How do I stop painfully cringing at old random memories all the

That's why you never look back. Learn from your mistakes, but don't dwell on them. Put more of that energy into planning your future

Just let it go anon. Stop and think for a second about why you get that cringe feeling. You are embarrassed about these memories and also embarrassed about how others will think of you. Self esteem and confidence are the keys to having a good life and they create paths for a happy life. Do you think Elon Musk thinks about every mistake he's made? No, he learns from mistakes and moves on. This type of personality is sexy to women also so that's another reason to just let your mistakes go and laugh at them when they come up. Women see that as a strong attribute.

>>17634442
>you need self-esteem and confidence
does telling people this actually work

>>17634383
idk but I'm 40 and I still have this, if you ever figure it out let me know

>>17634383
I still do this, although less frequently. Someone told me its our brains way of learning from mistakes

>>17634548
Yes, I feel it sets them in the general direction. Obviously it doesn't solve their problems immediately, but then again, advice that simple and direct wouldn't really fit on a board like this.

>>17634442
>This type of personality is sexy to women also so
OP didn't even mention this, and for all we know, they could be a woman as well (or homosexual male). I think its dangerous to seek self improvement just to get laid, because then it becomes a means to an end rather than an intrinsic goal.


OP understand that yes, this is your brain thinking it can improve your life by being overly critical of yourself. The more compassion and understanding you can give yourself in times of trial (anxiety/depression), the easier it will be to move into a less critical mindset.

>>17634548
Keep repeating it enough and people believe it.
People start believing it, and in this case it becomes true.
Confidence engenders success engenders more confidence.

>>17634383
Eh I've heard you just have to recognize the negative thought spiral and interrupt it. Something about cognitive behavioral therapy.
It's pointless to dwell after a point- only serving as a way to make yourself cringe.
So once you recognize the cringe starting, take a breath, identify those useless thoughts as useless, and refuse to spend any of your time and energy thinking about them.
Or rather: listen to it, appreciate that 'yes, this is a thought I'm having', and then discard it, throw it away, let it go, tuck it neatly back in its folder, let it wash over & past, whichever way of thinking works for you.
Thoughts are always transient, their lifespan determined by you.

>>17634395
Was thinking this sentence while the thread loaded.

Fucking this