and fun to be around, don't drink too much and get messed up. Not a good idea for you to be messed up like that especially around other drunk people.

Try to approach a group. The feeling of being accepted into the conversation by all of them will make you feel more confident in being accepted by people there.

>>17646352
>You should probably not go to this
I feel the same way. But at the same time I fear if I'm not doing this now, it'll be the same thing next time it happens, IF I ever get invited to something ever again.

>Try to approach a group.
How do I do this? Do I just stand close and then chime in on a conversation they have? Or do I just walk in and introduce myself?

Thank you for the advice so far!

>>17646331

>what do I do?

talk to the person who invited you first, they probably know more people and you can introduce yourself without going in raw and awkward.

>learn to dance?

no. don't even bother. nobody cares about dancing unless you live in latin america or some shit.

>how much am I supposed to drink?

I dunno anon, how much do you drink normally (if at all)?

>what time?

always hazard to show up late, 10.30 - 11.00 in my experience anyway.

>when's the right time to leave?

whenever the hell you want, you don't have to excuse yourself or make a deal out of it, just leave when you think you've had enough. irish goodbyes are the best goodbyes.


>personal tips

I'm a grown adult and I still retreat to the bathroom for extended periods when I think I need a break from the madness.

Don't force yourself to talk to plebs, you have the freedom to talk to anyone you want. Do you like games/animes/whatever? Chances are if it's a big enough party you'll find someone who's into that too, no matter how 'normie' it seems.

Don't get too wasted. Drunk people can't really tell if you're sober but you'll get yourself into trouble if you're all fucked up.

>>17646738
Thanks.
I'll drink enough to get comfortable, but not so much that I'll be fully drunk.

Why is showing up late to a party hazard? I'm aiming for the time you suggested, but I'm curious.